Should I resign or am I overreacting?

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Do you think it is feasible to stay on a job who's threatening you with the BON and suspending you without providing reason? An incident happened (previous post), but when I asked for the grounds or reason wanting to report to BON I did not receive an answer. This was the response to my "4 page letter asking these questions:” I will not doing anything without giving you a heads up. HR Director and I are meeting at .... I didn't even get an answer as to how long I am suspended. I wanted the answers for a peace of mind and to prepare if necessary, but they're not providing anything. What should I do? Should I have contacted HR first? I never had to deal with a situation like this, and almost have zero guidance. Keep in mind...what I think they would try to present to the board will not stand, because I didn't put anyones safety at harm. Should I resign or am I overreacting?  Thanks in advance for your responses. 

8 minutes ago, MunoRN said:

From your explanation of the situation previously, I would agree that nothing reportable to the BON occurred, but I'd also be surprised if you have a job to resign from at this point.

Thank you for your honest opinion! That may very well be the case. The crazy thing is I never had a write up or disciplinary issue. I see this issue as a matter of 2 employees having a disagreement and one going home (myself) to diffuse the situation. Thank you for your response.  

5 minutes ago, MunoRN said:

I don't disagree that it's best to do what you feel you really need to do in these situations, but your description of this as "a matter of 2 employees having a disagreement and one going home to diffuse the situation", is not how an employer will see it.  You were given a work assignment by a supervisor and refused to do it, that's pretty straightforward insubordination.  

I may not have communicated the situation properly. I did not refuse the assignment. The situation was resolved and I had my assignment and was in the process of planning my day/night. Charge nurse came and said she needed to talk to me. It was then the options were given. I chose to go home, to remove myself from the situation. I felt that was the best thing to do at that time. Supervisor said that I can go home if I want to, but he didn’t make me go home. He sent the relief and I left. I guess I do understand your point.  I will look up policy on that. This is my first job. My next question is: do you think I should let them fire me or resign before they try to fire me as this is my first nursing job and will probably need reference in the future.

Specializes in Critical Care.

From your other post;

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Before I took report on any patient I told them that if I have to take more than 5 with a COVID patient, I'll go home.

MunoRN said:

From your other post;

Ahhh I see. Thank You so much. 

OK Thank you all so much for the responses and advice. I’ve spoke with HR. For some reason the director said she needed to talk to them And then they’ll schedule a meeting. I’m new to this and never had to go through this but I thought that was weird. So, I still contacted them today! I’ve done my research on HR and I am aware of their primary responsibility/ interests now. However, after talking to HR, they requested I email them a statement. Do you all think it is wise to email a statement without having an attorney review the statement? I feel that something fishy is going on here. I do not care about the job. The only thing I care about my license. HR claim that she knows nothing of the case b/c she’s been busy due to this weeks festivities or celebration. So, I still was not told the reason for suspension or reason for them contacting the board. 

@CardiTeleRN Thank yo so much for your response. I definitely did not consider staying either way. I spoke with another nurse she recommended resigning before fire just for reference. I have already began speaking with travel nurses who’s ready to offer positions tomorrow. Maybe I need to learn more about the legal aspects of nursing before I do anything else. I am going to consult with a lawyer tomorrow. So sorry you had to go through that. People are down right dirty, and it’s a shame especially when you’ve bent over backwards for the companies (which I have). 

Specializes in Cardiac, Telemetry.
3 minutes ago, BaybeeNurse20 said:

@CardiTeleRN Thank yo so much for your response. I definitely did not consider staying either way. I spoke with another nurse she recommended resigning before fire just for reference. I have already began speaking with travel nurses who’s ready to offer positions tomorrow. Maybe I need to learn more about the legal aspects of nursing before I do anything else. I am going to consult with a lawyer tomorrow. So sorry you had to go through that. People are down right dirty, and it’s a shame especially when you’ve bent over backwards for the companies (which I have). 

Oh fair point! Travel agencies are the way to go. Get away from staff. Heads up, traveling has a 50/50 chance of receiving 20xs worse treatment from staff and management and you will get the worse assignment plus more patients but its worth it in the end. Just document like your life depends on it! You can collect half a year worth of average staff salary in 3 months and take some time off to recover to prepare for more chaos. => Good luck girl! 

@CardiTeleRN thank you so much for the advice! I’ve seen how they (staff) treat travel nurses at my facility. So, I definitely expect that. However, I think a pro is that I won’t have to get caught up in the politics and the mess in the facility. I don’t think I will atleast ?. @MunoRN I get it. Thank you! Do you care to elaborate a little bit more or provide your reason for saying resign before fire? TIA ?

Specializes in Nurse Leader specializing in Labor & Delivery.
On 5/11/2022 at 9:28 PM, BaybeeNurse20 said:

I may not have communicated the situation properly. I did not refuse the assignment. The situation was resolved and I had my assignment and was in the process of planning my day/night.

You said that if you were given the additional patient, you would go home. That is refusing an assignment. What else was the charge nurse supposed to do? The. patient needed a nurse.

Thank you for that comment. I understand that point. At the time I guess I thought I was receiving and unfair and unsafe assignment due to the fact we were told if we have a patient with a certain communicable disease then the total number of patients we can take was the said amount. Do I not have a right to refuse an unfair or unsafe assignment? Unsafe assignment constitutes an inappropriate number of patients assigned to one nurse, with respect to patient acuity.

@hppygr8ful thank you for your response. I initially questioned the assignment but after they were acting as if they wouldn’t change it I said I’ll go home. You have a great point! It’s all in the wording. I was definitely trying to make it as short as possible. Sorry. That’s my fault. Do you make notes for yourself when you record the date, time, and supervisor? That’s a great tip! 

@CardiTeleRN thank you so much for the feedback you have some great points! I definitely will look at this as a learning experience. Thank you so much. 

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