The bully strikes again

I'm thinking that I don't like this nurse- the bully. BUT...

I also think Whistling is not going to brighten anyones day (usually its annoying unless you are the one whistling)...but of the unprofessional things I've seen, this one is pretty minor, In my unit, it would be either be overlooked, or the whistler would be made so much fun of (Called one of the 7 dwarves...etc) that it would soon quit.

Perfume in my opinion is not acceptable in the workplace.

Yes, the bully could have been more tactful, or nicer, but...

Maybe it was annoying, but I have heard many people do it and the grouch wouldn't dare say anything to any of them.

There are other more important issues, like, me not getting report from her until 1/2 hour after my shift started...and when I do get report she talks at 200 MPH and gets huffy when I ask her to slow down. She has also given me wrong info in report, which I believe is purposely done. Then of course, a million little things she does that HR may or may not roll their eyes at if I jot all of it down. Mom told me I need to report the "little" things (like the perfume) b/c they really add up, but I don't want to sound like a :rotfl:

As far as the perfume thing, our handbook has nothing about NOT being able to wear perfume. As a matter of fact during my hospital orintation, a nurse represenative was giving an example of dayshift, and stated something along the lines of "When I worked days on Med/Surg I was ready to go and tackle my assignment every morning. I had coffee in my hand, freshly showered, a squirt of perfume on, had a good nights sleep..."

My argument with the perfume thing is, Ok, she didn't like it. She could have pulled me aside and told me so, and I would have been fine with it.

I don't like how she stinks like cigs, and I don't think she would like it very much if I told her so...in front of everyone.

I don't like how she stinks like cigs.

Maybe you should have told her that!

:chuckle No, i'm just kidding! Don't listen to me. I'm so sorry that she's making your job awful. Is she like that with everyone or just you?

Stop giving her so much power over your feelings. Confront her directly, in private, whenever she does inappropriate things. Good luck.

Maybe you should have told her that!

:chuckle No, i'm just kidding! Don't listen to me. I'm so sorry that she's making your job awful. Is she like that with everyone or just you?

Just me. Most of the other nurses are her smoking buddies. Seriously.

Tell me about this one, guys. is it worth reporting to my manager or HR??

I was looking for a pair of keys to open a double locked drawer on the med cart. They are usually in a certain drawer at the desk. Often, the keys are pushed to the back or under papers and require some searching. Well, I was searching thru it, and I must have PO'd the GROUCHY unit clerk who was sitting next to the drawer on a personel phone call (she is the bullys buddy). She said to me in a VERY condescending tone "the keys aren't in there. Someone must have them. Now go find them" as she quickly slammed the drawer shut, practically catching my hands in it.

Stop giving her so much power over your feelings. Confront her directly, in private, whenever she does inappropriate things. Good luck.

I also like prmenrs' idea of "killing with kindness"...it often does the trick.

I also like prmenrs' idea of "killing with kindness"...it often does the trick.

You see, I am the sweetest and nicest person, wanting/willing to do anything to please these people for the past 9 weeks. I jump out of my seat to do things, always asking people if they need help, give compliments, rarely have time to take a lunch. This kindness thing isn't working.

I may have a different job lined up that has a union! However, I haven't even intervieed yet, but I always do well in interviews and have a family member that works there, so I may stand a chance. The bad part is, they take forever to hire (3 months typically). i don't know if I can take it there for 3 more months. I could always transfer to a different unit promptly, but I don't believe I want to put THAT unit thru the grief of training me, only to see me go PRN shortly after, that is, IF I get the job.

I often times really feel like my license is at risk. It is a Burn ICU, and I have pretty much taken my "own" patients since the 3rd week, with my preceptor around to help , even though she had her pt/pt's as well. The way I desribed to you how I get report now that I am on my own, and the fact that I am often times to scared of getting fried or made fun of for simply (non life threating) Q's is not how it is suppose to be.

When I was giving report to a night shifter, I told her about how labs were ordered on a patient 15 minutes ago and Dr.X is to be called with the results. I told her the unit clerk sent the order to lab. She asked me what time she sent it for and I didn't know, I told her the unit clerk knew it was to be STAT. She got huffy and asked me to "look it up on the computer". So, I got on the lab page on the computer, but honestly didn't know how to find out the "time" the clerk requested it be drawn. I told her "Here is the lab page, but I don't know if I am on the wrong page. I have never done this." She didn't say a word. Instead, she let out a big sigh, picked up the phone and called lab herself and asked them. Never showed me or told me what page to go to. Instead, she got pissy and made me feel so small.

Here I am trying to lighten everyones day a bit by softly whistling as I was sharpeing my pencil, which I have heard other people do, and she told me to stop and not to ever whistle in front of her again b/c she hates whistling.

She told me my perfume stunk and makes her eyes water in front of eveyone at the nurses station. It was embarassing. It is NOT strong at all.

Yes, she could have been much more polite.

But, whether others do it or not, perfume/scent really should not be considered remotely acceptable for nurses. If another can smell it, then it is too strong.

And whistling, along with humming, etc. can be annoying beyond all belief. In some units, they play the radio, and then you will have one nurse humming something completely different, another with the sound on ..on the computer watching an interview and the cacophony is INSANE!!!!!! Add in the normal bells and alarms, and it can make one want to go postal.

These things happen to experienced nurses, also. I was on assignment in Florida (I have yet to have had an assignment in Florida that didn't have staff members that treated me like garbage...and I am a native Floridian), and they had assigned "pods" for the nurses working in certain areas of the unit. I had set up my station in the assigned pod. Another nurse dumped my stuff, told me that it was her seat ...even though her assigned pod was way down the hall. Same witch made nasty comments all the way thorough my assignment about "travelers this, travelers that". The management wanted me to return/re-sign for another 13 weeks, but I said, "No way".