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Ok ever since I was accepted into the nursing program I have had some negativity thrown my way by people that I would least expect it. I am not talking about family or friends, although there are a few of my life long friends who do not seem that enthused that I am going to be a nurse let alone going to college. Anyway, I have been getting everything ready for my orientation on the 20th. I called my doctors office to make an appointment for my physical, the girl on the phone ask if this is an annual physical and I tell her its for school. She then ask me what I am going to school for and I tell her nursing. All of a sudden the tone of her voice changes, she becomes very short and rude with me. NO more nicey nicey gal. I shrug it off and make my appointment.

I go to my appointment all goes well except I was diagnosed with hypertension. Doc puts me on meds, congratulates me for getting into nursing school and wishes me luck. I find out that its too late to do my blood work so I will have to come back a different day and that they no longer do vaccinations there. Ok no biggie so I go somewhere else for the vaccinations.

I go in to get my blood drawn and the medical assistant is well not the friendliest person I have ever met but me being the way I am, I am overly nice to her. She puts the needle in and damn I didnt even feel it, so I compliment her on how good she was at drawing blood. She says, "Yea I know, its really a talent not a skill that you can learn. You are either talented or not, so for your patients sake I hope that you are talented otherwise you will be hurting a lot of patients." I was thrown back a bit by her statement but graciously agreed. Believe me I am not push over but I was just not in the mood to get into a B!t#h match with her. So I leave and go on my way.

I had to go back one more time to get my blood results and she was just as rude and condescending as before but whatever I just figured she was a bad apple. Fast Forward to my next appt. at a different doc to get my vaccinations. I go in and the MA calls me back. We go back to the room and she begins asking me what I am here for. I tell her to get my vaccinations and I hand her the physical form from my school. She says Oh your going to school to be a nurse, well good luck, my daughter did it and she said it was the toughest thing she ever did but didnt finish because she couldnt handle it. She then ask if I have any kids and I tell her yes three girls. Waiting for some miner chitchat about kids, she blows out of her mouth, oh with three kids you might as well give up on nursing school. My daughter didnt have any kids and she couldnt do it. Blah Blah Blah

She made a few other cracks at nursing like, "I was going to do it but I am content with being an MA, besides Nurses work way too hard for their money, it just isnt worth it to me" My reply was, "well there is a place for everybody in this world and if being an MA is where you are meant to be then that is ok, and if nursing isnt for me, I guess I will find out soon wont I?"

I am just so sick of people that dont even know me try to discourage me from succeeding. I mean what are the chances of running into all insecure people when trying to get everything in order for school. I have to laugh though because if they only knew what I have been through and what I am going through I guess they would think twice about making the cracks they are. Then again, these few people are just completely insecure with themselves, if they really wanted to go to school for nursing they would do whatever it takes to get there.

Sorry this is so long but I just had to get it off my chest. Anyone else encountering this since you have been accepted? The crazy thing is if it werent for the physical form for school or them asking me what I am going to school for I wouldnt tell them. Its not like I go around flaunting it or anything. Geeesh.....

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Specializes in ER, NICU.
Ok ever since I was accepted into the nursing program..... ...She then ask me what I am going to school for and I tell her nursing. All of a sudden the tone of her voice changes, she becomes very short and rude with me. NO more nicey nicey gal. I shrug it off and make my appointment....

....I go in to get my blood drawn and the medical assistant is well not the friendliest person I have ever met but me being the way I am, I am overly nice to her. .....She says, "Yea I know, its really a talent not a skill that you can learn. You are either talented or not, so for your patients sake I hope that you are talented otherwise you will be hurting a lot of patients." ....I was just not in the mood to get into a B!t#h match with her. So I leave and go on my way.

