My dad died yesterday

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My dad was diagnosed with NASH three years ago, and one of the things NASH makes you more prone to is liver cancer. Back in April he was diagnosed with stage 2 liver cancer. He spent all Summer getting tested/prepped for a transplant and a couple weeks ago, developed complications with kidney involvement. Developed Hepatorenal Syndrome. My stepmother called me last Wednesday to tell me he was no longer a candidate for transplant and they were discharging him home with palliative care and hospice. He got discharged on Thanksgiving Day. I flew down to VA with my 12 year old son and 10 year old daughter to be with him, say our goodbyes, etc. Those four days were the worst, but also most special days. I am trying to be grateful that we had time to say goodbye. We put up a tree for him that the kids decorated, we told stories, we cried A LOT, he gave us each a special gift. Leaving was the hardest thing to do, but I wanted to remember him that way and also wanted my kids to remember him that way. We left Monday night and he fell into a deep sleep shortly after we left and passed away yesterday peacefully with his wife of 30 years by his side.

Losing a parent really sucks, at any age. I am most sad that my two kids will not have their amazing grandpa watch them grow up. I am 44 and this is my first experience with a very close loved one passing away. There is nothing to describe it.

Just needed to share with my virtual nursing station. I am at work as the funeral isn't until next week and a lot of the arrangements were already made before he passed away. I need to be around my sweet little K-2 kiddos to help get me through my day, so staying home under the covers was not an option for me.

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I'm so sorry for your loss. Having lost both my parents I know right now it really hurts. The way he died and that you were given the chance to say goodbye and make memories will eventually become a sweet time to remember.

Specializes in Pediatrics Retired.

Ugh...bittersweet...it's hard to let them go; prayers for you and your's.

So sad to hear that dear. May Lord's mercy have on his soul....

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I'm so sorry for your loss! Praying for you.

I lost my pops. He was killed by a local hospital, despite my best efforts.

Hugs and peace to you.

I'm so sorry about your father, MHDNurse.

Even thought we expect to lose our parents, we suffer when they pass.

I pray that you find strength and comfort in the days and weeks ahead.

Try not to overdo. Take time to grieve and to rest, fortify yourself in whatever way is best for you.

Thank you for sharing your loss with us.

KK

I am so sorry for your loss.

Am praying for your family and for strength for you.

Specializes in Adult MICU/SICU.

You are quite right about many things - sadly, losing a parent at any age sucks.

I lost both parents before age 30 ... I nearly lost my nursing license, and my mind when my mom unexpectedly died at age 52.

I lost my maternal grandparents before age 22 (they were a second set of parents, and we were extremely close). Although I had been married for a couple of years, I was also the youngest grandchild - they still referred to me as "the baby". Being with them are some of my most favorite childhood memories.

My grandma was my first close death 2 weeks before I turned 21 ... needless to say, this unexpected death fell from the sky and hit me like an anvil dropped from a 10 story window at mach 12 (I didn't take it well).

I feel your loss. Bereavement is the hardest thing we as humans have to endure during our lifetime: our pain is unique to each of us, and all our own. The pain is comparable to any physical hurt we could possibly endure, and at times it is fair to surmise it by far exceeds it.

Please accept my sincerest condolences regarding the loss of your sweet, wonderful, loving dad. I wish I had God-like super powers and could grant you another 20 years together.

Hang in there - so many of your allnurse's friends you didn't know you had offer you love and support from a far.

(((Hugs)))

Thank you everyone. Your kind words continue to offer me comfort. It is hard to believe this Wednesday will be two weeks. I am flying down to Richmond, VA this Friday for the me memorial service. I have written something I am going to read at the service and am looking forward to just getting through the weekend and the holidays.

Sorry for you loss. My dad died when my son was two so he never got a chance to know him. He died of prostate cancer. It went to his brain.

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