So upset right now I could spit nails...

[NurseCard]

How do I begin this? If anyone has followed my posts on here, you know that I have

pretty much run my nursing career into the ground. I mean, I started out nine years

ago in a great hospital, with a promising med/surge career; I could only go up. Nine

years later... I'm LUCKY to get hired by a lousy LTC.

Things were truly looking up recently, about three weeks ago,

when I got a phone call completely out of

the blue, from a HH company that I had actually interviewed with MONTHS ago, but

got passed over for the job; it was a job that I would have REALLY liked to

have had. They called me out of the blue wanted to talk to me again, about

another position. I was so excited; I interviewed again for the position. THought

I had it in the bag, but had to do a second interview. Second interview, didn't

go so well, but honestly I didn't think it went THAT bad, not enough for

me to lose the position?? I didn't go as well as I would have liked, but...

I happened to mention to a former friend of mine, someone that I still "network"

with, but this person is "former" for a reason.... that I was trying to get a

psych HH position. Fast forward to now... it's been almost two weeks since

the second interview. I still haven't gotten a job offer; I really thought I would

have by now.

I contacted above mentioned "friend" this morning because I needed some

info concerning former supervisors, from a place where we have both worked.

For reference reasons. Come to found out, this "friend" now has a psych HH

job, with the company that I just happened to be trying to get hired with!

Arrrrrgh!!!! I know this sounds jealous and psycho, but I swear I wouldn't

put it past this person that they went after the EXACT same position that

I was trying to get!!! What really makes me mad is that this person is a

selfish, self serving, non caring... arrrrgh, words I can't use on here!! This

person is also a MALE, very good looking I will admit, and could charm the

pants off of a goat. He does so in order to get everything and anything that

he ever wants!!!! OH, it makes me mad. He's a horrible nurse; he doesn't

really care about his patients, he only cares about having the easiest job

possible. Give him even a little bit of WORK, and he doesn't want to do it.

Which is probably why he won't last in that job anyway, but I digress..

Okay, so *sigh* the above was a rant about how this person gets everythig

he ever wants by being charming and cute, while I have to feed my family (he's single

with one grown child and one almost out of HS), and can't find a job.

What I really would like to know, if you have read this far (and bless your heart

if you have).... SHOULD I call the HH place on Monday and make them tell

me once and for all, if I'm still up for a job there or not? I would still very

much like to work for them, and I'm tired of waiting for a yay or nay answer

from them.

My brother was right... I need to just quit whining and being so whishy washy

and just GO FOR IT, both with this job, and just with life in general.

[trauma_lama, BSN]

No advice, just a nudge and a wink and a "you can do it!" :-)This "friend" sounds like a piece of soft formed stool... I wish you the best, and try to remember that karma can be a powerful cosmic punitive tool. Good luck!

[VivaLasViejas, ASN, RN]

That's the classiest way to say "POS" that I've ever heard....

[rubato, ASN, RN]

Thank you for sharing your experience. I'm starting NS this fall, and have a big problem of sharing WAY too much information. I will try really hard to learn from this example and NOT tell any of my classmates anything about potential jobs. They are, after all, my competition in the job market.

Sorry this happened to you.

[DIVA-RNMOM24]

You did mention that this person was a "former friend for a reason" Why would you think to network with a person you don't trust? I know you may have been hopeful but a tiger always shows its strips. It's sad and unfortunate in the nursing profession we can't have each others back but instead we back stabb. I've learned like many have mentioned here to keep your job search between you and God, he's the only one that you can count on having your back and making things happen!!! And ALWAYS be careful of who you share your dreams with cause not everyone (including family & friends) will want the best for you! So keep with the job search and good luck! God Bless

[exnavygirl-RN]

Definitely call and see if you are still being considered. At least you will know and can move on. You're "acquaintance" will get his in the end. He won't be able to use good looks to get out of losing his license once he really screws up.

[NurseCard, ADN]

I don't really talk to or regularly network with this person; the reason I had emailed him in the

first place a few weeks ago, was because his girlfriend is my current supervisor, I hadn't seen her in a

couple of weeks, and I needed either for her to get in contact with me, or for him to give me'

her contact number so I could ask her if I could use her for a reference.

I just happened to mention the HH position at that time, which was dumb, dumb, dumb.

I didn't mention the exact company that I was applying to, but it's fairly obvious; it's

the only company around right now that uses psych nurses.

Oh well, lesson learned. I actually doubt somewhat that he really did get the exact

same position I was trying to get; what burns me up the most... well, never mind.

[nurseprnRN, BSN, RN]

"don't tell anyone even family where you are interviewing specifically. family sometimes just even mentions to a neighbor or something and before you know it... just try not to give details."

i was fed up with a job once and doing some interviews. i spoke with one place and we hit it off well, and i was reasonably sure i would be asked to take the position. the next monday boss called me into his office, and said he had heard i was interviewing elsewhere. turned out my boss's secretary went to church with the person i interviewed with, who told her that someone from our office was interviewing, gave her my name, and the whole thing. she ran right in first thing monday morning and told him all about it. i was livid.

my husband says that if someone in his office had been found to be interviewing elsewhere it would be, "pack up your personal belongings, clean your desk, and be out of here in an hour." for me i was surprised to hear, "what would it take to keep you working for me ?" i had been thinking so much about what made an otherwise pretty decent job intolerable that i had a ready answer, so i figured what the hell, and told him. i got all of it, and stayed for another year or so. but i wouldn't recommend counting on that kind of luck (or a boss's desperation).

[OKNurse2be]

As a nursing student, this thread has taught me a lesson. I don't think I will be discussing future job offers beyond with my husband or mother from now on. I may make "friends" in school, but when the time comes to secure a job, these friends and I will be competing for the same jobs and things could get ugly. Better to play it like a poker game and keep my cards close to my chest.. so to speak.

OP: Keep your chin up. Don't let this get you down. Learn from this experience and move on. I have experienced times where things just seemed to fall apart, but then something better came along and if things hadn't fallen apart, I never would have experienced the "something better." Everything happens for a reason, so just keep trucking and it will all work out.

[Horseshoe, BSN, RN]

Okay, so *sigh* the above was a rant about how this person gets everythig

he ever wants by being charming and cute, while I have to feed my family (he's single

with one grown child and one almost out of HS), and can't find a job.

I get that you are venting, but how is the fact that he is single relevant to any of your complaints? Single people need to work just as much as people who are married and have kids.

Secondly, even cute and charming people don't get "everything they ever want." You are likely projecting that on him.

Sorry you didn't get the job. Unfortunately a lesson learned the hard way-always hold your cards close to your vest.

I'm betting things will look up for you soon.

[Horseshoe, BSN, RN]

You can either sit there and let the giant wave of life wash over you or you can get on your surf board and ride it.

I love that saying! I plan to use it in the future, along with the other great quote from the "You are not a nurse" thread ("You can stick feathers up your butt, but that doesn't make you a chicken").