Stressful Times and Sometimes Lonely... Can Anyone Relate?

Soon-2B-RN · Feb 26, 2006

You can do it! Don't give up. You will look back and think "Wow this all went so quickly". At least that's what happend to me. I am 25, married with two kids 6yrs and 3 yrs. I started pre nursing school in Fall 2004 and now I graduate in May. My dad died when I was 16 and me and my mom don't talk they all live really far away. You can do this!

kukukajoo, LPN · Feb 26, 2006

Hang in there I know how you feel!! I think most on here can relate! I am a single mom with three kids- two in college at the moment and one of those not speaking to me for a couple weeks(gotta love the teen years). .

I have no family other than an 85 year grandma and a 88 great aunt who need my help but are both sources of strength.

I miss having my mom to whine to- she made everything okay just by listening to what i had to say.

I have two years to go and I am determined to make it work no matter how lonely and hard it gets. I saw a counselor when I was going thru my divorce a few years back and sometimes i will make an appt just to have a sounding board. She is like my own private cheering squad!!

Kathyz · Feb 26, 2006

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We all feel lonely at times, even if our parents are around (I see my mom just about everyday for lunch).

It's certainly OK to have these feelings. Just stay focused on your goal, your children and your boyfriend.

Good luck!

stpauligirl · Feb 26, 2006

the thing is..... i'm a 23-year old pre-nursing student. i live with my boyfriend and our 2 kids (4 yr old girl and 4 mo old boy). it's really stressful a lot of times, of course making sure i spend quality time with my kids as well as working hard in school (i even was taking my a&p class while i was 7 months pregnant with my boy, and missed only 1 week after he was born). i know of course pre-nursing and nursing is stressful in general (everyone knows that), but... both my parents passed away when i was 14. i have a sister and bro that i speak to and see on occasions and i have the support of my relatives who live an hour away, as well as the support of my boyfriend's family, and fortunately, my boyfriend (who we've been together for almost 9 years this march) that supports me and has always been there for me, and of course my 2 kids that i adore... but... i still feel lonely at times...
maybe it's the fact that i am not able to talk to or see my parents and ask for advice, or be able to laugh with them when i get a good grade on a test, or stress to them when i didn't do my best. i just want to show them that i can do this, that i can become a registered nurse and make them proud...
i believe everything happens for a reason. like having my 2 angels to keep me going, keep me driven to pursue what i love. i want to do this for them... have them proud of their "mommy" and do this for my parents...have them proud of their daughter... but most importantly, i want to do this for me.
it's just hard at times

talk about stressful and lonely....my husbnd is leaving today for many month, he is in the military. i am in school, have our son, a house, a yard, 2 elderly dogs and 3 cats to take care of and all that in a foreign country on top of everything! i will be very lonely, i have no family anywhere close.

Marie_LPN, RN, LPN, RN · Feb 26, 2006

I just want to show them that I can do this, that I can become a Registered Nurse and make them proud...

Do it for yourself though.

Multicollinearity, BSN, RN · Feb 26, 2006

I'm sorry you are having a hard time. I feel lonely too. I looked at some of the threads I've started and noticed that they are all fear-based. For me fear and loneliness go together, I don't know about you?

It sounds like perhaps you could benefit from an extended social network of your own that doesn't include family? People just for you. I myself am moderately anti-religion however I'm a member of a Unitarian church. It's so good to be able to go to lunches, breakfast meetings for women, and feel a circle of love. I am reminding myself to get back to it.

Another idea would be if you could see a therapist. I've done that in the past. There's nothing like being able to talk for an hour about just yourself, totally self-focussed it a nurturing environment. 'Epiphany central' I like to call therapy.

Hang in there, and take care of yourself.

stpauligirl · Feb 26, 2006

the thing is..... i'm a 23-year old pre-nursing student. i live with my boyfriend and our 2 kids (4 yr old girl and 4 mo old boy). it's really stressful a lot of times, of course making sure i spend quality time with my kids as well as working hard in school (i even was taking my a&p class while i was 7 months pregnant with my boy, and missed only 1 week after he was born). i know of course pre-nursing and nursing is stressful in general (everyone knows that), but... both my parents passed away when i was 14. i have a sister and bro that i speak to and see on occasions and i have the support of my relatives who live an hour away, as well as the support of my boyfriend's family, and fortunately, my boyfriend (who we've been together for almost 9 years this march) that supports me and has always been there for me, and of course my 2 kids that i adore... but... i still feel lonely at times...
maybe it's the fact that i am not able to talk to or see my parents and ask for advice, or be able to laugh with them when i get a good grade on a test, or stress to them when i didn't do my best. i just want to show them that i can do this, that i can become a registered nurse and make them proud...
i believe everything happens for a reason. like having my 2 angels to keep me going, keep me driven to pursue what i love. i want to do this for them... have them proud of their "mommy" and do this for my parents...have them proud of their daughter... but most importantly, i want to do this for me.
it's just hard at times

i am very sorry for your loss, you were very young and your parents left you during a very critical age. i think teenagers need their parents even more at that time than younger kids....so much is going on with teenagers physically and emotionally. there is no time limit on grieving. i would suggest a counselor who specializes on this issue. and good luck in persuing your dream to become a nurse. ( i am sorry i should have said this in the first place)

Multicollinearity, BSN, RN · Feb 26, 2006

I cannot believe I missed that sentence in your post about your parents being deceased. I am so sorry. I cannot imagine your pain.

Is there any way you could go to therapy? It's not that you are flawed, just that it can be so helpful when someone is stuck in pain. I know, it's helped me. Hugs to you. Hang in there.

stacyinMD · Feb 26, 2006

Just wanted to offer you a hug! Just know that you can do this!! But do this for you! We're here if you're feeling lonely :)

stpauligirl · Feb 26, 2006

I cannot believe I missed that sentence in your post about your parents being deceased. I am so sorry. I cannot imagine your pain.
Is there any way you could go to therapy? It's not that you are flawed, just that it can be so helpful when someone is stuck in pain. I know, it's helped me. Hugs to you. Hang in there.

I've been through counseling too, and sometimes it takes a little shopping around before finding a good one. But it helped and I am doing much better these days. This might sound crazy but I actually went through grief counseling even though my parents are still very much alive! Grief comes from so many different sources and it can wreck your life if it's not dealt with appropriately.

Trauma Columnist · Feb 26, 2006

I want to extend another hug. Please hang in there and come post when the stress gets too much. You also have to learn what is important when you have so much on your plate. The dishes can wait, the dusting and ironing, etc can all wait. Good luck and let us know how it is going.