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Hi All, this is probably more for me than anyone else, but maybe if someone can learn from my situation, they can prevent it for themselves.
I've been on this forum since before I got my LVN back in 2003. I was 20 at the time, and my parents basically said "You have a year to have some sort of career figured out, and then you are on your own." I was a good student and worked full time, but because I wasn't sure what direction I wanted to take in college, they basically forced a decision for me. Not necessarily a bad thing, but I suddenly had a year to figure out how to support myself and streamline some sort of career. Since we were in the midst of a major nursing shortage, I live in California where it's expensive, I decided I'd get my LVN at a trade school, since a community college was going to take significantly longer for a year for me to finish, and I didn't have that much time.
17,000 dollars and a year later...I was an LVN with lots of job opportunities.
I moved in with my boyfriend, life was good, I kept taking prereqs for my RN at the community college. However, instead of being thrifty and focusing on paying the debt off. I went out and had fun with my friends, I was 21, it was supposed to be a fun time. I only managed to pay off about half of it. so still had about 9,000 of the debt.
I finished my prereqs, applied to a couple community colleges, but I didn't realize how hard it is to actually get a spot in a Comunity College at an LVN to RN program. I actually got a job at a Cal State in 2006, and decided since the school was free for me, to take the additional prerequisites and just go there.
2007, we were doing really well financially, but living in a horrible apartment, very cheap, but a bad area. I decided it was time to buy a house. Everyone kept telling us to because prices were only going to go up and up. Mind you, we'd only ever paid 600 a month for this crap apartment and that included utilities. We had no clue what we were getting ourselves into, not how much more utilities would be with a 2000 dollar house payment. But hey, 2007, height of the market even tho we were told buy now.
Jan 2008 - accepted to the BSN program! Absolutely excited, know it's going to be hard to balance the job with part time hours and the school, I was able to make it balance for about one quarter. Then, my husband started getting his hours cut more and more, we couldn't even afford the house payment. I had a bad feeling. I was right. I got accepted to a private ADN program in northern California, I would be done 01/2009 or I could stay in the BSN program where I could no longer balance my job and was going to have to pay out of pocket and be done in 12/2010. 2 years difference, and with money so tight it made sense....35,000 more in debt, on top of the 10,000 I acquired at the BSN program trying to use student loans to pay a mortgage. Plus still the 9,000 from the LVN.
Finish the ADN program and so grateful I did it, my husband got very ill in the middle of it, and we had to stop making the hosue payments and walk away. It was inconceivable with a husband on disability and me so close to getting my RN to having any other choice.
After the ADN I was able to get a job in a New grad program in ICU, very very lucky. I went back to work, but decided, I had already done so much of the work for the BSN...why not finish? I had no money saved up and had to take out more loans to finish, about another 20k, but hey, they say there's so few jobs, and a BSN makes me more marketable.
So at this point:
9000 for the LVN
35,000 for the RN- ADN
10,000 plus then another
20,000 for the same BSN program
74,000
It makes me sick at night, there's so many things I could have done differently. When I was an LVN I could have paid off at least that 9,000 dollar loan, and maybe had some money saved towards the ADN. I definitely should have NEVER tried to buy a house, that would have saved me some of that debt. I could have waited a year to go back for my BSN and at least use tuition reimbursement for an employer. I probably should have sucked it up longer at my first job and been able to at least have tuition reimbursement for part of it the second year of the program.
In any case, that's the disgusting amount I owe, and I hope my "rant" can make someone else realize, the debt isn't always worth it. Honestly, I still do not regret the expensive ADN program, as my husband and I would have been in a much worse situation if I hadn't done it. Supporting two on an LVN salary in California would never have cut it. I just feel like had I made some significantly different decisions, the amount could be much less.
Open to any and all suggestions, at this point, I'm looking desperately at the local VA to see if maybe they have some sort of job that would at least allow some loan reimbursement. The one concern I have is it's a paycut from what I make now, and I am barely scraping by.
Our other problem is I'm trying to support my husband through a career retraining because he can no longer work in his prior field of truck driving with his health condition. Can't really drive a truck for 15 hours with arthritis. And we have no family nearby and the surprise bundle of joy we had last year gets expensive with babysitting.
Hopefully you can consolidate the loans thru a govt program. Remember you can only consolidate once so if rates are low now then that's a good time! If you can't consolidate thru the govt re the private loan be very careful. The private loan should be your first priority, ie pay extra on that first as it is no doubt the most expensive.
