RN is he making a pass at me what will this do to my job

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I work at a hospital as a pharmaccy tech while I'm going to school for nursing. There is this ICU nurse who is very friendly to me such as telling me I smell good and I look pretty in pink. He hugs me too and rubs the middle of my back. He has never been this touchy with me but has always talked to me. He is older than me like 40 and I'm 22. He is a knock out too with his baby blue eyes and shaggy blonde hair. He has even said to me when I was refiling the pxyis hows my cute pharmacy tech and he looked away right after he said that. He also has whispered in my ear your so cute and he was so close that I could smell his after shave. will this affect my job him being so touchy with me at work while other co-workers are seeing this. Why would he be instered in me with the age gap being so far apart? What dose he want with me? Thanks

Not to change the subject, but how many nurses see sexual harrassmnet in the opposite direction. That meaning, female nurses harrassing male nurses or other personnel. I tend to see some behavior that isn't too professional, and it is mostly the women. Do men ever report this behavior to their supervisors??

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Not to change the subject, but how many nurses see sexual harrassmnet in the opposite direction. That meaning, female nurses harrassing male nurses or other personnel. I tend to see some behavior that isn't too professional, and it is mostly the women. Do men ever report this behavior to their supervisors??

What PDA is being done here? He is not kissing me or all over me. Do you think he just wants to have sex with me and thats it. Just use me for sex and thats it, or do you really think he likes me? He is married but his wife and him just live as roomates. They would have gotten a divirce but she can't make it finacily. He is the bread winner. He was forced to marry her becuase he got her pregnant when he was 20 and she was 19. I will tell him to stop becuase I like my job and the peolpe I work with and I'm garenteed a job once I get out of nursing school.

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Specializes in Med-Surg, Geriatric, Behavioral Health.

I may be going out on a limb here, but I would say yes, men do report it, but only to a smaller degree. The deciding factors may be the "tension" it causes on the work site, the loss of professional face, and if the harrassment begins to impede upon a current relationship outside of work...via calling the person's home or stalking him.

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do you think he just wants to have sex with me and thats it. just use me for sex and thats it (quite very possible), or do you really think he likes me (but not enough possibly to be divorced in order to date again in order to be with you)? he is married but his wife and him just live as roomates. (please, do not give him reasons to justify his mistake...this is enabling him and you...watch out) they would have gotten a divirce but she can't make it finacily. he is the bread winner. he was forced to marry her becuase he got her pregnant when he was 20 and she was 19. i will tell him to stop becuase i like my job and the peolpe i work with and i'm garenteed a job once i get out of nursing school (very wise decision. you have your school and work to think about...not this kind of distraction).

you did yourself a favor by thinking about your needs...not his. he is a big boy. please don't give him excuses for his behavior. his marriage is not your problem, but his. remember, it takes two to tango. he can take care of himself. just focus on yourself and your goals.

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Specializes in ICU, ER, HH, NICU, now FNP.

DON'T BELIEVE THE ROOM MATE STORY!!!!!!!! ANYONE WHO WANTS TO "MAKE IT" ON THEIR OWN CAN DO SO IF THEY WANT TO!!!!!!!!!!!!

Room Mates my duff!!!!! :angryfire

People don't stay married for 20 years "just for the kids".

YOU will be the loser in this situation - he walks off scott free when it blows up.

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What does he want with someone younger that he?..............?......?

If you are truly bothered by his advances, which, that is exactly what it is, then you need to put a stop to them. You obviously are intrigued by him, "baby blue eyes and shaggy blonde hair, smelling his after shave"......Put a stop to it now. As for your job, yes, you could lose your job and I can just about assure you that others notice both parties behavior.

I agree with Siri very much. You do seem to be intrigues by him (no judgement). So, if you truly don't like it (and that is your main concern?) then nip it in the butt now. Kindly let him know he is getting a bit "too friendly" with you and while you appreciate his friendship you would like the touchy-feellies to stop.

Now, if your main concern is what it will do to your job if they find you being extra friendly etc.......then I have no clue. They might not appreciate it or they might not care at all. I am no one to tell you he is too old for you or not, but ultimately you are the one who has to decide what is really bothering you. His actions, or the possible consequences at your job?

