Should I quit Nursing School???

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Hello all!! Im a 21 year old nursing student in alabama. I am having some issues with Nursing school and I really need some advice. I am married and have a 2 year old son. I got into Nursing school this past August and now I feel that this is not for me. I failed my first med-surg test and the teacher tells me that bringing the 66 up to an 80 just to pass would be difficult and would take alot of time. What she didnt understand was that I studied so hard for that first test and I still didnt pass. My child is not in daycare so when Im not in class he is with me and my study time is limited and I will not sacrifice my son for nursing school. While im in class my mother and grandmother in law keep my son. And neither one of the can keep him for clinicals. Im in a major dilemma. We start working 13 hour shifts at the hospital on thursday and I still havent made arrangements for my child. Daycare is not an option because we cant afford it. Not only that But at this point I just dont think nursing is for me. i should have realized this when had to repeat both A&P 1 and 2. I really just want to quit. I dont really like it and Im struggling. Im so worn out by the stress of this all.:cry: My husband is suffering from this also. He says that I should take just two days a week and forget about the stress and school all together but he doesnt understand that that is impossible to do while in nursing school. :crying2: He sees my suffering. Im not eating right, I've never had skin problems and now Im having to go see a dermatologist. What do I do? I just cant handle much more...:bluecry1:

:eek:what!!! sorry...i didn't read it properly......i thought he was a she.....im very sorry :banghead:

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Specializes in ER, PACU, Med-Surg, Hospice, LTC.
I just dont think nursing is for me.

There's your answer. Just because you started a program doesn't mean it is for you. I have two separate degrees. During my schooling, I saw a lot of people drop out of one program and start a new one. I also saw many people complete a program (because they were soooo worried about looking like a "drop-out" ) and never working a second in that field.

More power to them!!!!!!

I am also a HUGE believer for people to put themselves and their family FIRST. Trust me, if you don't do it, nobody else will.

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Specializes in Psych, Med/Surg, LTC.

Nursing school will always be there. Your little one will only be little once. If you wait until they are in school, you will not need as much child care and wont have that expense. The older the kids are, the longer they can self entertain while you study. My advice, is to do some pre-reqs now, and then look into nursing school in a few years if you are still interested. Take care of your little one. :heartbeat I am currently on a hiatus from working as a nurse. My little ones need me too much right now. Since we can live on one income (with many personal sacrafices!) so I can not justify working. They will only be little once.

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I can totally understand where you are coming from with daycare and school. I have a 2 yr old and thankfully my husband is home in time to watch him when I have classes. Its is VERY hard and STRESSFUL on all of us since I also work 2 nights a week as a nursing assistant also. If I did not have anyone to watch my child I would of waited until he started school....nursing school will always be there. Just wanted to let you know sometimes schools offfer day care. You do have to pay for it but maybe you can take a school loan for it (you dont have to pay the loan back until after you graduate) or maybe apply for financial aide. Good luck to you!!!:)

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I don't think that nursing school is the priority for the original poster. Nursing school is "needy" though, it wants to be the priority.

If your heart is not in it, you will not do well.

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Hello all!! Im a 21 year old nursing student in alabama. I am having some issues with Nursing school and I really need some advice. I am married and have a 2 year old son. I got into Nursing school this past August and now I feel that this is not for me. I failed my first med-surg test and the teacher tells me that bringing the 66 up to an 80 just to pass would be difficult and would take alot of time. What she didnt understand was that I studied so hard for that first test and I still didnt pass. My child is not in daycare so when Im not in class he is with me and my study time is limited and I will not sacrifice my son for nursing school. While im in class my mother and grandmother in law keep my son. And neither one of the can keep him for clinicals. Im in a major dilemma. We start working 13 hour shifts at the hospital on thursday and I still havent made arrangements for my child. Daycare is not an option because we cant afford it. Not only that But at this point I just dont think nursing is for me. i should have realized this when had to repeat both A&P 1 and 2. I really just want to quit. I dont really like it and Im struggling. Im so worn out by the stress of this all.:cry: My husband is suffering from this also. He says that I should take just two days a week and forget about the stress and school all together but he doesnt understand that that is impossible to do while in nursing school. :crying2: He sees my suffering. Im not eating right, I've never had skin problems and now Im having to go see a dermatologist. What do I do? I just cant handle much more...:bluecry1:

I seriously just got dejavu after reading you post. I started Nursing school and just found out i was pregnant for the first time, no job, not to far in the realtionship with my current fiance. I was planning completing the first two semesters and then taking time off to have my baby and come back. Miraculously i finshed my last clinical day in my last semester which was a thursday and had my daughter saturday. I didnt even take my final yet. I had my mom drive me to my final that wednesday took it passed and was scared to death as to how i was going to go back in two weeks. The school was telling me to withdrawl and i just couldnt it was two days a week, my luck i went right into OB and took care of newborns and laboring moms for 7 weeks and my mom had my daughter. I did it passed the third semester and made it too the last and failed my first two tests, i was crushed the final withdrawal date without penalty was approaching and i all my instructors were advising me to just withdrawal and come back that i had to much going on in my life. I kept my faith because i was at a similar point in my life a year ago nine months pregnant i didnt withdrawal my final was on my daughters first birthday and i passed. I graduated August 17th and surprised the whole world. Point of the story is one don't feel discouraged because you failed the first test regardless of what anyone tells you if its meant to be it will be, secondly see if you can work something out with your mother in law and grandmother to help you with childcare while you are at school it is such as short period of time. Just because you are a mom does not mean that you will be abandoning your child to pursue a goal. Follow your heart it will lead you in the right direction. :heartbeat

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I don't think that you should give up. You bombed your first exam, you can pull that up. I would pray and ask God for guidance. If nursing is something that you want then there are going to be times when you have to sacrifice and make things work. God is never going to put more on you that you can't bear. I would just stick in there and stay strong. Do you qualify for any type of assistance especially with daycare for your son?

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Nursing school isn't "nursing", so I think you need to decide whether you truly want to be a nurse. You've already shown your dedication by getting into nursing school (retaking those classes), so YOU CAN DO IT, and there must be something there in your heart for nursing. School is not easy for everyone, and NS is a major challenge. Lots of people have become nurses even though they've struggled through school.

At that, timing is really important. It sounds like you honestly haven't set yourself up for success this semester. NS is tough enough without having to think about a babysitter that isn't there or possible. I would delay this course, as NS is really always there.

Just don't let this determine your desire for being a nurse! Take care, and good luck!

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I wouldn't quit but i would drop it and give it another try when you get things together, ns is simply a means to an end

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Another thing SNS501, you can also depending on where you live look into Southside Regional Medical School of Nursing which is an online program and you never go to clinicals more than 2 days a week but its five semesters versus the normal 4 semester diploma programs. You also have small breaks in between semesters u have 4 wks off for christmas break like everyone else, a week for srping break but you go over the summer may,june,july, and august but have days off in between the end and start of the next semester. If you are interested you may be able to start in January and just withdrawal from the program you are in now without academic penalty and may be even able to get some of the money you spent on tuition back. You can google southside regional medical center school of nursing it is based out of petersburg VA and owned by a corporation called CHS you can do your clinicals at one of their hospitals which are all over the USA. Only thing is though there is no financial aide you can take a private loan or apply for grants and scholarships but can't have the federal unsubsidized or subsidized loans. Let me know if u need any more info on this.

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ask some advice from the people close to you. sometimes we want to quit and after few days we regret our decision.

thanks for sharing your problem and thank you to all who give their opinion

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