It's that time of year again, even though the holiday schedule has been out for a year, people are making last minute switches. No big deal except for a co-worker that approached me, after seeing i have Christmas Eve and Christmas Day off.
Started out nice: "I saw you had both days off, are you interested in trading them?" I said "Actually i'd like to keep both days off, my family has been through a lot, my dad's brother died a couple of weeks ago, and i'd like to go back home for those days." She said "Hmm, guess i won't be home for my kids for Christmas." I didn't say anything or do anything. Then after a minute she says "You don't have kids, what do you need Christmas off for?":angryfire
It's a wonder my head didn't explode. First off it wasn't her dang business what i wanted Christmas off for anyway, secondly how dare she make such a comment, as if those days won't mean squat to me all because i don't have children.
I'm sure her kids are important to her, i'm sure she would like to be there on those days, but the fact that i do not have children doesn't mean that things in my life are no less important. Nor should it mean that i should want to rearrange my life to accomodate someone that does. Which i've had to do a few times as a result of her taking 3 days weekends since august (we do self-scheduling). As a result of her doing this, i get screwed out of 3 days weekends 90% of the time. Her excuse for needing 3 days weekends? "Because i have kids." Not "My kid(s) has an appt., game, tournament, etc." "Because i have kids."
In no way am i knocking her because she has kids, or anyone, but it's almost like she expects accomodation from people because of the kids. It's not fair to everyone else. Everyone else manages and they have children. And everyone else at work wouldn't have made such a self-entitling statement about someone with no children having the holidays off, because most people take their turns every year. Just because i don't have children doesn not mean that i don't have a life or that i don't have things to do.
Specializes in Critical Care, Pediatrics, Geriatrics.
i don't have kids but i know that when i do, i'm going to want to be there on christmas morning to open presents and play with them, and i know i'll probably get a little cheesed off that people with no kids are 'stealing' time i'd like to have with my young'uns.'[/quote']
even though the overall consensus for your post agreed that this nurses actions were inappropriate, this statement in particular was worded poorly and that is what is bringing so much heat.
stealing suggests criminal, vindictive, purposeful malice to deliberately take something from another.
If one chooses to be a nurse, chooses to have children, and chooses to work in a job where holidays will be worked...then how is anyone stealing something that was not a given right to them in the first place?
even though the overall consensus for your post agreed that this nurses actions were inappropriate, this statement in particular was worded poorly and that is what is bringing so much heat.
stealing suggests criminal, vindictive, purposeful malice to deliberately take something from another.
If one chooses to be a nurse, chooses to have children, and chooses to work in a job where holidays will be worked...then how is anyone stealing something that was not a given right to them in the first place?
people with no kids are 'stealing' time i'd like to have with my young'uns.
Stealing time? How is taking a holiday off that you've rightfully earned "stealing"?
Why is it OK for childfree people to have to bend over backward to accommodate people with kids being off for their kiddos' drama/ballet/piano recital/soccer game/pee-wee football? Hey! That's "stealing" time from us!
and i know i'll probably get a little cheesed off that people with no kids are 'stealing' time i'd like to have with my young'uns.
STEALING time?
You know, this is a final straw. I have ALWAYS worked xmas because I'm not Christian and I thought it was a nice thing to do. But I have finally realized that the holiday itself has absolutely nothing in the world to do with any of this whining and yammering.
I'm absolutely through working every xmas. Moms at my place of employment are just going to have to suck it up and do their time like the rest of us.
I am scheduled to have xmas off even though I offered to work it. I've already been asked if I will take the shift by someone else. I have decided after reading these posts that no, I will not cover it for a Mom or anyone else.
I'll have the first xmas off in many years this year. Thanks, Goats!
Bravo, Bipley! I hope you really follow through with this. You earned the holiday off; it's immaterial how you choose to spend the day. (As well as none of anyone's business, either.)
Bravo, Bipley! I hope you really follow through with this. You earned the holiday off; it's immaterial how you choose to spend the day. (As well as none of anyone's business, either.)
