What do you think about egg donation?

Katrina_kapoor · Nov 8, 2005

Well I'm also willing to donate my eggs for any needy woman, I'm a very healthy athletic mid 30s lady and am from England. Anyone interested and genuine will get my services absolutely free, but it's for a noble cause only and absolutely no money talk in this deal ok. Thanks for reading my message.

KatKap

ZASHAGALKA, RN · Nov 8, 2005

There are so many already fertilized eggs out there sitting in cold storage that could be used by someone that wants to get pregnant.

Egg donation isn't about bringing new babies into the world - it's about controlling who is the dad.

I'm not a woman, but donating an egg is an invasive procedure - I don't think it would be worth it unless it was for a close family member.

Couples that truly want to get pregnant can do so without egg donations - and I personally think that is the better route. If the woman of that couple can't provide the egg, then allowing the male the opportunity to do so is somewhat selfish if you ask me. And to ask someone to have a surgical procedure just to be able to claim that a child is 'biologically' mine - well that's very selfish.

(Mind you, I have 'biological' children AND an adopted child. From my standpoint, I can't tell a difference in either the amount of love I put into the process, or the amount of work.)

~faith,

Timothy.

fergus51 · Nov 8, 2005

I would donate eggs in a second and don't see anything wrong with couples choosing that avenue to have kids. I doubt that it is easy to get embryos donated to you. I have a friend who gave birth thanks to egg donation and although it was quite costly to her, she has no regrets (and 2 beautiful kids!).

Marie_LPN, RN, LPN, RN · Nov 8, 2005

I won't do it (if i even can). I'd wind up constantly wondering whatever happened to them.

Stitchie · Nov 8, 2005

Egg donation is not about controlling the bio-father. It is about pregnancy and childbirth, then raising this child or children.

I have gone thru the entire infertility gamut trying to start a family, including receiving 'donated' eggs. It almost worked, too. I miscarried twins at 10 weeks. That was my last experience with the infertility professionals.

I have two adopted children. I will never know what it is like to give birth, and when my husband and I tell our daughters how they came to be ours, we must do so without making them feel as if they were a second choice. If you give birth to a child, you will never have to consider that.

I wish there were more embryos available for true donation. I would do so in a heartbeat. I know that my closest friend and her husband would make great parents, but they cannot afford the high cost of donation.

If egg donation is done truly compassionately, with no consideration of monetary exchange, it is a wonderful thing. Far too many young women are considering donation because they think that they can get a $25,000.00 payday for a few month's work. Far too many people are considering paying that much for donations because they can. These donations cost about the same cost as an international adoption.

Mirai Kangofu · Nov 8, 2005

I considered giving my aunt some of my eggs, but I decided against it b/c it would be too wierd.

mstigerlily · Nov 9, 2005

There are so many already fertilized eggs out there sitting in cold storage that could be used by someone that wants to get pregnant.
Egg donation isn't about bringing new babies into the world - it's about controlling who is the dad.
~faith,
Timothy.

I agree with a lot of what you said except for your paragraph about controlling who is the dad. That made no sense to me.

I am not excited about the whole fertility thing to begin with. I guess Clomid and IVF are sometimes necessary to help infertile couples but the waters begin to muddy with surrogates, egg donation, sperm donation, etc. We have a lot of older moms at our hospital who are giving birth for the first time at 40, 45 even 50. A few months back we had a 75 yr old first time father (his sperm) and a 60 something first time mom (used a surrogate's womb and egg). This woman's hand was shaking as if with Parkinson's when she was feeding these lively boy twins and I couldn't help thinking what a shame that was. I think there is a reason women go through menopause at a certain age.

TweetiePieRN · Nov 9, 2005

If a woman gets pregnant using donated eggs...does insurance cover the procedure? I personally would not donate or receive. We had a tough time conceiving, but were able to do so naturally using an ovulation predictor kit. Our next step would have been adoption. We just figured that there are a lot of unwanted little ones that we would love to have as our child.

I once had a patient brought to my care at the hospital after having complications from egg donation. I cannot remember all the specifics, but I remember she had SEVERE ascites and was in extreme pain. It was bizarre! Her vitals were out of whack too.

Sperm donation, egg donation etc. Has anyone ever thought that maybe one day a brother and sister may marry and have chidren simply because they do not know who their bio parent is? That concept always freaked me out a bit.

