After my recent (and current) status of being a patient, I've come to realize some things well meaning people say to the suffering. My problem was a serious, but not life threatening accident and surgical repair, but I'll bet this applies to other problems.
1) Do not say "It could have been so much worse!"
Yes, I realize that, duh. All I've done that past 3 months is relive that accident in its gory detail (PTSD anyone?) It's no comfort to me to have you point that out, in fact it feels dismissive of the very real suffering I'm experiencing.
2) Don't start telling me about your terrible sprained ankle if I'm in a full body cast!
I don't want to hear about your bronchitis that won't go away if I'm in the hospital for pneumonia. In my case, I AM interested in people's past experiences with rehabing from serious injuries, those are encouraging and inspiring. But spare me the details of your painful hangnail.
3) Don't discourage me from taking my prescribed pain meds.
Not helpful, don't make me feel guilty, I'm not a drug seeker, ok?
4) Do not tease me about my accident and resulting disability.
I know we have friendly teasing sometimes, but this is off limits.
5) If you offer to help, follow through.
So, you said "If there's anything I can do to help, let me know!" then the first time I ask you ignore my text? That is annoying.