I realize that for some people this is NOT a matter of right and wrong, but a matter of give me give me give me. Do for me, I want this and I want that.
Yeah, well those folks can just suck it up and deal like the rest of us do.
Specializes in Critical Care, Pediatrics, Geriatrics.
I realize that for some people this is NOT a matter of right and wrong, but a matter of give me give me give me. Do for me, I want this and I want that.
Yeah, well those folks can just suck it up and deal like the rest of us do.
great adult minds think alike.
Some people see having kids as giving them extra rights.....that's just not how it works. It gives you extra responsibilities, but it makes you no more important than anyone else.
Some people see having kids as giving them extra rights.....that's just not how it works. It gives you extra responsibilities, but it makes you no more important than anyone else.
I think your coworker is right. You know why? Because secretly, you are an orphan with no family whatsoever. And furthermore, you have NO friends or loved ones you'd like to be with. None at all. On Christmas, as on all holidays, you return to your tiny apartment and cry because you secretly know you're unworthy of having that holiday off. And for that matter, Jews and Muslims don't need Christmas off. I mean, HELLO. They're not even Christian! Since it's a Christian holiday, it should be done by who goes to church the most. During the year, everybody has to collect a note from the pastor when they attend church. These notes are counted up, and those who go to church the least don't get Christmas off. I mean, they don't really need it, do they? Maybe it should be done by salary, because people without a lot of money get depressed on Christmas- too many gifts to buy! Those with the highest income get first dibs. And single parents before married parents! If you're married, your spouse can stay home with the kids, so there'll be at least ONE person at home, right? Right. And no blondes get Christmas off, because red and green makes them look washed-out.
Specializes in Critical Care, Pediatrics, Geriatrics.
I think your coworker is right. You know why? Because secretly, you are an orphan with no family whatsoever. And furthermore, you have NO friends or loved ones you'd like to be with. None at all. On Christmas, as on all holidays, you return to your tiny apartment and cry because you secretly know you're unworthy of having that holiday off. And for that matter, Jews and Muslims don't need Christmas off. I mean, HELLO. They're not even Christian! Since it's a Christian holiday, it should be done by who goes to church the most. During the year, everybody has to collect a note from the pastor when they attend church. These notes are counted up, and those who go to church the least don't get Christmas off. I mean, they don't really need it, do they? Maybe it should be done by salary, because people without a lot of money get depressed on Christmas- too many gifts to buy! Those with the highest income get first dibs. And single parents before married parents! If you're married, your spouse can stay home with the kids, so there'll be at least ONE person at home, right? Right. And no blondes get Christmas off, because red and green makes them look washed-out.
I think your coworker is right. You know why? Because secretly, you are an orphan with no family whatsoever. And furthermore, you have NO friends or loved ones you'd like to be with. None at all. On Christmas, as on all holidays, you return to your tiny apartment and cry because you secretly know you're unworthy of having that holiday off. And for that matter, Jews and Muslims don't need Christmas off. I mean, HELLO. They're not even Christian! Since it's a Christian holiday, it should be done by who goes to church the most. During the year, everybody has to collect a note from the pastor when they attend church. These notes are counted up, and those who go to church the least don't get Christmas off. I mean, they don't really need it, do they? Maybe it should be done by salary, because people without a lot of money get depressed on Christmas- too many gifts to buy! Those with the highest income get first dibs. And single parents before married parents! If you're married, your spouse can stay home with the kids, so there'll be at least ONE person at home, right? Right. And no blondes get Christmas off, because red and green makes them look washed-out.
ha ha.... thanks!! that poor blonde married low-salaried nurse, who is weekend option so she never gets to go to church... she's just darn out of luck isn't she?? :) :) :)
....Oh my god after reading this post....I almost cried because the other day @ work one of my co-workers basically told me it was unfair I got Christmas off even though I don't celebrate it!!! I am a muslim! I guess because I offered to work thanksgiving, