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So.. I have a boyfriend but he has been wierd lately. So it's like now I have stress from school. Because we all know school is stressful and now I have the added stress from his b.s. In this situation would you just decided to go your seperate way or continue to try to hang on to the relationship we have been talking a year. I'm so stressed I have been maintaing my grades. But find it hard to focus with all the xtra stuff going on.

you both seem to be focusing on school. your focus should be on school really, I sound lame I know. if the right guy comes along later on, cool! I'm sure someone will some time later at the right time.If you feel like this current guy isn't 100% with you and isn't 100% real, then I think you know what to do.

you can get through school, you got this! :)

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I think he is as good as dumped. And he better not call me with no b.s. saying I'm giving up on him. Cuz I dont want to hear it! I got stuff I need to do for me!

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I'm so glad there is somewhere we can go to talk about these things.

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I don't know how people have bf or gf during nursing school, they're good at it!

but it's nice to have free time to study more and focus on YOU!

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I dont know how they do it either.. ppl do some of the most rediculos stuff. And its almost like it's deliberately to see you fail. But I feel so much better now. I really do. I was in the bed crying. Forget that. I pulled out my books and I'm about to study for my test monday wash and iron my clothes for clinical for the rest of the week. And got to church in the morning and give god the glory.

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I mean it could probably work and probably has worked if two people are really committed to each other and truly understand the nursing student needs space to focus on school and studying but that's probably a low percentage of people who do. I'm assuming that the understanding person is also a busy individual who has stuff to do but is also true to their word.

It definitely does hurt to see something end, and it's better to acknowledge it now. With time, these sad feelings will go away.

wow, you have a busy weekend and week!

I hope you do well on your exam.

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Not saying he's not supportive, but you really should be single during nursing school or be with someone who understands what you're going through. My bf of 4 years is so very supportive & understands what I'm going through. He never bothers me while I'm studying & helps me when I need it. Having someone that ignores you or acts stupid is only going to distract you & you can't afford that in nursing school!

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You deserve so much better!!! This person is NOT treating you well. Wouldn't you rather be with a real man who cares about you, supports you, communicates with you, and doesn't text other girls? Wouldn't life (and nursing school) be better without all this worry and distraction? It definitely sounds like you are motivated and focused on succeeding in nursing school. You should be proud of that! You have a very promising career ahead of you, so don't let this person get in the way of your success. Really evaluate your situation. What does your gut tell you? Deep down, what is the right decision for YOU?

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I had to break up with my gf during nursing school. The guilt she put me through for being too busy was too much. After I passed my boards we got back together but now that, I'm in school again the tantrums and guilt are starting to arise again. Ugh the things we put ourselves through for relationships.

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Specializes in ICU.

I have a bf who is wonderful, caring, and supportive. I am a little older, 38. He is 41. He just graduated with his phd in law last year so he understands what I am doing. You don't have to be single in nursing school. Nor does it have to dominate your life. Right now, I am in class 1 day and in clinical one day so I have plenty of time to study and spend time with my bf. It's about organizing your time. I am also a single mom and I make it all work. You just need to be with the right guy.

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Specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma.
That's the thing. He doesn't answer questions like that. Because he was acting so wierd I looked in his phone. He was texting some girl saying he can't live without her and he love her. I had an exam the next day and we have to have 82% and I found it hard to focus. It took me even long to study because my mind was wondering all over the place. He insisted that it was his friend. But in the messages it seamed like much more to me... its one of those things where you can eat cant sleep and want to vomit.
You sound young...First and foremost....there will always be another guy....TRUST ME!

If there is smoke there is fire! Dump him. Once a player always a player.

Your future is what counts if he really cares he will straighten up and be good to you. YOU deserve better!

Tell hi you are focused on school that you care but you WILL not tolerate his "friendship" He wants his cake and to eat it too. Demand better for yourself.

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Specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma.
I don't think people thahave never been thru a nursing program understand the amount of stress that nursing school puts on you. Not only that when you add extra unnecessary stress it makes it hard to focus and I thing you all might be right he need to go. Because we have to have to keep a 82% average. With all the extra drama I find my mind wondering while studying and really haven't retained the information.

My tution was very expensive and it will not be wasted on some loser that don't even appreciate me. And he definitely don't respect me.. so he is not even worth my energy. You all made me feel much better.

He doesn't respect you nor appreciate you. Us nurses always want to fix things....dump him you deserve better. ((HUGS))

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