Hi my lovely nurses , I'm Sam and it's my first topic , excuse my English I'm not native , I'm still young and I'm learning to control my temper and attitude , I love my work so much even if it's killing me and I feel old already , but why the **** docs think we are working for them !!? We are both working together for the patients only , I had many fights with docs and I been called to the nursing office for that *badass* , and I hate when my nursing director main concerne is pleasing the docs !!? Why nurses forget how hard the job is when they get promoted !! Once I was the in charge and a doc told other nurse something like I don't know how did you graduate medical school I got so angry and We had an argue and as usual she ran to the nursing office , I have no regrets I will keep defending myself and others , all the nursing office people know me well already ������������ , we worked hard to be nurses , we are not spending enough time with our family and beloved ones cause we are too busy saving lives , they should understand that ,we have feelings and treating us badly is so so so unfair , let's just not overrated bad docs , don't get me wrong I have no hard feelings toward them , I do respect docs but some are too much ,just imagine the care we could give the patients if we worked hand by hand in harmony as one team, Thank you ������
Specializes in Psych, Corrections, Med-Surg, Ambulatory.
I LOVE BEING A NURSE , I won't give up on myself or seek another job .
Then the only option that leaves is to grow up. Stop telling yourself you're too young for anything. The only things you're too young for are a social security check and a senior mobile home park. Start reminding yourself you're an adult. You got some excellent advice here to seek out a way to develop interpersonal skills and conflict resolution skills. Many good books in the library; might be some good seminars in your area, listed on the internet.
Then the only option that leaves is to grow up. Stop telling yourself you're too young for anything. The only things you're too young for are a social security check and a senior mobile home park. Start reminding yourself you're an adult. You got some excellent advice here to seek out a way to develop interpersonal skills and conflict resolution skills. Many good books in the library; might be some good seminars in your area, listed on the internet.
Good luck.
i appreciate your words and advices gonna work on it â¤ï¸
Specializes in Case mgmt., rehab, (CRRN), LTC & psych.
I think it's about your attitude, if you go in with a poor attitude about being treated like a "slave"....its more than likely going to happen.
Exactly...attitude is everything. It has been said that 10 percent of life is about what happens to us and the remaining 90 percent is our response to what has happened.
In this game called life, a person typically gets what (s)he gives. Kindness begets kindness. Respect begets respect. Fighting begets fighting. Arguing begets arguing. Insults beget insults.
I will reiterate this point: we get what we give. Remember that...
You've gotten excellent advice here from everyone, not much to add. If you are truly engaged in fighting with the physicians, expect a meeting with your supervisor or HR. Where I work, I would be put on admin leave if not let go.
Agree with the other posts that it would benefit you to seek ways to control your feelings/anger. It is OK to have those feelings but not OK to act on them, and not usually in your best interest either. Most Nurse Managers will side with the MD, for whatever reason. Most Nurse Managers will not listen to concerns because they either can't do anything about it or simply do not care (in my experience). If you keep up the hostility you will be labeled a trouble maker which will only hurt you, either in that facility or when needing a reference. I hope you do some research on positive ways to cope and express your feelings, it will really help you! Good luck to you.
Specializes in Case mgmt., rehab, (CRRN), LTC & psych.
Most Nurse Managers will side with the MD, for whatever reason.
The majority of nurse managers will side with the physician because docs are the money-makers of the facility.
Physicians bring patients (and revenue) into the facility due to their referrals and admitting privileges, so administration generally grants them more leeway.
Someone beat me to...you get what you give; period. Stop the excuses please. Your post sounds like you're looking for a fight. I have had problems with 2 docs and the rest have shown me educational experiences that support my RN and further my experience as an nurse. Docs love to teach if they think you're sincere. The key is communication; verbal and nonverbal.
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Then the only option that leaves is to grow up. Stop telling yourself you're too young for anything. The only things you're too young for are a social security check and a senior mobile home park. Start reminding yourself you're an adult. You got some excellent advice here to seek out a way to develop interpersonal skills and conflict resolution skills. Many good books in the library; might be some good seminars in your area, listed on the internet.
Good luck.