Can I vent to all of you and ask for some input??? My husband ( this is his user name)... is 15 months out from graduating. We have three kids, 7, 4 and 10 months. I am an RN working weekend incentive, and we have been doing this for almost 3 years ( 1 year BSN, 1 year pre-reqs, 1 year into CRNA program). I hate my job, but make great money and carry benefits. We are at the point where we both feel absolutely fried. I work Sat and Sun nite, sleep Mon, pay the sitter, clean the house on Tues, do Laundry and go grocery shopping on Wednesday, take Thursday off, and get ready on Friday to do it all over. All the while driving the older two to school, T-ball, swimming, etc. Hubby starts 5 day clinicals in 5 weeks ( up to this point he had only 4 days ) We are contemplating me going per diem at the end of the summer, which means more loans and $750 a month for COBRA, but also dropping from every weekend to minimum 2 days a month and maybe saving my sanity. 3-11 is not an option around here, even though I would love it. Am I crazy/selfish/lazy?? Do I just need to suck it up? I have intentions to go back to PNP school when he is done, so I am not about riding his coat tails through this. Please let me have it!! Thanks
I know how it feels to be a stressed out mom. My advice is to get a housekeeper to come once or twice a week just to give you energy for other things in your life. This may cost some money, but will save you a lot of time and help to destress the situation.
If you think you can handle the debt then maybe more loans is the way to go. But after reading your wifes original post I don't think quitting her job is the answer. If I understand correctly she is only working 8 days a month. The original post went to great lengths to make this sound like a busy schedule "Sleep Monday", "Take Thursday off" and "Get ready to do it again on Friday". It sounds to me like maybe deppression might be a possibility.
This is the wife again.... My "only working" 8 days a month means that I am away from my family for "only" 8 days a month. They recently did a study that stated a mom with three kids works the equivalent of 2 full time jobs. Throw in my part time job at "only" eight days a month and I think I am pulling more than my fair share. My "sleeping monday" means about 5 hours after working a twelve, and taking thursday off means I put a hold on housework so I can spend time with the kids. Getting ready on friday means grocery store, laundry, cleaning house, running kids so that my husband has time to study while he takes care of the kids on the weekend after putting in about 50 hours of school time. I don't feel that depression is a factor here whatsoever, and anyone who has been in this situation would understand that.
If you think you can handle the debt then maybe more loans is the way to go. But after reading your wifes original post I don't think quitting her job is the answer. If I understand correctly she is only working 8 days a month. The original post went to great lengths to make this sound like a busy schedule "Sleep Monday", "Take Thursday off" and "Get ready to do it again on Friday". It sounds to me like maybe deppression might be a possibility.
I don't have kids but I can certainly see that the original poster's routine sounds like hell on wheels. I think it's quite thoughtless and ignorant to say that since she only works 8 (night) shifts a month she should be doing great despite no sleep, three children and a husband consumed with school and study. I get pretty darn tired just doing my 36 hours some weeks.
SoulShine75
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I know how it feels to be a stressed out mom.
My advice is to get a housekeeper to come once or twice a week just to give you energy for other things in your life. This may cost some money, but will save you a lot of time and help to destress the situation.
Hope it gets better soon! :)
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