I don't know why but that statement makes my jaw clench up everytime I hear it.
I had a patient the other day ask me how I was going to insert a foley since "the head is down there, wont that hurt the baby?" For the love god, people .... come on .. 2 HOLES! SERIOUSLY!
and my favorite of all time ...
"Does that machine beep everytime I dilate?" .. this one left me speechless
Please share your "omg, no she didn't say/ask that" quotes
I hate coming in a room to see the grandmother feeding the baby as much formula as she can stuff in there. Me: "the baby's only 6hours old, why are you feeding him" her: "because my daughter doesn't have any milk yet". :angryfire When I say the word 'colostrum', they nod like they've heard the word before.
Why, dear Lord, don't OBs teach those mothers anything? I just don't get it.
I need a patience supplement.
I can sympathize, but I've actually had nurses speak to me like the grandmother-i.e., you must feed formula or glucose to your perfectly normal, healthy newborn right away. I've had to call my doctor in the middle of the night to get a licensed RN off my back to do just that. That's why I also sympathize with the patient who asks "do you know what you're doing" of a nurse when she comes to start an IV (someone else's post). Unfortunately, there are a lot of people out there who either don't know what they're doing, are incredibly sloppy, or think they know what they're doing but are just forcing unfounded practices on people. I think patients are smart to question everything.
I left the Dynamap in the room for a moment while I went to go get something that the patient had asked for and when I returned, the patient's husband had taken the BP cuff and put it around his neck and was "taking" his blood pressure! When I asked what he was doing, he said he just wanted to see if it would work, and then being the genius that he was, asked why he felt so light-headed? :uhoh21:
The scariest part is that these people have reproduced!
Sorry, but severe pain does not give you the right to use abusive language. I would have said the same thing. And I deal with patients in severe pain and dying frequently. Most of whom do not use the "F" word, despite the fact that they are eaten up by cancer.
And certain uses of the "F" word most certainly are abusive, and a busive language is not acceptable when some is trying to assist you.
I reserve the right to cuss during labor. Not AT the nurse, obviously, but something along the lines of "**** that hurts!" What can I say, I've got a pottymouth. And before anyone claims that this makes me an inarticulate person, I invite you to view some of my writing before jumping to that conclusion. Different forms of language for different situations, is all.
Specializes in postpartum, nursery, high risk L&D.
I reserve the right to cuss during labor. Not AT the nurse, obviously, but something along the lines of "**** that hurts!" What can I say, I've got a pottymouth. And before anyone claims that this makes me an inarticulate person, I invite you to view some of my writing before jumping to that conclusion. Different forms of language for different situations, is all.
I am with you on this. I have an RN that works L&D with me and if I have to hear about her feeling sick or throwing up one more time I might go over the edge! And she is only like 24 weeks or something, it is going to be a long 16 more weeks! You work L&D, it's your second baby, you should know what it is all about! She just makes me crazy, calling in all the time, going home early, "can you go see my pt I just need to sit for a minute?" No I cannot go see YOUR pt, I have two of my own to run between! Sorry for the rant, but it feels good to let it out!
I hear you. I graduate in May 06! I have one sister in law that is 5 months along and the other one 5 weeks along. It doesn't help that a set of cousins from our friends of the families married my brothers. So, needless to say I'm about to go out of my mind. I finally said one day after the relentless, "Did they teach you so and so in nursing school?" Yes, they taught me alot in nursing school! If I hear one more set of labs, or the heart beat rate(it's not high enough to be a girl), or old wise tails I'm going to scream. Thank you for listening! I've said it more than once, "It's going to be a long year!" :)
GYN pt. comes in for surgery, decides to inform the circulator that she has one of THOSE piercings (um, OW). Piercing was to be removed when the pt. got in the room (privacy reasons). Pt. was pretty adamant about leaving it in, until the circulator explained the electrocautery. Then the pt. (angrily) "GUESS"ED she'd take it out. As if she were doing us a favor.
Sadly, not all nurses deserve credit. When I was in labor I uttered the "F" word while in the throes of contractions only to have my wonderful nurse tell me (during the throes of contractions) that she "didnt' appreciate my foul language and would appreciate it if I would cease".
Luckily I had a friend with me who was a nurse too, he told her that if her sensibilities were too delicate to bear hearing the "F" word, perhaps she shouldn't work around people in intense pain. /QUOTE]
Sorry, but severe pain does not give you the right to use abusive language. I would have said the same thing. And I deal with patients in severe pain and dying frequently. Most of whom do not use the "F" word, despite the fact that they are eaten up by cancer.
And certain uses of the "F" word most certainly are abusive, and a busive language is not acceptable when some is trying to assist you.
