so, today is the second day of summer school. i'm taking a 5-wk lifespan psych course, and a 10-wk chem course. although i've taken random classes here and there for the last several years @ the local CC, my grades never meant much -- although i always got As and Bs. i have an undergraduate degree and i was basically taking classes that i just wanted to take for the fun of it (e.g., dance, music, acting, tennis, etc...) but, i'm now focused on completing my pre-reqs to begin applying to nursing schools in the next few months, so i'm buckling down hard.
my husb. KNOWS how important it is for me to get A's in these pre-reqs. heck, when we were undergrads together 15 years ago, it was important for me to do well. but now we have a 4 1/2 yr. old son on top of it. my husband works full-time, and generally gets home around 6:30ish each night. so, the "burden" (for a lack of a better word) lies on me to pick up our son from school and entertain/engage him as i get dinner ready, etc... but something's got to change!
it's 10pm where i am. both of them are sleep. the kitchen is a mess. the family room is a mess. i got "booted" from the bedroom where i was studying because i left for TWO MINUTES to look up a conversion on the internet in another room. my husband moved my books, turned off the light and eased his way into the bed. so i'm now in the family room which has two days of laundry that I WASHED AND FOLDED sprawled across a sofa. (can't he just put the clothes away???) can't work on the dining room table -- it has a trainset that he so brilliantly thought to set up there. i walked into the kitchen and he has an open package of cookies on the stove, pots and pans from the dinner i threw together, and all the dinner dishes stacked up in the sink. (can he just load the freakin' dishwasher???) again, IT'S A MESS IN HERE!!!! and it's only MY SECOND DAY OF SUMMER SCHOOL!!! to top it all off, i've gotta straighten up BEFORE i resume studying. it's hard to focus with a stack of fruit of the loom undies, socks, et al staring in my face!
it's getting late. i'm tired -- and i choose to write to you for comfort :-)! seriously, i still need to read a chapter in my chem. book, and read over tomorrow's lab....
now that i've vented and given you my life's story, i ask: how are you managing your time and household as you finish and excel in your pre-reqs??? i really could use some suggestions. it's clear to me that i need to have a conversation with my sleeping husband, but i'm a little too fired up right now to do it. i might yank him out of the bed by his skivvies and treat him to the wedgie of his life :-) ... so, i'm turning to you -- my community in "pre-nursing" cyberville! i think it's important to get this under control before the REAL work starts in nursing school...
looking forward to your thoughts and suggestions...
so, today is the second day of summer school. i'm taking a 5-wk lifespan psych course, and a 10-wk chem course. although i've taken random classes here and there for the last several years @ the local CC, my grades never meant much -- although i always got As and Bs. i have an undergraduate degree and i was basically taking classes that i just wanted to take for the fun of it (e.g., dance, music, acting, tennis, etc...) but, i'm now focused on completing my pre-reqs to begin applying to nursing schools in the next few months, so i'm buckling down hard.
my husb. KNOWS how important it is for me to get A's in these pre-reqs. heck, when we were undergrads together 15 years ago, it was important for me to do well. but now we have a 4 1/2 yr. old son on top of it. my husband works full-time, and generally gets home around 6:30ish each night. so, the "burden" (for a lack of a better word) lies on me to pick up our son from school and entertain/engage him as i get dinner ready, etc... but something's got to change!
it's 10pm where i am. both of them are sleep. the kitchen is a mess. the family room is a mess. i got "booted" from the bedroom where i was studying because i left for TWO MINUTES to look up a conversion on the internet in another room. my husband moved my books, turned off the light and eased his way into the bed. so i'm now in the family room which has two days of laundry that I WASHED AND FOLDED sprawled across a sofa. (can't he just put the clothes away???) can't work on the dining room table -- it has a trainset that he so brilliantly thought to set up there. i walked into the kitchen and he has an open package of cookies on the stove, pots and pans from the dinner i threw together, and all the dinner dishes stacked up in the sink. (can he just load the freakin' dishwasher???) again, IT'S A MESS IN HERE!!!! and it's only MY SECOND DAY OF SUMMER SCHOOL!!! to top it all off, i've gotta straighten up BEFORE i resume studying. it's hard to focus with a stack of fruit of the loom undies, socks, et al staring in my face!
