Weird situation in clinical...advice needed!

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My patient from last week is still in the hospital this week. He was assigned to a different student so I was still able to go check up on him and see his progress. He is a retired Catholic priest who has suffered a massive stroke. His brother had driven up from a few states over but had to return home. The patient had been in assisted living for several years until the point of this stroke. Anyway, since last week, this "person" has sort of taken up residence in the room with the priest. At first, it seemed that she was an interested party, just a bit unkempt and not very well-to-do. She is there a lot...almost around the clock. She isn't related to him, and claims to have met him at the nursing home when visiting her mother (who is now deceased). Well, I have no problem with that, but she doesn't seem to be there to try to help him out--she doesn't DO anything for him. She is obese, and apparently lives in her car--but now she is staying in the hospital room. She is eating the crackers and stuff that is kept in the kitchen for patients and their families. She even uses the call light to come have a MA or nurse assist her to stand (she is really obese). She has asked nurses to do her accucheck, and even requested syringes to give herself insulin (which was denied). I think she just has found a person who is unable to speak and decided to act like an interested party so she can have a free ride for a few days. What would you do about this situation--or would you just let it go? We really don't have any way to verify her story of how she met him, and there is no family in the area to contact (Catholic priest=no offspring). Have you ever had a situation like this?

two words

SOCIAL WORK

two more

RIGHT NOW!

kudos to you for bringing this up ... now pass it on to someone who can do something about it , its not your problem ! wow like nurses dont have enough to worry about ...... dont get me wrong , I also feel somewhat sorry for this character but really the priest is your patient, this cannot be good for him ...

I would have thought the staff would have done something about that by now, but good for you or bringing it up and to their attention!

Oh my, I agree with the others:eek:

Specializes in Geriatrics, LTC.

Time to go freeloading sponge lady...no more living off of the poor ailing priest. He has put his time in serving people and now it is time for his rest and recovery...It is no longer about you! Bye bye...cya later...adios!

I would definitely get social services involved. She is only there for the free food and someone to talk to.

This woman's in need of help.I wont even speculate why she is there, never mind pass judgement on her. This behavior however should not be allowed to continue. I think you are a sharp girl for catching on ....

Specializes in Med-Surg.

Ok, update! She got the boot. It took a few days longer than usual for them to catch on to her because there have been some unusual staffing patterns this week (people getting married, someone was sick, etc) so the continuity of care wasn't there. She got the ole heave ho from the priest's room. I don't know if they just sent her away or if they tried to get any help for her. After talking to several people who work there, I found that it isn't a totally uncommon thing to have happen. I feel bad for the woman because she needed help, but at the same time she needs to get help through the proper channels. Thanks for the input from everyone!

Either it's good or bad. Yall sound so quick to punches pilot this person. Maybe the person just wants to scavange food, or is at the bottom of maslow's scale and needs base. Some consideration is given to policy of the place He's at. The bible says "blessed is He who sheppards the weak through the valley of darkness." notify the charge nurse and make a log entry of your objective perceptions and judge not, lest ye be judged. Amen (I'm sorry)

Mario may you remain as kind as caring as you are today. Sincerely, I really mean that.

One of the things you learn as you go along in nursing is that you can't fix everyone's problems. You also have to learn to get the appropriate resources in place as soon as possible.

What you were hearing in this was the need to first care for and protect the patient. Whatever clinical setting you find yourself in, that will always be your primary focus. Next comes the family or significant other. We can't always help them but we can head them toward appropriate resources. Not knowing the woman's relationship, if any, to the patient was the first issue. Once that was determined then decisions had to be made based on that information. But always the patient comes first.

Specializes in LTC,Hospice/palliative care,acute care.
Originally posted by memphispanda

Ok, update! She got the boot. It took a few days longer than usual for them to catch on to her because there have been some unusual staffing patterns this week (people getting married, someone was sick, etc) so the continuity of care wasn't there. She got the ole heave ho from the priest's room. I don't know if they just sent her away or if they tried to get any help for her. After talking to several people who work there, I found that it isn't a totally uncommon thing to have happen. I feel bad for the woman because she needed help, but at the same time she needs to get help through the proper channels. Thanks for the input from everyone!

>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>Oh my LORDY!!! Not totally an uncommon thing? Where in the heck do you live? I can just imagine homeless people wandering the halls of the hospital- casing the joint for non-verbal patients so they can move into their room....This just strikes me as FUNNY! (black humour-I know) I keep picturing that Michael Jackson video Thriller-all of these ghoulish looking people ...crowding the halls....O my...And the icing on the cake--- Mario!!! Quoting scriptures!! It's a freakin' hospital-not a SOUP kitchen...I can not wait until he is out on the floor as a nurse dealing with some scum of the earth families and patients (not that they all are-but the really bad ones sure make an impression) Just when you think you've seen it all....along comes some bag lady camping out next to a comatose patient's bed....Something that I see now on a regular basis just left me speechless when I first encountered it-in my LTC facility we have family memebrs that request re-imbursment for every gift they bring their loved one...including birthday cakes....Every Xmas or birthday gift...I would NEVER have though of it...(we have many that are more then happy to supply any of their loved ones needs) O my O my.....I need a glass of wine..or 2 ....

its not about being judged or judging , its about the fact that this person was not helping the patient, who is the priority here

I suggested social work cuz they might have been able to hook her up with some support services or something, in this case memphis as a student had no recourse to help and had to act in the best interest of the patient.

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