Stop being so miserable

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I have to vent a little on this issue guys.

I am in nursing school and during almost every clinical, its guaranteed that I will see a nurse that is miserable, that looks like this is the last place he/she wants to be. I am sorry, but no one is holding a gun to your head and forcing you to be here.

Nobody likes being in a hospital, and it really brings you down. Seeing someone who is positive and overall happy helps the healing process IMHO. If a patient is sad and depressed, and then sees a nurse who is miserable and just not happy, it doesnt help the overall mood of the patient. I know this first hand because my mom was in the hospital for over 3 months and her biggest problem was negative nurses. She even yelled at a couple of them saying why are you miserable, your not the one in the hospital bed.

I know we are all human and nobody is perfect, but at least try to mask some of it or try not to let your emotions show. I get it, nurses are underpaid and overworked and underappreciated. Well, that can be said to almost every other profession out there. So please, for the sake of our patients, try to be a little positive and look at the big picture, it can always be worse!

Specializes in Pediatric Critical Care, Cardiac, EMS.
I am fully aware that people come from different perspectives but it DOES get old when not-yet nurses come here to complain about how mean, rude and miserable us "bitter old nurses" are. Same song, different day.

Let them take their complaints to the Student forum...you don't see me running over there complaining about how dumb the student nurses are ;)

That's why I said decide instead of realize. I've worked in a lot of different environments, and after many years, I've learned that if I don't take things as personal, even if they are meant that way, I'm not bothered. It stops being my problem and stays the other person's problem. Life is much better that way. It works for me.

But again, I could be wrong.

Specializes in Med-Surg Nursing.

TDFlMedicRN, I'm guessing you too are a male? Only asking because, your last response is definitely not estrogen laden :D

Specializes in Pediatric Critical Care, Cardiac, EMS.
TDFlMedicRN, I'm guessing you too are a male? Only asking because, your last response is definitely not estrogen laden :D

Yeah, my wife says the same thing.

Funny, that. :rolleyes:

I am in nursing school and during almost every clinical, its guaranteed that I will see a nurse that is miserable, that looks like this is the last place he/she wants to be.

Yeah. Of course, you might have that look if you suddenly lost a family member, or have a kid in trouble with the law, or are going through a divorce, or can't make the rent because you didn't get your child support. On the other hand, being a perfect nursing student, these kinds of things could never happen to you.

I am in nursing school and during almost every clinical, its guaranteed that I will see a nurse that is miserable

I actually like to precept new nurses, but with a student I am forced to pretend to do things "by the book" and that makes me miserable.

Specializes in Case mgmt., rehab, (CRRN), LTC & psych.

Good day! :)

We are all reasonably intelligent and mature adults with different life experiences. While it is perfectly acceptable to openly disagree with someone's viewpoint, it is absolutely not permissible to resort to explicit name-calling.

I am sincerely appreciative of the majority of the members who posted without directly calling anyone names. Let's please keep the dialogue going in a respectful manner.

Thanks so much!

There is never an excuse for taking ones stresses out on the patient. That being said, I won't mince words when I say that anyone who goes into nursing these days is going to find out why all those nurses are so miserable. It's a thankless, political, unstable, nurse eat nurse world out there. You'll feel differently when you are 7 yrs out of school still stuck on a night shift rotation, unable to get vacation time and harassed when you are sick.

Let us know how you feel in a few years.

Just mho.

I have a degree in marketing, and I have worked in the corporate world. Its really not that different. Your company asks too much of you, pays you too little, and wayyyy under appreciates your hard work. This type of corporate culture is not exclusive to Nursing. This is more of a societal problem IMHO really.

If it's not exclusive to nursing, then why did you feel the need to come here and tell nurses to stop being so miserable? Do you go to marketing, accounting, MD, and teacher forums too and make the same posts and tell them how they should feel and act? As you can see, comments like that are not well-received when they're coming from someone who has no experience with actually working as a nurse.

Many of us had other careers before becoming a nurse. Many of us have been patients. I'm not sure why people feel the need to post here to "enlighten" nurses as to what it's like outside of nursing.

Specializes in LTC.

When I was a student I thought these things too...Now I don't think them anymore.

Specializes in Oncology; medical specialty website.
I have to vent a little on this issue guys.

I am in nursing school and during almost every clinical, its guaranteed that I will see a nurse that is miserable, that looks like this is the last place he/she wants to be. I am sorry, but no one is holding a gun to your head and forcing you to be here.

Nobody likes being in a hospital, and it really brings you down. Seeing someone who is positive and overall happy helps the healing process IMHO. If a patient is sad and depressed, and then sees a nurse who is miserable and just not happy, it doesnt help the overall mood of the patient. I know this first hand because my mom was in the hospital for over 3 months and her biggest problem was negative nurses. She even yelled at a couple of them saying why are you miserable, your not the one in the hospital bed.

I know we are all human and nobody is perfect, but at least try to mask some of it or try not to let your emotions show. I get it, nurses are underpaid and overworked and underappreciated. Well, that can be said to almost every other profession out there. So please, for the sake of our patients, try to be a little positive and look at the big picture, it can always be worse!

Since you are not a mind-reader, it's really best that you not judge why that nurse looks unhappy. There could be many very good reasons for it. And since you are not yet a nurse, you do not know what it is like to carry the burden of working in such a high stress job on a day to day basis. As a student, you get a limited view of what things are like on clinical. It would be wise for you to withhold your judgement of nurses until you become one and know what it is like to walk the walk, day after day.

Specializes in Education, FP, LNC, Forensics, ED, OB.

Closed for review.

I'm ashamed of many members here.

Specializes in Education, FP, LNC, Forensics, ED, OB.

This thread will not be reopened.

Again, we are ashamed of so many posters in this thread.

Rarely do judgmental posts work out (as evidenced by this thread).

Also, when students come to the General Nursing forum and start advising seasoned nurses how they should act, react, it does nothing but divide the membership: nurse vs student

We have Student forums designed for the student to post questions related to all things nursing as it relates to the student; seasoned nurses will come along and offer advice when/if necessary.

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