This is a Vent! Warning LONG!

nurse2be2007 · Dec 11, 2005

Well you will be sure to get the opposite reaction here.
Congrats!!!!!!!!!
Remember, nursing is not for everyone. Yes, it's hard, school is intense, frustrating and overwhelming. But there you will be surrounded by "your kind", other nursing students going through the same challenges. You will still come across those ney sayers, but once immersed in school you will realize they don't have a clue.
Enjoy the ride! Not everyone has a ticket.

Thanks Stressgal!!!! You are so right about that!

nurse2be2007 · Dec 11, 2005

It was not her place to ask this.
I'd complain to her employer about all of the comments she made, since there's a firm chance she's done it to others. Jealous or not, she should have kept her mouth shut and just did her job without the uncalled for commentary.

Yea I thought her comments were uncalled for but what are you gonna do right. My mom and dad both go to this doctor and both have said that she is extremely rude to people. You should hear her and the other MA arguing. She is definitely not a people person. Hey, if the doc wants to keep her around I guess that is his perogative.

Thanks Marie_LPN You are right!

Marie_LPN, RN, LPN, RN · Dec 11, 2005

Hey, if the doc wants to keep her around I guess that is his perogative.

Which might drive away his pts.

nurse2be2007 · Dec 11, 2005

Well, first of all, I worked as an IV therapist for 6 years in addition to doing my own IV's for many years as well as drawing blood. Doing this painlessly has nothing to do with talent and everything to do with skill, so the medical assistant who told you that doesn't know what she is talking about and probably doesn't have a clue as to why a needle stick hurts or sometimes doesn't hurt.

My thoughts exactly. Its funny but my mom said that when this girl first started there, she drew my moms blood and hurt her badly. To the point where she poked her three times and my mom said enough and asked for the other MA to come do it. My mom was worried that she hurt her feelings but after I told my mom what she said, mom was less worried about hurting her feelings. I told my mom that she is clueless and some people like to try to bring someone else down to boost their own self esteem up. There are all kinds in this world and she is just one of millions.

Then, think about this. Doesn't it sound kind of stupid for someone working in healthcare to be trashing it? That's like a dog biting the hand that feeds it. That doesn't say much for them. I would have asked why they stay in their profession if it's so bad. And, doing it for a paycheck doesn't count as an answer.

LOL isnt that the truth. I could have came back hard at her but like I said to save face I just kept my mouth shut to keep from getting into a B!t!h match with her. Wasnt worth it LOL.

There are just a lot of people in the world that are incredibly negative. Look at the world around you. You won't see very many people with negative views of the world making it to top positions in any profession because these two things just do not go together. A position as an MA or a receptionist isn't that far up the ladder of success, you know? If I was the kid whose mother (the MA you met) was bragging to you about her daughter who quit nursing school, I probably would have ending up quitting school too. The mother's continual negativity is probably part of what drove the kid out of school. You're going to run into a lot of these kinds of negative views around people who have not been very successful in their lives. This kind of thinking robs people of the courage to take chances and venture into the unknown for their own benefit. They are perfectly content and unhappy in their little realms despite what they are telling you. It's a big part of the reason they don't advance much farther in life.

Its funny that you say this. I couldnt agree with you more. I was amused at how hard they were trying to cut down nursing as if their comments were going to change my views of it and change my course of action. I want to be a nurse, I will be a nurse and nothing that anyone says will change that. I could see that they were miserable and they were only trying to justify to themselves why they havent furthered their careers. The way I see it is if they were truly happy with their current position they wouldnt be trying so hard to convince me I was making a bad decision. There is no way in HELL they would succeed but it was funny watching them try.

Keep your head up, stay positive, keep an open mind, let comments like those made to you roll off your back, focus on your future. The world looks better and better as you go up the ladder of success. You cannot get caught in that cycle of negativity and disparity yourself or you will never achieve your goals.

Exactly what I have been doing and will continue to do. I believe my op came off wrong and I am sorry that you guys thought I was letting this get to me. No way would I let something like this get to me. The point of my op was just to see if anyone else was encountering this type of experience with other healthcare workers. I was more in disbelief than anything. I guess its time to take off my rose colored glasses and see healthcare for what it really is. I can only hope that I stay the way I am, supportive, caring and compassionate.

Thanks Daytonite! Your post was awesome and as someone else stated "Very well said!"

nurse2be2007 · Dec 11, 2005

Which might drive away his pts.