it's getting late. i'm tired -- and i choose to write to you for comfort :-)! seriously, i still need to read a chapter in my chem. book, and read over tomorrow's lab....
now that i've vented and given you my life's story, i ask: how are you managing your time and household as you finish and excel in your pre-reqs??? i really could use some suggestions. it's clear to me that i need to have a conversation with my sleeping husband, but i'm a little too fired up right now to do it. i might yank him out of the bed by his skivvies and treat him to the wedgie of his life :-) ... so, i'm turning to you -- my community in "pre-nursing" cyberville! i think it's important to get this under control before the REAL work starts in nursing school...
looking forward to your thoughts and suggestions...
ActNowNrsl8r
HUbby needs to help, but if he is getting home at 6:30 every night, he is probably tired as well, so here is what I would do (and currently am doing during the school year), get a ton of paper plates and cups to cut the dishes down to next to nothing, invest in a crock pot and a good recipe book for the crockpot and it will cut the dishes down to nothing. Stock up on freezer dinners that you can just pop into the oven or microwave and cook, salad in a bag etc... for cleaning.... it is just hard to stay on top of things and when and if you are accepted into nursing school it is going to be far worse. Your little one can help by putting away clothes after they are washed and folded. (give specific instructions like "take this pile of clothes and put them in the bottom drawer etc...) I try to keep the living room, kitchen and main bathroom presentable (don't always succeed, but they look better than the rest of the house). At the beginning of each semester before school starts try and get your house sparkling clean so that it is easier to keep up when you don't have the time later on.
I am right there with you!!! I have found that my husband assumes that if I am home, I am ready to assume responsibility for our daughter and taking care of the home. I have learned if I want to get ANY studying done, I have to actually get out of the house so he takes over taking care of her. I can handle doing all now (taking care of my daughter, the house and studying), but when I begin the Nursing classes (hopefully in the Spring), things are going to change drastically and he is going to have to step up, BIG TIME!!! And I remind him of this a lot! They don't really understand what it takes to get it done (but if the roles were reversed, watch out!!).
Definitely talk to him and let him know your frustrations. Communication is very important...you think they should know what is expected, but they don't. I know sometimes I just need to spell it out for him (and sometimes, that doesn't even work!).
Good luck to you and I hope you are able to work something out! I'm thinking of you!!!
update: things have improved CONSIDERABLY! when the dh and i finally talked about things, the vision of me "treating him to the wedgey of his life" faded away :-). i also found my rhythm between being a wife & mom, and being a student again. to top it off, after 2 psych exams and a doozy of chemistry exam, i'm happy to say i've got As in both classes. my psych class ends next week, so that's one more pre-req off my list! thank you all for your input and for sharing your "issues" as well. there's hope afterall :-)...
smk1, LPN
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HUbby needs to help, but if he is getting home at 6:30 every night, he is probably tired as well, so here is what I would do (and currently am doing during the school year), get a ton of paper plates and cups to cut the dishes down to next to nothing, invest in a crock pot and a good recipe book for the crockpot and it will cut the dishes down to nothing. Stock up on freezer dinners that you can just pop into the oven or microwave and cook, salad in a bag etc... for cleaning.... it is just hard to stay on top of things and when and if you are accepted into nursing school it is going to be far worse. Your little one can help by putting away clothes after they are washed and folded. (give specific instructions like "take this pile of clothes and put them in the bottom drawer etc...) I try to keep the living room, kitchen and main bathroom presentable (don't always succeed, but they look better than the rest of the house). At the beginning of each semester before school starts try and get your house sparkling clean so that it is easier to keep up when you don't have the time later on.