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Vent about the oldest gripe around!!

Has 13 years experience. Specializes in School Nursing, Ambulatory Care, etc..

I was in clinicals today on the post-partum floor when it happened "if you don't stop crying that nurse is going to give you a shot!" (This was said to a "big brother", around 2yo.)

WHY WHY WHY do people do this to their kids??? I would never dream of purposely making my kids afraid of doctors, nurses, lawyers - well, maybe lawyers...;)

:angryfire

DutchgirlRN, ASN, RN

Has 33 years experience. Specializes in OB, M/S, HH, Medical Imaging RN.

I was in clinicals today on the post-partum floor when it happened "if you don't stop crying that nurse is going to give you a shot!" (This was said to a "big brother", around 2yo.)

WHY WHY WHY do people do this to their kids??? I would never dream of purposely making my kids afraid of doctors, nurses, lawyers - well, maybe lawyers...;)

:angryfire

IGNORANCE !! I agree, it burns me up. I say something to the parents. I tell them I don't appreciate them telling their children that I'm going to give them a shot and explain to them how it only makes children afraid of nurses. I also assure the child that I'm not going to hurt them. The parents usually shutup pretty quick. I won't tolerate it.

meownsmile, BSN, RN

Specializes in Med/Surg, Ortho.

I agree, i had a mother do that in the elevator one day. " If you arent good and mind me ill have her give you a shot". I wanted to tie into her but with the little one around i couldnt. I did however, say to the little girl,, "no i wont, i only give shots to people who dont feel good and need medicine to make them feel better." I felt justified in making her mothers comment a total lie in the little girls eyes.

Talk about mental abuse of a child. As far as im concerned thats what comments like that from a parent amounts to.

And similarly,, they do that with police too. Why make a kid scared of someone who truely is there to help them if they need it?

I was working at a department store fitting room and a mother with a crying kid in a stroller said to her, "See that lady? If you don't stop crying, she's going to take you away!" The kid was only about 2, so I couldn't explain anything, I just stood there glaring at the mother until she walked away with the still-crying kid.

Well thank God Bradlee's is out of business... that kid will never have to worry about redheaded fitting room clerks abducting her! :)

I was in clinicals today on the post-partum floor when it happened "if you don't stop crying that nurse is going to give you a shot!" (This was said to a "big brother", around 2yo.)

WHY WHY WHY do people do this to their kids??? I would never dream of purposely making my kids afraid of doctors, nurses, lawyers - well, maybe lawyers...;)

:angryfire

I stop them right in their tracks and tell both the parents AND the child that I am not going to do that. Then I ask the parents not to say things like that.

Had a grown woman tell her husband that before... interesting.

You really don't want to know what goes on inside some marriages!

SmilingBluEyes

Has 20 years experience.

I have corrected many people who said this. Just behaving professionally is what it takes for me. I will correct people who say such things, and very pointedly. No problem there. These things ARE said out of ignorance, I feel like it's my job to enlighen them in such times. (grin)

I agree! I feel it's better to calmly say something. I usually smile at the child and say "I give needles to someone who is sick, or so they don't get sick. If you needed one for that, it would be a good thing wouldn't it?" Depending on the parents reaction, or time (eg if in elevator) the parent may get a reminder that comments like that make a nurses job harder if the tot is ever sick or needing vaccinations, lets work together as parent and nurse to make it nonthreatening.

Marie_LPN, RN, LPN, RN

Specializes in 5 yrs OR, ASU Pre-Op 2 yr. ER.

Best reply i've seen to this has been (by a nurse, looking straight at the parent) "I never give shots as punishment or threat. I give shots to help a child get better and feel better."

medsurgnurse, RN

Specializes in Me Surge.

I was in clinicals today on the post-partum floor when it happened "if you don't stop crying that nurse is going to give you a shot!" (This was said to a "big brother", around 2yo.)

WHY WHY WHY do people do this to their kids??? I would never dream of purposely making my kids afraid of doctors, nurses, lawyers - well, maybe lawyers...;)

:angryfire

And then they wonder why their kids cry when they go to the doctor.

haha, you're right, i dont!

You really don't want to know what goes on inside some marriages!

