I need some advice and help. I'm a 30 year old single male starting my transition to MTF transsexual. I was accepted to a BSN program and start my clinicals in Fall '09. And might have a problem when it comes time for me to start living full time as a female. The problem with my school is that it is a private Christian school. I chose this particular school because it has one of the best nursing programs in the city. And I am transitioning while still in school because i've been informed that universities and colleges will not change names on students records AFTER you have finished a program regardless of a legal name change. It must be changed while you are in college or before graduation.
I'm not sure of how the school will deal with me transitioning. I've been told by nurses I work with who are former students of the same college that I won't be put out explicitly or overtly for being transgender, but they will do their best to ride me out of the program.
What should I do? I can't put off my transition because there are set times and accomplishments you are supposed to keep in order to transition properly. My job is not a problem, they will allow me to transition on the job.
Write down the pros and cons of both. Maybe seeing a list will help you decide.
The "real" learning begins with actual job training. Of course, this is just the opinion of a few.
I agree and the NCLEX passing rate really never impressed me either. I just wanted the ok to register for NCLEX because I always felt it was my responsibility to be prepared to pass. Definitely start in a program that you are confident you can finish because most schools will not accept any other school's nursing classes for credit.
The other that I didn't think of is the "code of honor" which especially at a Christian school might give them liberty to decide what they feel is honorable and what is worthy of dismissal, sigh. Wishing you all the best and please stick around here with us no matter which school you pick.
IMHO, Whatever school you decide, instead of starting out as JOE, I would start out as JoAnn.......... That may save a whole lot of "drama"
Good luck to you!
JQ
I've already started school, I begin my clinical in Fall '09. I've been pushing to get done earlier with all these gen ed classes. I usually take between 12 and 14 credit hours, work full time days, and take care of my teenaged niece and other relatives. I have alot going on in my life besides the transition and i'm trying to alleviate all sources of stress or worry.
I'm single, so no support system there. And the family isn't much help either. So i'm pretty much doing all this on my own.
I'm single, so no support system there. And the family isn't much help either. So i'm pretty much doing all this on my own.
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Family can be quite silly, can't they? I was thinking about your situation last night. From your posts, I get the sense that you are mature and self confident and at peace with yourself. That is so wonderful and I think that you'll be able to draw from that strength to deal with whatever comes your way in the future.
...i'm single, so no support system there. and the family isn't much help either. so i'm pretty much doing all this on my own.
hey....i'm sorry to see that you've no real familial support - truly i am . but you're certainly welcome here at the allnurses.com family & get the support you'll need now & in the future :kiss .
hey....i'm sorry to see that you've no real familial support - truly i am . but you're certainly welcome here at the allnurses.com family & get the support you'll need now & in the future :kiss .
cheers :cheers:,
moe
yes, it is sad. they do say they support my decision to transition and go to ns, but i also know that if i really needed someone to talk to or help, i couldn't turn to them.
i'm fine with that, i've always kinda been a loner since i was a child. but it does get tiresome not to have some companionship.
ye gods! i'm starting to feel like a vestal virgin.
hmmm....maybe i should change my name to mary elizabeth and join a convent?
I have decided to transfer to the U of M, Spring 09. I should have enough credits that I should be able to start my clinicals around the same time frame as at Baptist.
I've already got my application to the Loewenburg School of Nursing and should be doing my Application for Undergraduate Admission online.
I don't feel that I need the added worry and/or stress of having to deal with pressures at school along with transitioning and working.
I have no other advice then what has already been given to you! Just wanted to show you my support, I think you are extremely brave and I give you a lot of credit for doing what you are doing. Keep us all posted on what you decide and how the applications go for the new schools!!!!
I need some advice and help. I'm a 30 year old single male starting my transition to MTF transsexual. I was accepted to a BSN program and start my clinicals in Fall '09. And might have a problem when it comes time for me to start living full time as a female. The problem with my school is that it is a private Christian school. I chose this particular school because it has one of the best nursing programs in the city. And I am transitioning while still in school because i've been informed that universities and colleges will not change names on students records AFTER you have finished a program regardless of a legal name change. It must be changed while you are in college or before graduation.
I'm not sure of how the school will deal with me transitioning. I've been told by nurses I work with who are former students of the same college that I won't be put out explicitly or overtly for being transgender, but they will do their best to ride me out of the program.
What should I do? I can't put off my transition because there are set times and accomplishments you are supposed to keep in order to transition properly. My job is not a problem, they will allow me to transition on the job.
School is another matter.
I have a friend named Celina that is a MTF transexual. I knew her when she was still "Tim" and the transformation, is indeed, amazing.
My first advice (that I am sure you are not planning on taking) is to wait until your transition is over before you start your change. It is absolutely, 100% not true that they will not change your name on your school transcripts for any reason after you graduate.
When you go through your legal name change, all you have to prove is that you are one in the same person, and find an attorney open minded enough to when you get your name changed, everything else, including your college transcripts, are changed with it. A court CAN order that.
You will probably like advice #2 better.
To ensure that there are no problems, I would encourage you to meet with the highest level of management that is over the nursing program, which will probably be a Dean or Director.
Explain your situation, give them the name/number of your physician and have it set up prior to the meeting, tell them they should call if they have any questions.
I am wagering that you are legally protected because gender identity disorder is found in the DSM and you have a right to have transgender surgery. I am sure the clinic that you are going to would know the legal ramifications such as this, but I would bet a dollar that it would have to be treated at the school, just like any other person with a disability.
Even if a school is private, they cannot legally discriminate based on disability.
You are not gay, so they cannot dismiss your admission as a "violation" of Christian values.
That way, any "instructions" will be delivered to the faculty from the top down.
And the family isn't much help either. So i'm pretty much doing all this on my own. 
Jules A, MSN
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I agree and the NCLEX passing rate really never impressed me either. I just wanted the ok to register for NCLEX because I always felt it was my responsibility to be prepared to pass. Definitely start in a program that you are confident you can finish because most schools will not accept any other school's nursing classes for credit.
The other that I didn't think of is the "code of honor" which especially at a Christian school might give them liberty to decide what they feel is honorable and what is worthy of dismissal, sigh. Wishing you all the best and please stick around here with us no matter which school you pick.