Actually, severe pain does give me the right to say the F word. I would love to know how saying "F--K" in labor is abusive to the nurse. Despite your assertion that most people in severe pain don't utter the F word, plenty of people do. Pain is an individual response and instead of trying to tell people how they should react to it, it seems the better part of valor to accept that an utterance of a naughty word might be part and parcel of dealing with patients in pain and to just leave it at that. Getting high and mighty when a patient is in pain serves no purpose whatsoever. And if you had been my nurse, you would have been disinvited to return to my care as well, and I'd write a nice little note of complaint about how you thought it was your place to put your need to not hear "naughty words" above my need to express my pain.
Further, it would be a good idea to evaluate the situation before you assume that it is abusive to the nurse. If a patient is in extreme pain and is swearing, that is not abusive. If a patient is in pain and is saying "You F--king B", that is abusive and if it continued after the relief of the extreme pain, you'd be well within your rights to ask the patient to not disrespect you in that way.
You mentioned that MOST of your patients (being eaten up by cancer and dying) don't use the F word. This implies that some do. Do you get high and mighty with your dying cancer ridden patients when they say F--K? If so, how do you imagine that it helps the patient?
I don't understand why any nurse would get so bent out of shape over a patient in labor using a few curse words.
I don't believe in cursing, myself, but I'm not going to get put out over someone else doing it.....that's their problem, their mouth, not mine.
Just let it roll off your your back like water off a duck's back, for pity's sake. It's not a big deal unless it is directed at the nurse personally.
I take care of mentally challenged people, and yes, we had one person who would call everyone a "big fat n****r b***h" and yes she has called ME that when I entered the building where she lived, but good grief, the woman is mentally retarded. CONSIDER THE SOURCE AND IGNORE IT.
Not a big deal, unless directed at the nurse personally. If it becomes personal then I would say the nurse would have an issue with it and should resort to measures to get it stopped.
1. why do some of you get frustrated when patients families' want to be involved? even if they lack the knowledge that you have, understand that being in any medical facility for any type of illness is not easy. how would you feel if you went to a lawyer and asked questions, and was looked as a complete idiot? sure that's not your profession and that's the reason you went to one (lawyer) because you know they can help your situation. that's how pts and their relatives feel. they don't have to know the terminology, and they are not there to please you.
2. some people have different ways of acting (some may act ridiculous), they are different than you yes, but who are you to judge? because you have a degree or have this job you think you have the right to criticize? amazing!i read some of these 'rants' and wow, as professionals you should not put others down. what is this jr. high? maybe that's the reason some of you can't stand things the others do because you both are acting childish.
Sometimes people just need to vent...after playing the game for many years, the questions that are common sense or grossly obvious begin to wear on your patience. I would never let a patient or their loved one know how silly their question sounds or how annoying it is to be asked the same question time after time, but sometimes I just need to blow off some steam to someone who has been there and done that.
I don't think anyone is putting anyone down...most of the people here are just venting about someone's behavior...much better to talk about it to people who understand than people who we are caring for.
1. why do some of you get frustrated when patients families’ want to be involved? even if they lack the knowledge that you have, understand that being in any medical facility for any type of illness is not easy. how would you feel if you went to a lawyer and asked questions, and was looked as a complete idiot? sure that’s not your profession and that's the reason you went to one (lawyer) because you know they can help your situation. that's how pts and their relatives feel. they don’t have to know the terminology, and they are not there to please you.
2. some people have different ways of acting (some may act ridiculous), they are different than you yes, but who are you to judge? because you have a degree or have this job you think you have the right to criticize? amazing!i read some of these ‘rants’ and wow, as professionals you should not put others down. what is this jr. high? maybe that’s the reason some of you can’t stand things the others do because you both are acting childish.
please understand that this is a board for nurses. while the public is more than welcome to hang out here...until you've walked a mile in our shoes, you can't judge us either. we work in a very high-stress environment with a huge amount of responsiblity. sometimes we need a place to come to rant and vent with people who understand what we're going through. no one is perfect. and we have every right to blow off some steam or laugh about something that happened at work. we're doing it anonymously on a nursing message board, not actually in the hospital where patients and their families can hear us.
peds4now, RN
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I can sympathize, but I've actually had nurses speak to me like the grandmother-i.e., you must feed formula or glucose to your perfectly normal, healthy newborn right away. I've had to call my doctor in the middle of the night to get a licensed RN off my back to do just that. That's why I also sympathize with the patient who asks "do you know what you're doing" of a nurse when she comes to start an IV (someone else's post). Unfortunately, there are a lot of people out there who either don't know what they're doing, are incredibly sloppy, or think they know what they're doing but are just forcing unfounded practices on people. I think patients are smart to question everything.