....she begins asking me what I am here for. I tell her to get my vaccinations and I hand her the physical form from my school. She says Oh your going to school to be a nurse, well good luck, my daughter did it and she said it was the toughest thing she ever did but didnt finish because she couldnt handle it. She then ask if I have any kids and I tell her yes three girls. Waiting for some miner chitchat about kids, she blows out of her mouth, oh with three kids you might as well give up on nursing school. My daughter didnt have any kids and she couldnt do it. Blah Blah Blah

She made a few other cracks at nursing like, "I was going to do it but I am content with being an MA, besides Nurses work way too hard for their money, it just isnt worth it to me" My reply was, "well there is a place for everybody in this world and if being an MA is where you are meant to be then that is ok, and if nursing isnt for me, I guess I will find out soon wont I?"

I am just so sick of people that dont even know me try to discourage me from succeeding. I mean what are the chances of running into all insecure people when trying to get everything in order for school. I have to laugh though because if they only knew what I have been through and what I am going through I guess they would think twice about making the cracks they are. Then again, these few people are just completely insecure with themselves, if they really wanted to go to school for nursing they would do whatever it takes to get there.

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Am very happy that you made it into nursing school.

Why are you concerned and let these naysayers get to you?

I don't think they are TRYING to DISCOURAGE you. I think they are just identifying with the your impending "journey". It is alot like if you get pregnant and EVERYone around you knows SOMEONE who has a birthing story and has to tell you about it.

I think it is normal human nature.

What surprises me is that you mention THEY may be "insecure".

I know you state you have been through alot, but from some of your comments it sounds as if you ARE feeling a bit insecure. That is NORMAL, too.

Nursing school is difficult - at least a BSN program is; since I've not done a two or three year program I cannot say how difficult they are....but BSN is hard.

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Just wanted to give you a big hug, nurse2be2007!! :icon_hug: :kiss

I've gotten a few comments, mostly the "why don't you just go to med school?" and the varieties of it. I just smile, and tell them this is the decision I have made and it's the first time I'm content with something and haven't looked back.

Don't let them "steal your thunder" or "steal your wind" (hope you're a "Friends" fan and got those! :p ) You've busted your butt and it's a MAJOR accomplishment to get into nursing school. Surround yourselves with people who are happy for you--whether or not they understand just how hard nursing school is.

I know it's easier said than done, but let the naysayer's comments roll down your back. They're unhappy people, and they probably don't even realize how they're affecting you.

Good luck girlie!!

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Girl, go and be the best Nurse that there ever was. Do your thing. These people don't have what it takes to be a nurse, so be proud that you have the gift. And it seems to me that you are one of the Angels that everyone talks about in the Nursing community. Welcome aboard !!:nurse:

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Specializes in CCRN.

Well you will be sure to get the opposite reaction here.

Congrats!!!!!!!!!

Remember, nursing is not for everyone. Yes, it's hard, school is intense, frustrating and overwhelming. But there you will be surrounded by "your kind", other nursing students going through the same challenges. You will still come across those ney sayers, but once immersed in school you will realize they don't have a clue.

Enjoy the ride! Not everyone has a ticket.

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Specializes in 5 yrs OR, ASU Pre-Op 2 yr. ER.
She then ask me what I am going to school for and I tell her nursing.

It was not her place to ask this.

I'd complain to her employer about all of the comments she made, since there's a firm chance she's done it to others. Jealous or not, she should have kept her mouth shut and just did her job without the uncalled for commentary.

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You'll be fine! I can't wait until you graduate and pass your N-CLEX then you can go back and be like boo ya I'm a nurse rofl!

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Specializes in med/surg, telemetry, IV therapy, mgmt.

Well, first of all, I worked as an IV therapist for 6 years in addition to doing my own IV's for many years as well as drawing blood. Doing this painlessly has nothing to do with talent and everything to do with skill, so the medical assistant who told you that doesn't know what she is talking about and probably doesn't have a clue as to why a needle stick hurts or sometimes doesn't hurt.

Then, think about this. Doesn't it sound kind of stupid for someone working in healthcare to be trashing it? That's like a dog biting the hand that feeds it. That doesn't say much for them. I would have asked why they stay in their profession if it's so bad. And, doing it for a paycheck doesn't count as an answer.