So true, then after that happens I guess he will wake up and find the common link. My parents have been going to him for well over 25 years and she has been there for I think 2 years.

I have a question for you. I know in nursing there are things that you can say and things you shouldnt say. Like giving your personal opinion on a patients personal life or giving a diagnosis. Do these same "rules" apply to MA's or other healthcare workers like CNA's, MA's receptionist and so forth? I am curious because of something that happened at one of my prenatal visits when I was pregnant with my youngest.

stpauligirl · Dec 11, 2005

Ok ever since I was accepted into the nursing program I have had some negativity thrown my way by people that I would least expect it. I am not talking about family or friends, although there are a few of my life long friends who do not seem that enthused that I am going to be a nurse let alone going to college. Anyway, I have been getting everything ready for my orientation on the 20th. I called my doctors office to make an appointment for my physical, the girl on the phone ask if this is an annual physical and I tell her its for school. She then ask me what I am going to school for and I tell her nursing. All of a sudden the tone of her voice changes, she becomes very short and rude with me. NO more nicey nicey gal. I shrug it off and make my appointment.
I go to my appointment all goes well except I was diagnosed with hypertension. Doc puts me on meds, congratulates me for getting into nursing school and wishes me luck. I find out that its too late to do my blood work so I will have to come back a different day and that they no longer do vaccinations there. Ok no biggie so I go somewhere else for the vaccinations.
I go in to get my blood drawn and the medical assistant is well not the friendliest person I have ever met but me being the way I am, I am overly nice to her. She puts the needle in and damn I didnt even feel it, so I compliment her on how good she was at drawing blood. She says, "Yea I know, its really a talent not a skill that you can learn. You are either talented or not, so for your patients sake I hope that you are talented otherwise you will be hurting a lot of patients." I was thrown back a bit by her statement but graciously agreed. Believe me I am not push over but I was just not in the mood to get into a B!t#h match with her. So I leave and go on my way.
I had to go back one more time to get my blood results and she was just as rude and condescending as before but whatever I just figured she was a bad apple. Fast Forward to my next appt. at a different doc to get my vaccinations. I go in and the MA calls me back. We go back to the room and she begins asking me what I am here for. I tell her to get my vaccinations and I hand her the physical form from my school. She says Oh your going to school to be a nurse, well good luck, my daughter did it and she said it was the toughest thing she ever did but didnt finish because she couldnt handle it. She then ask if I have any kids and I tell her yes three girls. Waiting for some miner chitchat about kids, she blows out of her mouth, oh with three kids you might as well give up on nursing school. My daughter didnt have any kids and she couldnt do it. Blah Blah Blah
She made a few other cracks at nursing like, "I was going to do it but I am content with being an MA, besides Nurses work way too hard for their money, it just isnt worth it to me" My reply was, "well there is a place for everybody in this world and if being an MA is where you are meant to be then that is ok, and if nursing isnt for me, I guess I will find out soon wont I?"
I am just so sick of people that dont even know me try to discourage me from succeeding. I mean what are the chances of running into all insecure people when trying to get everything in order for school. I have to laugh though because if they only knew what I have been through and what I am going through I guess they would think twice about making the cracks they are. Then again, these few people are just completely insecure with themselves, if they really wanted to go to school for nursing they would do whatever it takes to get there.
Sorry this is so long but I just had to get it off my chest. Anyone else encountering this since you have been accepted? The crazy thing is if it werent for the physical form for school or them asking me what I am going to school for I wouldnt tell them. Its not like I go around flaunting it or anything. Geeesh.....

I am not excepted yet (not ready to apply yet) but experiencing the same thing. Your friends will change but that's ok. Don't look left, don't look right but straight ahead...congratulations on being accepted into the nursing program and good luck!

Race Mom, ASN, RN · Dec 11, 2005

Yep! My GYN tried to discourage me by telling me how hard it is and how much work nurses do.

My kids Pediatrician was opposite. He was ecstatic! He even offered me to precept at his office right there, on the spot!

As far as the bad seeds at the doctors office, the same pediatrician had a few that really got to me. I let him know! I told him that if it wasn't for him, I would never be back. He told me he knew about them and there was some turnover about to happen. Well, there was, and now his office is filled with gems! Don't be afraid to tell the doctor that someone in his staff is constantly rude and making inappropriate remarks about your personal life.

Alcoholics want you to drink with them. It validates their drinking. Same with people who fail at things, or are too scared to try. If they can convince you, they get validation about their own failures.

