Should I quit Nursing School???

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Hello all!! Im a 21 year old nursing student in alabama. I am having some issues with Nursing school and I really need some advice. I am married and have a 2 year old son. I got into Nursing school this past August and now I feel that this is not for me. I failed my first med-surg test and the teacher tells me that bringing the 66 up to an 80 just to pass would be difficult and would take alot of time. What she didnt understand was that I studied so hard for that first test and I still didnt pass. My child is not in daycare so when Im not in class he is with me and my study time is limited and I will not sacrifice my son for nursing school. While im in class my mother and grandmother in law keep my son. And neither one of the can keep him for clinicals. Im in a major dilemma. We start working 13 hour shifts at the hospital on thursday and I still havent made arrangements for my child. Daycare is not an option because we cant afford it. Not only that But at this point I just dont think nursing is for me. i should have realized this when had to repeat both A&P 1 and 2. I really just want to quit. I dont really like it and Im struggling. Im so worn out by the stress of this all.:cry: My husband is suffering from this also. He says that I should take just two days a week and forget about the stress and school all together but he doesnt understand that that is impossible to do while in nursing school. :crying2: He sees my suffering. Im not eating right, I've never had skin problems and now Im having to go see a dermatologist. What do I do? I just cant handle much more...:bluecry1:

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I think you have answered your own question....if I were you I would drop and give it some time. If the desire is still there when your son starts full day school you can go back, you are young, so there is no need to kill yourself or rush things. You just have to many obstacles right now it looks like.

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Specializes in med/surg, telemetry, IV therapy, mgmt.

you already said it: i will not sacrifice my son for nursing school. raise your son and get him started in a good career first. you owe him that.

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Specializes in Ortho-Neuro,labor and delivery, nursery.

If you feel that nursing school is too stressful right now, then don't feel bad if you have to quit. Nursing school is very hard, stressful and time consuming, and I know it has to be even harder when you have a small child. Right now just take a step back and think about what will be best for you and your family. If that means quiting and possibly going back later on, then so be it. Do what's best for you and don't let anyone make you feel bad about it. Also, don't let instructors intimidate you. I was in a similar situation my second semester. I was did horribly on the first couple of test in my Adult Health II class and my instructor told me to quit now because there was no way I would pass. After that I really worked my butt off, passed the class, and am now about to graduate! So whatever you do, let it be YOUR decision...and good luck to you! :loveya:

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Specializes in Triage, MedSurg, MomBaby, Peds, HH.

Nursing school will always be there; your son is only a toddler once :) Enjoy him while he's small and even more importantly let him enjoy a mommy who can give him what he needs. I'm sorry that circumstances were not supporting your nursing school journey right now...but I'm living proof that you can always go back.

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You have already answered your own questions. You have to do what is best for you and your family and by what you have said nursing is not what you want to do. I wish you the best in whatever decision you come to.

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hmmmm......well in my opinion...we can't just tell him to quit nursing school just like that...maybe there are factors that motivated him to take nursing in the first place...maybe because of financial crisis or future plans.....an example of this is that his planning for a better future for his child so he has to take nursing while his child is still young so that he can support the needs for his child in the future because as the child grows expenses tends to "grow" too :cry:...this is just a speculation...there are many other factors affecting him....but also you, yourself know which can be prioritized first...weigh both your priorities and decide which one would be best for you and your family...and its not up to "US" "other people" to decide or to suggest what you should do...think and bring this problem to your wife also so that you to can work on a solution :wink2: God Bless