There are just a lot of people in the world that are incredibly negative. Look at the world around you. You won't see very many people with negative views of the world making it to top positions in any profession because these two things just do not go together. A position as an MA or a receptionist isn't that far up the ladder of success, you know? If I was the kid whose mother (the MA you met) was bragging to you about her daughter who quit nursing school, I probably would have ending up quitting school too. The mother's continual negativity is probably part of what drove the kid out of school. You're going to run into a lot of these kinds of negative views around people who have not been very successful in their lives. This kind of thinking robs people of the courage to take chances and venture into the unknown for their own benefit. They are perfectly content and unhappy in their little realms despite what they are telling you. It's a big part of the reason they don't advance much farther in life.

Keep your head up, stay positive, keep an open mind, let comments like those made to you roll off your back, focus on your future. The world looks better and better as you go up the ladder of success. You cannot get caught in that cycle of negativity and disparity yourself or you will never achieve your goals.

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Very well said Daytonite!

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Am very happy that you made it into nursing school.

Why are you concerned and let these naysayers get to you?

I don't think they are TRYING to DISCOURAGE you. I think they are just identifying with the your impending "journey". It is alot like if you get pregnant and EVERYone around you knows SOMEONE who has a birthing story and has to tell you about it.

I think it is normal human nature.

What surprises me is that you mention THEY may be "insecure".

I know you state you have been through alot, but from some of your comments it sounds as if you ARE feeling a bit insecure. That is NORMAL, too.

Nursing school is difficult - at least a BSN program is; since I've not done a two or three year program I cannot say how difficult they are....but BSN is hard.

WOW! Either I didnt explain it well enough or you took my post way out of context! The way these people were acting is NOT in anyway the same as people trying to "relate to my journey". They are rude, condescending and resentful. They are NOT just telling me a story about themselves or someone else they know that has been there done that. Yes the lady whose daughter went to nursing school but didnt finish could have been what you are refering too HOWEVER, her other comments tell a different story!

Me insecure LOL Yea maybe when I was in my younger days but not now. In fact its quite the opposite and most people mistake my confidense as arrogance so hey if you want to call me insecure I will accept that its better than being called arrogant LOL.

I think you took offense to my post and for that I am sorry. However, you are completely off base with your assumptions about my post, you totally took it wrong and well there is nothing I can do about that.

I posted this not to start crap but to get a little feedback from my fellow students about whether they have experienced this or not.

I wasnt upset or letting it get to me, my skin is way to thick for that, rather I couldnt help but find it ironic how these healthcare workers would bash another field.

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Just wanted to give you a big hug, nurse2be2007!! :icon_hug: :kiss

I've gotten a few comments, mostly the "why don't you just go to med school?" and the varieties of it. I just smile, and tell them this is the decision I have made and it's the first time I'm content with something and haven't looked back.

Don't let them "steal your thunder" or "steal your wind" (hope you're a "Friends" fan and got those! :p ) You've busted your butt and it's a MAJOR accomplishment to get into nursing school. Surround yourselves with people who are happy for you--whether or not they understand just how hard nursing school is.

I know it's easier said than done, but let the naysayer's comments roll down your back. They're unhappy people, and they probably don't even realize how they're affecting you.

Good luck girlie!!

Definitely a "Friends" fan LOL. You know what is funny, their comments didnt bother me to the point where it would get me down, rather just the opposite. I found them amusing. It's one of those things where you just had to be there to hear them, the tone of their voice, and so forth.

When I said "insecure" its because that is exactly the way they were acting. Like they needed to justify why they were doing what they were doing verses what I am doing. Needless to say, NOTHING can bring me down LOL I am on cloud 9 and will probably stay there until I pass the NCLEX LOL. I love challenges and welcome all that nursing school has to offer.

Thank you Peachy for the hugs and kind words. My motto is if you cant take what life throws at you, then get out of the line of fire. LOL

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Girl, go and be the best Nurse that there ever was. Do your thing. These people don't have what it takes to be a nurse, so be proud that you have the gift. And it seems to me that you are one of the Angels that everyone talks about in the Nursing community. Welcome aboard !!:nurse:

Thanks Gogetter!!!! :D

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