The best of luck in NS!

Woogy

**RosesrReder, BSN, MSN, RN** · Dec 12, 2005

I can relate somewhat too. There are many jealous and vicious people out there. I cannot begin to tell you all the negativity thrown my way. The best part is when other students are always on my back because I have no children, and how I should give my spot to a more deserving mother who needs a better life for her children :uhoh21: and so on.

Like I said jealousy is a factor. I am proud to wait to start a family until I finish school, I am proud to have a very supportive husband and proud to say I deserve this just as much.

Anyhow, glad you vented. You are not alone, and you WILL graduate an become a great nurse. Kudos to you for being the way you are. Lots of blessings your way! :)

nurse2be2007 · Dec 13, 2005

I can relate somewhat too. There are many jealous and vicious people out there. I cannot begin to tell you all the negativity thrown my way. The best part is when other students are always on my back because I have no children, and how I should give my spot to a more deserving mother who needs a better life for her children :uhoh21: and so on.
Like I said jealousy is a factor. I am proud to wait to start a family until I finish school, I am proud to have a very supportive husband and proud to say I deserve this just as much.
Anyhow, glad you vented. You are not alone, and you WILL graduate an become a great nurse. Kudos to you for being the way you are. Lots of blessings your way! :)

OMG! Someone actually said you should give up your spot to someone with kids? I have three daughters and would never think that in a million years. We are all equal and one isnt more deserving than another. Wow, I dont even know what to say to that one. I cant believe the gall of some people. YES! You do deserve it just as much! It kills me how some people think that people with kids should get special treatment. I wouldnt expect no more special treatment than you or anyone else. It was my choice to have children and I dont expect to be treated any diferently.

There was another thread not long ago about nurses with children expecting other nurses without children to work Christmas for them because they should be home with their kids. Now I understand them wanting to spend the day with their children, but what makes them think that a non-parent nurse doesnt have family they want to spend the holiday with. :banghead:

I just dont get that mentality.

Jess your post are always supportive and caring. I know in my heart you will make a wonderful nurse. Go get em girl!!!!! Each of us deserves it just as much as the next.

P_RN, ADN, RN · Dec 13, 2005

Congratulations on your trek towards being a Nurse!

I can relate somewhat. I started Nursing school not once, not twice but THREE times. My mother never could understand why I didn't want to be a secretary. Now let me vent about being a secretary.....LOL.

Anyway the third time was the charm and I graduated 31 years ago. On the odd occassion during all those years I got negative as well as positive feedback.

But the greatest thing was when my Daddy said "My daughter is a Registered Nurse." Talk about GOOD feelings! That was one of the greatest.

Do your best and let us follow you on your progress!

stpauligirl · Dec 14, 2005

OMG! Someone actually said you should give up your spot to someone with kids? I have three daughters and would never think that in a million years. We are all equal and one isnt more deserving than another. Wow, I dont even know what to say to that one. I cant believe the gall of some people. YES! You do deserve it just as much! It kills me how some people think that people with kids should get special treatment. I wouldnt expect no more special treatment than you or anyone else. It was my choice to have children and I dont expect to be treated any diferently.
There was another thread not long ago about nurses with children expecting other nurses without children to work Christmas for them because they should be home with their kids. Now I understand them wanting to spend the day with their children, but what makes them think that a non-parent nurse doesnt have family they want to spend the holiday with.
I just dont get that mentality.
Jess your post are always supportive and caring. I know in my heart you will make a wonderful nurse. Go get em girl!!!!! Each of us deserves it just as much as the next.

OMG, this is AMERICA, a FREE country.....if you want to have kids then have kids, if you don't want any kids then don't have any.....

BTW Merry X-mas, something else that some people try to take away from us :)

sailornurse · Dec 14, 2005

I once had a unit-clerk who thought she knew more then the nurses, was always trying to tell us how to do our jobs, ( & me with 15 years nursing experience & a BSN). Turns out she did not even have a GED. She finally completed it & went to the local community college to apply to nursing school. HA HA she came back complaining that she did not see why nurses need to take: algebra, chemistry etc etc. You get the picture. They had given her a sample of the NET test & she gave up with just one look at the NET!!! Moral of the story: She was afraid to fail (IMO), You on the other hand are not & sounds like you know that it will require hard work, perseverance, discipline but it is worth it. Also, those MA's, many of them think they can do an RN's job because they know how to give injections but the fact is that there is a major difference between the skills they can perform & what a nurse can do.

Good luck