Re- mariage is over

scrubs70 · Apr 21, 2004

Originally Posted by scrubs70

Husband and Mellow one, I have to say you are 2 of the most arrogant, ignorant, rude jerks I have ever seen and God help anyone who has to suffer under your nursing care if the above is any indication of your bedside manner.

My appologies to both husband and mellow one, despite my feelings on the matter, this post was innappropriate and uncalled for, I truly appologise and do recognise that everyone is entitled to their own opinions. Please accept my appology.

leslie :-D · Apr 21, 2004

I think many times 'boredom' is subconsciously something so much more deep-rooted. Being married 17 years I've been bored, miserable, blaming, paranoid, insecure, restless- you name it. Hell, I've thought of leaving my marriage many a time. But sometimes you're forced to reflect and you realize that it's what is lacking in your life, so you take charge of yourself/your life and do what you can to make it better. Through these feelings that I had towards my husband, I found I was projecting my own frustrations onto him. It's too easy to play the blame game. Lacie, you really need to explore your marriage much deeper. Maybe you're angry at him for a number of (unknown) reasons; and chances are he's probably feeling the same frustration too. But instead of immediately checking out, I think you guys need some professional marriage counseling. It will take honest communication on both your parts. Best of luck.

Husband · Apr 21, 2004

scrub270, No need to apologise. My wife thinks you are very perceptive.

And I would pity a patient under my nursing care too, which is why my wife is the nurse. I came here to seek advice for a problem she had at work.

MellowOne, however, seems a bit of a SNAG so he will probably appreciate your apology.

Regards

caroladybelle, BSN, RN · Apr 21, 2004

To respond to your tread, you don't know me and you dont know the situation.Maybe if you did you wouldnt have been so rude. The message might have sounded harsh but you don't know my husband or me so please dont judge me by a person who was blowing off steam.
Are you marriage? Do you have any experence on the matter
I wonder.........................

We are judging you and the situation by what you have posted. And judging by what you have posted, you sound a bit mismatched. Many of us would be happy with "boring" and could care less how many pictures that Inlaws have in their photo albums. That you are this fussy over mere pictures speaks volumes about what you find valuable in life.

And everone has the right to blow off steam here, but by the same token, everyone has the right to comment as they see fit.

Husband · Apr 21, 2004

I gave EVERYONE in his family a 5 x 7 picture of us, and gave the parents a 8 x 10, ha ha!

Lacie,

The above suggestion is one that appeals to me, as being an arrogant and rude jerk that people here have discovered, I love to irritate everone, especially both sides of our family.

Some sisters and sister-in-laws are just jealous and spitful so there is nothing you can or should do to win them over.

Some mother-in-laws will never understand why their son or daughter chose you and why you don't jump when they say boo.

Ask your husband to send all his relatives a family portrait. Get him to send an extra big one of just you to your sister-in-law for her album. I am being serious now Lacie - if not the picture then something else. He should want to do something to keep you. Perhaps say that you are leaving next Friday with the kids unless HE thinks of something to get you to stay. Actually leaving him may be the prompt needed and if not then why stay together?

I am still waiting to find out why HE doesn't want sex at 26. I don't want to appear arrogant again but he makes me look good as I am proud to say that even though I'm much older, I can still give my wife 2 minutes of moderate pleasure (including I minute of foreplay) every blue moon.

Energizer Bunny · Apr 21, 2004

Lacie...am I right in thinking it isn't the lack of being in the pictures that bothers you but the fact that they just don't seem to care if you are included? Wondering.......(that is how it is in my marriage....his family just does their own thing and if you aren't born with their last name, forget it!)

MellowOne · Apr 22, 2004

MellowOne, however, seems a bit of a SNAG so he will probably appreciate your apology.

LOL...what's a SNAG? Can't be good.....:rotfl:

Be well...

The Mellow One

MellowOne · Apr 22, 2004

MellowOne, I read your posts on this subject from the previous thread, and I don't think you're a chauvanist pig like some other women do.
I believe that if a woman treats her husband like a king, he will in turn treat her like a queen, and vice versa. At least that's how it is in my marriage.

Why, thank you. I've been validated.

I simply don't understand the hostility toward the concept that part of a spouse's role is to help fulfill the other spouse's needs. Is this generation really that selfish?

Be well...

The Mellow One

MellowOne · Apr 22, 2004

My appologies to both husband and mellow one.

Don't worry about. When discussing stuff in online forums, one thing that folks can't do is to take stuff personally. Still, the apology is appreciated. Shows an open mind and honest heart.

Be well...

The Mellow One

Husband · Apr 23, 2004

MellowOne,

Google says that a SNAG is a Sensitive New-Age Guy – A man who listens to his partner, is sensitive to her (or his) concerns, and gives them lots of space. It was once a good way for a man to describe himself if he wanted to get laid (but not now).

I was joking again MellowOne and I don’t think that either of us are snags, although Lacie’s "Boring" sounds like a bit of a wimp so he could be one.