Hope everything turns out for the better. :)

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What PDA is being done here? He is not kissing me or all over me. Do you think he just wants to have sex with me and thats it. Just use me for sex and thats it, or do you really think he likes me? He is married but his wife and him just live as roomates. They would have gotten a divirce but she can't make it finacily. He is the bread winner. He was forced to marry her becuase he got her pregnant when he was 20 and she was 19. I will tell him to stop becuase I like my job and the peolpe I work with and I'm garenteed a job once I get out of nursing school.

Ok, seems like you believe his story and you need some reassureance. I am about your same age so you make think I'm a joke. But, seriously think about it and answer this yourself.

I would not believe the story, and even if it was true I highly doubt they are "just roomates" this is so silly. I obviously don't know him or you, but use your judgement. You said you like the attention and all, BUT do you really want a married man making advances to you? This reveals a lot about his character. Bottom line roomates or not, he is still married, lives with his wife, so he is PRIVATE PROPERTY, and if he choses to violate that by flirting with you and possible wanting to be with you, then if you chose to accept the situation it is up to you. I doubt any of us can advice you any further or better than what everyone else has already told you.

You are going to end up making whatever decision you please. So, chose wisely, think about the situation more profusely and I wish you nothing but the best of luck. :)

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I agree with Siri very much. You do seem to be intrigues by him (no judgement). So, if you truly don't like it (and that is your main concern?) then nip it in the butt now. Kindly let him know he is getting a bit "too friendly" with you and while you appreciate his friendship you would like the touchy-feellies to stop.

Now, if your main concern is what it will do to your job if they find you being extra friendly etc.......then I have no clue. They might not appreciate it or they might not care at all. I am no one to tell you he is too old for you or not, but ultimately you are the one who has to decide what is really bothering you. His actions, or the possible consequences at your job?

Hope everything turns out for the better. :)

So he telling me a bunch of crap by saying he staying married becuase his wife can't make it on her own. I will tell him tomorrow when I have to work that I just wan to be friends. he does know that I just got out of a long term relationship so before this he has never made any advances towards me. Do you think he just sex from me and thats it? If it does blow up how will he get off scott free and I won't?

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So he telling me a bunch of crap by saying he staying married becuase his wife can't make it on her own. I will tell him tomorrow when I have to work that I just wan to be friends. he does know that I just got out of a long term relationship so before this he has never made any advances towards me. Do you think he just sex from me and thats it? If it does blow up how will he get off scott free and I won't?

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Specializes in PeriOp, ICU, PICU, NICU.
So he telling me a bunch of crap by saying he staying married becuase his wife can't make it on her own. I will tell him tomorrow when I have to work that I just wan to be friends. he does know that I just got out of a long term relationship so before this he has never made any advances towards me. Do you think he just sex from me and thats it? If it does blow up how will he get off scott free and I won't?

I think he thinks he can fool you by telling that cheap story. If you really want to be with him and he does with you the right way. He NEEDS to be out and about from living with his wife, divorce papers in hand and then start a friends relationship and if you chose for it to be more than so be it. Good luck :)

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Do you think he just sex from me and thats it? If it does blow up how will he get off scott free and I won't?

He is married...you are an outsider to this marriage. Enough said. And who is to say he hasn't done this before or will dump you for another and still remain married. Regardless, it does speak of his character. You can do better than this. You also deserve better than this. Focus on yourself, your school, and your job. Set a professional AND personal boundary. In your gut, you already know he would be poison to you.

I wish you the best.

Wolfy

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Specializes in PeriOp, ICU, PICU, NICU.
He is married...you are an outsider to this marriage. Enough said. And who is to say he hasn't done this before or will dump you for another and still remain married. Regardless, it does speak of his character. You can do better than this. You also deserve better than this. Focus on yourself, your school, and your job. Set a professional AND personal boundary. In your gut, you already know he would be poison to you.

I wish you the best.

Wolfy

Most definitely. You have gotten all the advice one can give you. Hope you can make the correct decision. :)

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