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I feel the pain of returning to school with husband and kids. I went back a few years ago to get my BSN. My husband was a pain!! I was working full time nights, had 2 kids 10 and 13, and became pregnant (not unplanned). He was so unsupportive, did not see the point of getting a BSN, wouldnt get me any more $$, and there was nothing in it for him. Well I wanted it for me. I found I had to leave the house - go to the library to get anything done. My classes were online so he assumed I was playing on the computer, and as yours did he would turn the lights off on me in the middle of something because he wanted to go to bed. Many fights later I completed my degree. You need a strong will, and honestly some of my friends/coworkers were huge supporters to me. In my last semester I gave birth to a premature - 26 weeker 1 1/2 lb. baby. He was supposed to be born AFTER I graduated, not in November while I am supposed to grad. in December. I was so damn close, I had some great instructors, baby got really sick, then gradually got better and I crammed a monthes worth of work into about 6 days and graduated in December, as planned. Didnt attend but got the degree just the same. Thats my success story. Now I am headed back to school for my Masters. Good luck to you. There is some truth to the "what doesnt kill us makes us stronger"!!

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These have all been great suggestions. I need to take the bedroom one into hand and move the TV out. I feel like we don't even need a living room the way we live.

I looked up FlyLady and I think I should give it a try! I'm horrible with keeping a routine for house work, maybe this will get me going.

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These have all been great suggestions. I need to take the bedroom one into hand and move the TV out. I feel like we don't even need a living room the way we live.

I looked up FlyLady and I think I should give it a try! I'm horrible with keeping a routine for house work, maybe this will get me going.

I have to tell ya I like a clean organized house but Fly lady was WAY too much pressure for me, take the suggestions but the emails everyday yazoa I felt terrible not being able to keep to her schedule LOL.

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OMG I laughed so hard at the vision of you marching in and giving him the wedgie of his life... It sounds like you are quite burdened down. I work full time and did my prereqs at night and I don't even want to think about how my house looked some days. I was the only one doing laundry and cleaning up. Weekends usually meant seven loads of laundry to clean, fold and put away with vacuuming and cleaning done in between. If there was a test I didn't clean I just did laundry and studied. I had to acknowledge that sometimes the dishes sat in the sink a little long and the house didn't get vacuumed weekly. Luckily my son is older and did not require (or desire) a lot of attention from Mommy. My husband was also working the schedule from he**. Needless to say that cleaning took a back seat. (I still haven't filed everything from 2006 and we ate out far more than we should have). I did get through it and it required some serious organization and school was a priority (after son and husband of course). Hang in there! It seemed like it took forever to get through the prereqs but I am finally going to start Nursing School in September.

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livinglighthouse has 8 years experience as a ADN, RN and specializes in Palliative care, care coordination.

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My situation is slightly different in that I have 3 older children, but I can certainly relate to your dilemna.

The ONE biggest thing I did that made a difference is making a list for my husband of what was important to me. I kept the list short.....but put on there the 2-3 things each day that HAD to be done in order for me not to go off the deep end and stop screaming at someone.

For me it was coming home to a clean kitchen...........dirty dishes on the counter drive me insane. So, either he does, or he makes sure the kids do the dishes before I get home. The other thing is that everyone here does their own laundry right now......including my husband. Now I'm only responsible for MINE and I can do it when its convenient for ME.......not someone else.

I also had to seriously relax my standards (not that they were very high to start with)........laundry being clean is enough for me.........folded is a bonus these days. The bathroom getting cleaned less often (I won't tell you how infrequent lest you call the authorities on me) is something I've come to grips with as just a temporary arrangement.

It won't last forever........once you are an RN you can afford a house cleaner (which I do splurge on every month or two to do the big stuff) It is the best $50 I can spend not to mop floors, clean baseboards and get my bathrooms thoroughly cleaned.......it may mean going out to eat one less time a month, but SOOOOOOOOO worth it.

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fronkey bean has 13 years experience and specializes in Cardiac Care, ICU.

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I feel your pain! Similar thing happened to me but not quite as bad. Using disposable stuff and agreeing w/ my husband about who would do what chores helped alot! Another thing that helped me was to find a late night diner and take my books and go have a cup of coffee and study. It kept me from getting distracted by the things I needed to clean or my 4 y/o (or the 39 y/o :} ).

funny p.s., hubby is now stay home dad and does most of the house work. All those things I used to stress about and he couldn't understand why I would get so upset (like him messing up the room I just cleaned), now he gets upset about them. lol:lol2: :lol2:

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aerorunner80 has 8 years experience and specializes in NICU.

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Your life sounds a lot like mine minus the child. I look in my kitchen right now and see that the counter is COVERED in dirty dishes, the floor needs swept, my carpet needs vacuumed, there are dirty clothes all over the house (although I am doing laundry right now) and what does the DH (not dear in this case) do when he gets home from work? Sits outside and waters the lawn while I'm inside studying my butt off and trying to figure out what to make for dinner at the same time. I work on top of going to school 2-3 days a week in a hospital (12 hr shifts so part time and sometimes full time) and I told him that I will need all the help I can get. I was sick this past week and he did nothing to help me out!:trout: :angryfire :nono:

I will have yet another talk with him about how I need his help. When I approach him with stuff like this, I point out how when the house is clean, it makes for a better study place for me, reduces stress for both of us, and makes cooking and chores around the house that much easier when we keep up with them. It goes in waves just like everything else.

Good luck and let him know how much help you need and when he helps you, acknowledge him. Yes, he shouldn't have to be treated like a child but sometimes if men grew up in homes where their Mom did everything for them (like my husbands) they need that reinforcement. It does get easier with time.

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update: things have improved CONSIDERABLY! when the dh and i finally talked about things, the vision of me "treating him to the wedgey of his life" faded away :-). i also found my rhythm between being a wife & mom, and being a student again. to top it off, after 2 psych exams and a doozy of chemistry exam, i'm happy to say i've got As in both classes. my psych class ends next week, so that's one more pre-req off my list! thank you all for your input and for sharing your "issues" as well. there's hope afterall :-)...

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fronkey bean has 13 years experience and specializes in Cardiac Care, ICU.

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update: things have improved CONSIDERABLY! when the dh and i finally talked about things, the vision of me "treating him to the wedgey of his life" faded away :-). i also found my rhythm between being a wife & mom, and being a student again. to top it off, after 2 psych exams and a doozy of chemistry exam, i'm happy to say i've got As in both classes. my psych class ends next week, so that's one more pre-req off my list! thank you all for your input and for sharing your "issues" as well. there's hope afterall :-)...

You might want to keep the vision of the wedgey in mind for those days when you need a good laugh!:rotfl:

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