Antikigirl, ASN, RN

Has 13 years experience. Specializes in Education, Acute, Med/Surg, Tele, etc.

When I had to give peds shots...I took them aside and told them about the 'secret mission" we were doing! Yep..the secret mission!

You see...(dependant on age) we have a spy in the midst, and I need to get the secret plans on how to find them to the brain..but I can't do it via the mouth because that route is expected...and the other way...ummmm you don't want to go the bum route today...so lets just sneek the liquid messages to the bodies army..called white blood cells because they are like white ninja dudes...by a 1.5 second shot..and we will give you a fake plan via your mouth so the spy thinks all is okay (usually the old sucker bit...heck with the dental for one shot huh?!?!? LOL!).

Worked!!!!!!!!!!

I would talk to parents in advanced of this plan..and usually they would laugh and giggle and support me on this 'secret mission impossible".

But those times where a patient's parent said that I would take them aside and explain why that is SO WRONG!!!!!! Most didn't think about it...so they were so ashamed and really tried to correct it at home or even in the office...

And I would tell the kids..."no, I don't give shots for being 'bad' (or whatever phrase they used)...I give them as part of my 'secret mission white ninja support plan', and I will tell you what thats about if you want...and it is so secret that you have to promice you won't tell anyone okay???". That usually changed the subject into something fun, proactive and well...silly...I like silly!!!!!!!!!

When I had to give peds shots...I took them aside and told them about the 'secret mission" we were doing! Yep..the secret mission!

You see...(dependant on age) we have a spy in the midst, and I need to get the secret plans on how to find them to the brain..but I can't do it via the mouth because that route is expected...and the other way...ummmm you don't want to go the bum route today...so lets just sneek the liquid messages to the bodies army..called white blood cells because they are like white ninja dudes...by a 1.5 second shot..and we will give you a fake plan via your mouth so the spy thinks all is okay (usually the old sucker bit...heck with the dental for one shot huh?!?!? LOL!).

Worked!!!!!!!!!!

I would talk to parents in advanced of this plan..and usually they would laugh and giggle and support me on this 'secret mission impossible".

But those times where a patient's parent said that I would take them aside and explain why that is SO WRONG!!!!!! Most didn't think about it...so they were so ashamed and really tried to correct it at home or even in the office...

And I would tell the kids..."no, I don't give shots for being 'bad' (or whatever phrase they used)...I give them as part of my 'secret mission white ninja support plan', and I will tell you what thats about if you want...and it is so secret that you have to promice you won't tell anyone okay???". That usually changed the subject into something fun, proactive and well...silly...I like silly!!!!!!!!!

When I read that "silly...I like silly!!!!!!" I knew it could only be our one and only beloved Triage. She is having a birthday today. Everyone, say happy birthday to Triage!!!

BTW--Triage, if you didn't see my other post--you can get a free ice cream cone from Yahoo TODAY (everyone can, because yahoo is celebrating their 10th birthday) to celebrate your birthday--just point your browser to the yahoo home page (http://www.yahoo.com) and follow the ice cream cone...

TMPaul

Has 24 years experience.

I was in clinicals today on the post-partum floor when it happened "if you don't stop crying that nurse is going to give you a shot!" (This was said to a "big brother", around 2yo.)

WHY WHY WHY do people do this to their kids??? I would never dream of purposely making my kids afraid of doctors, nurses, lawyers - well, maybe lawyers...;)

:angryfire

Unfortunately this gripe isn't exclusive of nursing. My Dad ia a (retired) police officer and he use to hear "if you're not good (if you don't stop that) I'll have that policeman arrest you. Way to go parents (NOT).. just have your child be scared of 2 professions that can help you in a time of need ! :uhoh3: :angryfire

I stop them right in their tracks and tell both the parents AND the child that I am not going to do that. Then I ask the parents not to say things like that.

And to think...

You have to take both a written and a practical exam...just to get a driver's license.

And then they wonder why their kids cry when they go to the doctor.

...makes a nurses jobe harder. Regardless, it could be concidered battery, and you could easily go to jail for that. Then remind the parents that your a nurse and with a swipe of a hand they could be spending the next 72 hours with you getting shots just like the one there talking about.

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