Too much time on her hands? I think so.

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I just started a new position at another hospital. My preceptor introduced me to another nurse whom asked me what hospital I came from and I told her. She asked me if I knew a nurse and gave me her name but I wasn't sure who she was because 1) I am not good with names and 2) I DO NOT get very chummy with co-workers (I've learned the hard way about this). I told her that I might know her and asked her how she looked and she described her. I told her that the description sounded familiar.

Now yesterday, this same nurse told me she talked to that nurse whom told her that I did work there. Really!?! So not only is she a nurse but she is also a private investigator. lol.

What do you think about this? Has this ever happened to you?

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Specializes in Trauma, Teaching.

Doesn't sound like much to me.... she's just making conversation. So, she has a friend that works there and asked if there was a connection. What's the big deal?

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Doesn't sound like much to me.... she's just making conversation. So, she has a friend that works there and asked if there was a connection. What's the big deal?

That's find if I came up. But why the need to come back to me to let me know that, in my opinion, she verified my story. Ok...AND?!?! What was the point? I just looked at her like she was crazy. Find better things to do with your time, please.

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That's find if I came up. But why the need to come back to me to let me know that, in my opinion, she verified my story. Ok...AND?!?! What was the point? I just looked at her like she was crazy. Find better things to do with your time, please.

She was probably trying to make conversation and strike up a potential friendship, being that you may have shared something in common, even if it was distant.

Ease up on the over analyzing. I don't find her method of wasting time any more of a problem than you venting your frustrations online.

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Specializes in Emergency & Trauma/Adult ICU.
That's find if I came up. But why the need to come back to me to let me know that, in my opinion, she verified my story. Ok...AND?!?! What was the point? I just looked at her like she was crazy. Find better things to do with your time, please.

See bolded/highlighted above ... as you say, this is YOUR interpretation ... so any drama you feel as a result is also ... yours.

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Specializes in PICU.

You seem really paranoid of your coworkers. I agree with the other posters that she was likely just trying to make conversation and a connection with the "new person." It can be hard to get to know new people and given how closely we need to work together to take care of our patients, it is a good thing to try to establish a connection. Be glad she's trying to get to know you, instead of just ignoring you!

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Be concerned if she does it again. Once is probably nothing, twice is kinda weird.

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I don't see what the big deal is.

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Specializes in NICU, ICU, PICU, Academia.

Lighten up! She's one of those people who is a 'relationship' type. She enjoys making the connections between people. It seems as though she's TRYING to help you make connections, too. You don't work in a vacuum.

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Specializes in Pedi.

Ok, so you now work with Sue. You told her where you previously worked and she said "Oh, my friend Mary used to work there, do you know her?" You didn't remember her. Sue happened to talk to Mary because they are friends and mentioned "A new nurse started working on my floor who used to work at your hospital, do you know her?" I don't see what the big deal is. This is all perfectly normal. You need to chill.

Who doesn't mention it to their friends when they meet someone who knows the friend? It's human behavior. I met someone recently whose boyfriend went to graduate school with my best friend's husband. I mentioned it to her the next time I talked to her. Kinda the same thing here.

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And if she didn't try to make a connection with the new person, the new person would be posting, "Why are they being so mean to me just because I'm new! Why can't they be friendly? I'm being bullied. Nurses eat their young!!!"

Sounds like you just want something to complain about. Find something better to do with YOUR time.

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Specializes in Oncology; medical specialty website.

You have got to be kidding.

I think new grads should bring a list of what they do/do not want their co-workers to do. I get dizzy reading all these different complaints (They don't talk to me/They talk too much/They don't help me/They help too much, etc.). She was probably trying to be nice. If you don't want to talk to your co-workers, just tell them you want to limit your conversation to things about work only. Of course, don't expect much help from them if you get into difficulty at work. They'll probably leave you to your own devices; I know I sure would.

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