Relationship and Nursing School

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So.. I have a boyfriend but he has been wierd lately. So it's like now I have stress from school. Because we all know school is stressful and now I have the added stress from his b.s. In this situation would you just decided to go your seperate way or continue to try to hang on to the relationship we have been talking a year. I'm so stressed I have been maintaing my grades. But find it hard to focus with all the xtra stuff going on.

Specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma.
I dont know how they do it either.. ppl do some of the most rediculos stuff. And its almost like it's deliberately to see you fail. But I feel so much better now. I really do. I was in the bed crying. Forget that. I pulled out my books and I'm about to study for my test monday wash and iron my clothes for clinical for the rest of the week. And got to church in the morning and give god the glory.

Good job! People who can do it have a genuine supportive partner who will sacrifice for the couple and their future.

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My gut is telling me that this situation is not right for me.. It's just not.. I am too stressed out about everything.

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I hated to end the relationship, makes me sick to my stomach cuz I did care about the guy alot and we spent alot of time together. But sometimes its best for things to end. We may not understand the reason why but I know deep down in my heart that the stuff that was going on wasn't right. My career is more important at this point in my life..

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Thanks for the hugs.. I sure need them

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This weekend was the tuff.. but once I get back in school and get things rolling I will be ok.. he will be a distant memory.

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Nursing right now dominates my life I am in a fast track program. I am at school everyday from 8-4 on clinical days 6:30-2:30 but we have class or clinical everyday m-f. Once out of class I have to study because we have about 3 exams a week. You have to keep an 82% somedays I don't even sleep or get very little sleep because I have so much to study and trying to retain all the information to maintain my grades. I have be holding up by the grace of god. But its already a great deal off pressure waiting for you grade to come back. 81% your out. And you money is basically wasted. And to get back in the program there is a waiting list of like two maybe three years. So the amount of stress is high. And it takes up you whole life. Its does.

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I had to break up with my gf during nursing school. The guilt she put me through for being too busy was too much. After I passed my boards we got back together but now that, I'm in school again the tantrums and guilt are starting to arise again. Ugh the things we put ourselves through for relationships.

Haven't you ever heard that wonderful Maya Angelou quote? "When someone shows you who they are, believe them, the first time."

To the OP, Victoria, I have a very serious question. Once you saw those texts, why in the world was there ever any question in your mind about whether or not you would dump him? The fact that you hesitated at all says to me that you need to grow a little more steel in your spine and set higher standards for yourself. Spend your time alone focusing on doing that while you finish school.

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Haven't you ever heard that wonderful Maya Angelou quote? "When someone shows you who they are, believe them, the first time."

To the OP, Victoria, I have a very serious question. Once you saw those texts, why in the world was there ever any question in your mind about whether or not you would dump him? The fact that you hesitated at all says to me that you need to grow a little more steel in your spine and set higher standards for yourself. Spend your time alone focusing on doing that while you finish school.

Pretty eye opening quote. Thanks.

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The fact that it's this big of an issue should tell you something. If he can't be supportive of you now, what's he going to be like when you're trying to find a job and then unwinding after a tough day at work? Dump his sorry butt and focus on YOU. Besides, if he's telling someone else he loves them and can't live without them, then let her have him (and the fact that you even had to snoop on his phone says a LOT about the state of your relationship). Good luck.

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I agree... its just a mess.. I snapped out of it real quick. The first few days I was down in a dump. I had a test and I was so out of it everything was a blur. I didn't remember reading the questions. I didn't remember which answers I choose. And we have to keep a 82%. Surprisingly I made a 94%. That was nothing but the grace of god. I was like why am I so upset by somebody that doesn't even deserve that much of my energy. I couldn't focus. I studied but it was hard for me to stay focused. But I prayed.. the program that I'm in is strict and once your out it can take up to two years if not longer to get back in. I worked hard to get in that program only 20 students were accepted. I decided I'm not going to let some foolery mess up what I have going..

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He is definitely the least of my worries. Nursing notes and care plans are my main priority. He can do whatever he want. Thats no longer my concern! Ain't nobody got time for that.. what was I thinking.. Thank god for having a strong mind. He apologized and gave me some b.s. story. But i could. Careless

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Haha.. sometimes things are not meant to be and I can accept that. That just means something better is out there for me.. life is too short to be worried about somebody and there foolishness. I refuse to deal with that. I won't be dating for a long time. Thats for sure..

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