TweetiePieRN · Nov 9, 2005

I agree with a lot of what you said except for your paragraph about controlling who is the dad. That made no sense to me.
I am not excited about the whole fertility thing to begin with. I guess Clomid and IVF are sometimes necessary to help infertile couples but the waters begin to muddy with surrogates, egg donation, sperm donation, etc. We have a lot of older moms at our hospital who are giving birth for the first time at 40, 45 even 50. A few months back we had a 75 yr old first time father (his sperm) and a 60 something first time mom (used a surrogate's womb and egg). This woman's hand was shaking as if with Parkinson's when she was feeding these lively boy twins and I couldn't help thinking what a shame that was. I think there is a reason women go through menopause at a certain age.

WHOAH! 60 something first time mom! I guess I can't complain when taking care of my baby exhausts me!

fergus51 · Nov 9, 2005

Has anyone ever thought that maybe one day a brother and sister may marry and have chidren simply because they do not know who their bio parent is? That concept always freaked me out a bit.

This is the same thing people have said to me again and again because I'm adopted. What if you marry your brother? The odds of that happening are slim to none (I actually know my bio family anyways). Really, I think that idea is a little naive because it assumes that people raised by their natural parents don't have any unknown siblings or other relatives out there. I have worked OB long enough to know that a lot of dads aren't really the dads and a lot of moms are having babies by the same dad without even knowing it. These aren't the type of people that you would picture on Jerry Springer either.

Insurance doesn't pay for egg donation. It's pretty costly for the family, but if it's the only way for them to have children some people are willing to pay it. I am all for adoption, but I think it's pretty simplistic to tell someone to just adopt. Nowadays there aren't a lot of babies available. Couple that with the cost and the risks and a lot of people don't want to adopt.

JUSTYSMOM · Nov 9, 2005

There are so many already fertilized eggs out there sitting in cold storage that could be used by someone that wants to get pregnant.
Egg donation isn't about bringing new babies into the world - it's about controlling who is the dad.
I'm not a woman, but donating an egg is an invasive procedure - I don't think it would be worth it unless it was for a close family member.
Couples that truly want to get pregnant can do so without egg donations - and I personally think that is the better route. If the woman of that couple can't provide the egg, then allowing the male the opportunity to do so is somewhat selfish if you ask me. And to ask someone to have a surgical procedure just to be able to claim that a child is 'biologically' mine - well that's very selfish.
(Mind you, I have 'biological' children AND an adopted child. From my standpoint, I can't tell a difference in either the amount of love I put into the process, or the amount of work.)
~faith,
Timothy.

I can't begin to tell you how incensed I am over your post. :angryfire

I would like to know where you are getting all of your information from. Please tell me the last time you were a patient at an infertility clinic??

I have personally been through hell and back to become a mom. I would have been one of those women who would have gratefully used donor eggs. However, during my third and last IVF try, I was blessed with my miracle son. He was only one of my 2 embryo's that "took".

I know quite a few couples who have gone the "donor egg" route. I also know quite a few women who were egg donors. Not everybody that donates does it for altruistic purposes. There is money to be made in donating eggs. In fact, it's a HUGE market.

Regardless of the intent of the donors, they provide infertile couples a chance to have create their own family. The success rate is close to 70% (as opposed to embryo donor which is more like 15-20%)

As far as your comment "Couples that truly want to get pregnant can do so without egg donations - and I personally think that is the better route"

How do you suppose that would happen? If a woman doesn't produce her own eggs, or has diseased ovaries etc, how will she get pregnant? Are you talking about embryo adoption/ donation? If it was that easy, why isn't everybody doing that?

When my husband & wanted to expand our family, we tried IVf again. Why? Because we wanted to. When that failed, we turned to domestic adoption. We were one of the lucky ones. We were blessed with our newborn baby girl within two months.

Boy am I glad my ivf cycle failed. What a blessing in disguise! I am grateful for all of the pain we went through. We were meant to become her parents.

We know for a fact that couples usually wait for years and years to adopt a healthy newborn. But then again- aren't there so many babies out there who need a home? Why don't people "just" adopt?

I could go on and on. I just think your post was a bit insentive and naive. As an adoptive parent, I would have thought you would be much more sensitive to those who are waiting to become parents.

Regards,

Jules