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Hello all!! Im a 21 year old nursing student in alabama. I am having some issues with Nursing school and I really need some advice. I am married and have a 2 year old son. I got into Nursing school this past August and now I feel that this is not for me. I failed my first med-surg test and the teacher tells me that bringing the 66 up to an 80 just to pass would be difficult and would take alot of time. What she didnt understand was that I studied so hard for that first test and I still didnt pass. My child is not in daycare so when Im not in class he is with me and my study time is limited and I will not sacrifice my son for nursing school. While im in class my mother and grandmother in law keep my son. And neither one of the can keep him for clinicals. Im in a major dilemma. We start working 13 hour shifts at the hospital on thursday and I still havent made arrangements for my child. Daycare is not an option because we cant afford it. Not only that But at this point I just dont think nursing is for me. i should have realized this when had to repeat both A&P 1 and 2. I really just want to quit. I dont really like it and Im struggling. Im so worn out by the stress of this all.:cry: My husband is suffering from this also. He says that I should take just two days a week and forget about the stress and school all together but he doesnt understand that that is impossible to do while in nursing school. :crying2: He sees my suffering. Im not eating right, I've never had skin problems and now Im having to go see a dermatologist. What do I do? I just cant handle much more...:bluecry1:

I think we can...and he is a she.

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you already said it: i will not sacrifice my son for nursing school. raise your son and get him started in a good career first. you owe him that.

well, there are a couple of ways to look at it.

my husband is gone through the week and between that, clinicals, classes and study time, mom is "busy" alot. the kids know that "studying" is the "s" word around here...they don't like it.

however...here is how i look at it:

there is a standard of living that i want for our family. we make bills on my husband's income alone...but that is all we have. we have no savings, no extras. i can't stand the thought of going through life like that. as a responsible mother, i also have to make sure that if something happened to him tomorrow, that the kids and i would still be ok and vice-versa.

some mom's work two jobs. that can be a permanent situation. school is temporary.

my children are where they need to be developmentally and are exceeding those goals. i set aside time for them every day, but unless it's something special, i can't give them a whole afternoon except for one day a week, which is when we go to the park, have a picnic, go to the movies, etc. they ave very good at playing independently with each other.

by the time i am finished, school will be a distant memory, if they remember anything from it at all.

daycare isn't the worst thing for children and the social skills do them good. if we could afford it right now, mine would still be in daycare, but i do have a sister in law that watches them when i'm at class and at clinical, but if i didn't have her, we would have to find the money somewhere.

if you want it bad enough, you can make it happen. my husband knew that when he came home on the weekends, he was going to have to pitch in to cook, clean and do laundry while i'm in school. i make up for it when we are on school breaks.

it's a team effort.

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From a fellow mom of a 2-year old and nursing student (2nd time around, age 38 now)...take care of your family first. Nursing schools will always be there. I think you need to try getting some experience in the field (PCA, nursing assistant, etc.) and then re-assess if you want to do the RN job. If you still do, then you should go back to school when your son is in school and you are not needed so much at home. Nursing school DOES entail a lot of sacrifice. My family & kids have put up with me in school for over 2 years, and yes, it is hard!! I study very hard to maintain my grades. However, if you are struggling academically, and with day care, and with being separated from your child, you are not giving your best to school and at clinical. This is not the best time for you to pursue this goal, but don't give up -- just postpone, until you have more support in place. Best wishes, and be kind to yourself!

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Specializes in Acute Mental Health.

Always family first. Your son will only be this age once. Enjoy him, every minute of every day and when he's in school full time, then you go back to school. If you feel the need to stay in school, maybe think about taking just one class (not nursing, but some liberal arts type that will fulfill credits towards a BA, future BA of course).

I have 2 children and realized that although my children were my life, I felt as if my brain was atrophying. I signed up for an adult ed program in health care administration. Classes met 1 day each week from 6-10pm and were all accelerated. I was able to expand my mind while still giving my all to my children. Now they are both in school and I am still only part time in the nursing program. My family comes first, period. Once you decide, you'll rest easy. I wish you the best. They grow up so fast.......

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Specializes in LTC, case mgmt, agency.

:icon_hug: Take care of yur family first. You said it best though: You won't sacrifice your sons needs. You also said you feel like this is not for you. Take time off to realize what is right for you. There are other medical related feilds you could do while you decide. Talk to a guidence counselor at your school and see where your current credits can be applied and see if those options will work for your needs and intrests. Then if and / or when you are ready, you can continue nursing school at a later time. Good luck!

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