Make sure you stay current on the loans, if you consolidate they will stretch out over more years and make the payment more manageable. Also the VA offers college loan repayment so that should help as well!
Don't get behind on your student loans because you can't trust them to offer you a deferment or forbearance. I hear a lot of stories of people thinking they were in deferment and then getting hit with huge student loans with fees and finding their tax returns taken and wages garnished.
I would make paying the loans back your first and top priority! Above even credit card debt and stay away from a mortgage till these are paid off. At this point, there are no consumer protections with student loans, you can't walk away or go bankrupt on them, at least with credit cards you could if need be! Also if you default they can take away your license to practice nursing, it's crazy I know. The govt is bought off by the student loan industry, Sallie Mae's at the top and the banks, they win whether you pay or not. If you default, the govt reimburses them, they send it off to a collection company they own and they start taking money from you any way they can. This can last as long as you or any co-signers are alive. It will not end even with social security or disability.
All you can do now is pay the loans off as quickly as possible and don't miss any payments. The lenders want to put people into default because they win either way and actually get more money in the long wrong if they succeed in putting you in default because they can double or triple what you owe and get double payments, the govt and you. You have no negotiating power with them as they have all the power and you have none! If you owed taxes you could get a lawyer to settle the debt for a lot less, but forget getting a lawyer to help you if you have problems with your student loan.
Keep all your student loan records to make sure there are no "mistakes" and to protect yourself and when you have paid them off in full, keep that record as well. I've even read of people whose student loans were paid off and then many years later a collection agency came along and claimed they hadn't paid their loans and started garnishing their wages and tax returns and the records were missing! So keep all your records, better safe than sorry!
I dont know if you are willing to relocate but for me i believe its worth it. The indian reservations do have loan repayment program based on how much you own but the cap is 20000 a year ( i think if you have 100000 or more) with a commitment of one year.
Thanks for putting this out there as a lot of people dont know what they are getting themselves into and just go along with the public that you would make millions and there's a job waiting for you after school.
I do hope your financial situation gets better and all is well with you and your husband
I really respect you for taking responsibility for some of the bad decisions you have made in life -- and your sincere desire to start making better choices. I wish you and your family the best of luck.I also recommend that you read Dave Ramsey's material. Yes, he has a religious slant that is not for everyone (including me) ... but he offers some great information, advice, and general life philosophy about living frugal that is valuable. You need to learn to live even more cheaply than you have been living and that will not be easy.
You also need to look very carefully at ALL aspects of your financial life and ALL possibilities with an open mind-- e.g. Is there any way your husband can earn any money now without having to spend more money (and go into more debt) for re-training? Maybe the best solution is for you to live on your earnings alone (picking up some extra shifts, etc.) while he becomes a full time house husband and child care provider. That might be financially better until your baby goes to school. The cost of child care and the cost of his retraining may not be worth it at this time time. He may not WANT that solution, but the math may work out best that way. Your earnings as an RN should provide food and shelter for the 3 of you. It may be another foolish decision to spend money on childcare and more money to send your husband to school. Or maybe he could take a few classes online from home while he takes care of the house and child. But don't go deeper into debt because his ego doesn't want him to be a stay-at-home dad.
In regards to childcare, most of his classes have been online, we only use the sitter one day a week for his in person chemistry lab. He actually has finished all the requirements for the respiratory therapy program at the local community college, and they said he will probably be accepted next year. Our fear is that we will not be financially ready and I feel like it isn't fair to him to not be able to go because he has worked so hard for this. I believe it's worth it for him to go to the school, I just haven't figured out how we can afford it.
We have thought about relocating to Northern California or Arizona, where family is who can help watch our child daycare free. But it also adds on an additional year or year and a half of prerequisites. He's willing to do it because it makes no sense to start a program and then have to drop out because of finances. But I'm trying to figure out a way to keep us here. Orange County is so expensive. Our rent alone, and this is a very modest apartment is 1500/month. My wages are good, but I have been unable to pick up extra shifts as I was expecting. The area appears to have become saturated with nurses. Overtime isn't as easy to track down as it used to be.
I appreciate everyone's advice and insight. I read a few of Ramsey's career advice. My husband and I are going to try to go over a tighter budget this weekend. I believe if we haven't found a solution by December, we are going to relocate to one of the other two places (assuming I can find a job).
Direct Loan is supposed to have a consolidation program that will hopefully take over the Sallie Mae private loan. It will lower the interest rate, and has flexible payment plans through the government. I'm also looking into joining the National Guard or the VA for that loan repayment program.
The $35,000 was for 1 year of school going from LVN to RN? That's insane, but I guess CA is expensive. I guess you also get paid more out there in CA where the cost of living is higher. Since you have no family in the area, and you are the primary income, why not move? Move to an area with lower cost of living? I would suggest some areas that are pretty awesome, but I don't want to give away my identity on a public website lol.
Maybe sell that house, bank the money, and make a fresh start for yourselves elsewhere. I know it's hard to sell right now, but you can only try. I mean....I hear CA really isn't doing that well on the news anyway, so why stay? There are places in the country that are actually doing fairly well economically right now, places where your husband would have better chance for employment. I know CA is supposed to be beautiful (never been there yet), but there are other beautiful places in the country that are not so expensive. You could sell your house there, live in an apartment in a place with a lower cost of living, and actually live in a nice apartment that is safe!! and then buy a house (that will probably cost half as much as your other home in CA) once you and your hubby are more stable financially. Is your husband pretty handy? he could go to a 2 year program for electrician or welding; that's a good paycheck, and many people do not have those skills anymore. If his arthritis is that bad, that may not be possible.
Just a suggestion, and something I would probably do. I know moving isn't everyone's cup of tea, but I did it and moved about 1,000 miles from where I had previously lived, and do not regret it. Love it here :). And...before that, I lived far from family, as well. Good luck to you! Hindsight is 20/20...just remember that, and move on.
I've been on this forum since before I got my LVN back in 2003. I was 20 at the time, and my parents basically said "You have a year to have some sort of career figured out, and then you are on your own." I was a good student and worked full time, but because I wasn't sure what direction I wanted to take in college, they basically forced a decision for me. Not necessarily a bad thing, but I suddenly had a year to figure out how to support myself and streamline some sort of career.
When I was a senior in high school, my parents verbalized the expectation that by the time I graduated from high school, I should be ready to choose a field of study, get my degree, and begin working immediately after college as a fully independent adult. Most of the kids I knew lived with similar parental expectations. Not knowing which direction I wanted to take would not have swayed them from this stance. I paid for much of my degree myself, between working the entire time I was in school and winning some scholarships; I also did receive some help from my parents, for which I was extremely grateful.
I moved in with my boyfriend, life was good, I kept taking prereqs for my RN at the community college. However, instead of being thrifty and focusing on paying the debt off. I went out and had fun with my friends, I was 21, it was supposed to be a fun time. I only managed to pay off about half of it. so still had about 9,000 of the debt.
It doesn't seem you are really complaining about your parents, but I applaud them. I have noticed a trend in recent years that kids seem to stay "kids" for much longer, and view the 18-23 years as time for "fun" rather than the time to lay the groundwork for their career so that they can be completely independent. Parents are often expected to fund this "fun" time while their kids postpone the introspection which is necessary to finding direction. You clearly did not do that, but it seems that you did falter a bit while nursing the expectation that this time of your life was supposed to be directed towards having fun rather than investing in your future. I found that you can actually do both if you play your cards right and manage your time and finances well.
It seems you made some very poor choices and are now suffering the consequences of these decisions now. Your message is a very valuable one and it is good that you are looking back and realizing the folly of your choices so that you can benefit the young readers here. I think you should post this in the nursing student forums as well.
Things are bound to look up for you. You are taking responsibility, have gained some wisdom in spite of the painful way you learned these lessons, and will no doubt overcome your challenges eventually. Good luck.
I was in the drs. office today and picked up a magazine to leaf through and came across an article about a small rural town in Missouri that was so desperate for doctors and nurses that they were offering all sorts of loan payoff incentives, and even to help finance education for anyone who wanted to come there and commit to work for several years. Can't remember the name of the town. Albany I think?
But the article was referring to that area as an example of a larger national trend of rural areas going to some pretty exteme lengths to attract healthcare workers and hold onto them.
It's possible that this is all a bunch of hooey, in the same vein as the mythical "nursing shortage" but have you looked into more rural areas?
Didn't see your previous post. Well, RT would be a good choice for him, assuming there are RT jobs in your area and the ones you are considering relocating to. How is the job market in the area you are considering moving to? Family support would be nice for your child, but without a job, it wouldn't do you much good. It sounds like both of you need to be working right now to pay off the loans...some hospitals actually provide child care, too....don't know which ones since this isn't an issue for me yet lol. I wouldn't relocate until both myself and my husband had landed a job, but that's just me; economy is too risky right now otherwise. But, good luck! You will get through this, and your ICU experience should help you land another job easier than other nursing areas than you could have chosen!
I almost went to a private school, and something told me I shouldnt because of the amount of debt, and I have decided to wait it out at the CC. This is a lot of debt, and it can be scary, but just remember its not the end, and you will be able to get out of it. I have heard of a program through the state that pays your loan or part of your student loan if you work in a underserved area for a certain amount of time. I am not sure if this is still available and I am also not sure where to find information. I would google something like "government loan repayment in California" its worth a try...
So today I talked with my lender and also with the other loan company I was looking at consolidating. My student loans are not elegible for consolidation, and the big private one with a variable interest rate is not eligible for government loan payoff.
So those who ARE thinking of doing a private loan, and that the government will pay it off, or you will figure it out. Please keep in mind how ridiculously hard it will be to pay off!
Thanks for the suggestions all, my husband and I are looking at everything. The job market is horrible in Northern California where we would have to move to be closer to family. I imagine it's better in Phoenix...but it's really a last resort as I don't really get along with that portion of my family that well.
My biggest concern with moving to another area is the drastic paycut...I average about 42/hr now on nights. I imagine moving elsewhere while cheaper, will the salary be enough to make the difference I need to make payments on these loans? Just food for thought. :)
Oh, and to the person who asked if I could sell my place. I lost my house 1 1/2 years ago, 1500 is rent for a tiny apartment. I had to file bankruptcy because of my other debt already. I'm not proud of it, but I had to do something to support my child and husband.
I'm impressed with the amount of thoughtful response in this thread. Thanks everyone :) I am open to suggestions as far as places to live, if someone wants to PM suggestions.
I haven't read all these threads. I felt like crying just reading ur story
Nicki, I am in debt up to my freakin' eyeballs. I have many, many sleepless nights due to this. I have loans and one fine I'm trying to pay off, unsuccessfully. I just hurt my shoulder muscle & have had to rest it this week.
I don't know all the different degrees over there, but I think you were trying to do too much what with ur hubby getting ill & having a baby (I realise this didn't happen all at once).
I think the best way out of your predicament is to either:
- Move in with your parents or hubby's parents or with some other relative to save money. Easier said than done, I know, I lived with my Mum for most of my study - never again in this lifetime will I do that.
- Go to your bank/a bank/a credit union with the lowest interest rates and get a debt consolidation loan. I did this once when I overmaxed my credit card (I know, I was young & stupid; now I'm old & stupid!). Most banks etc have very good debt consolidation loans. This way, you will only have ONE payment to make, but u need to be savvy and say you want it over the maximum amount of years of the loan - don't let them talk u into paying it off in (for example) 3 years. But be warned: you will have to pay to get the loan established, however, it's better than worrying endlessly about debt when ur trying to sleep. Also, shop around for the best loan you can get. DO NOT go to loan sharks or businesses who advertise giving out quick loans, go to an established financial institution.
U will have to move & economise too. There are lots of ways to save money, bying at opportunity shops, buying supermarket brand foods, cooking cheap but nutritious meals. I had to economise something shocking when I did my last 6 week clinical with nary a penny from anyone.
Can your hubby do other work with his arthritis, maybe one day a week during his re-training? I'm sorry u aren't getting any other support at the mo. You need to rally ur family & friends around you.
If I think of anything else I'll post again. I hope u find some sort of peace soon.
HouTx, BSN, MSN, EdD
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My heart goes out to the OP and all others who find themselves in a similar situation. In many states, the crushing burden of student loans is even worse since anyone in default cannot renew a professional license. Student loan debt is rising astronomically in the US, and is predicted to become an economic disaster that will make the real estate bust seem like a mere blip.
I also feel compelled to clarify the language that is used so often when describing the different types of schools. Please do not refer to commercial (investor owned) entities as "private". Private schools/universities are traditional academic (not for profit) organizations that are not supported by governmental entities. Schools that do have governmental support are called "Public" in the US. The primary goal for commercial schools is profit - just like any other for-profit company. They will continue to charge whatever they can and as long as demand is high, their costs will be also.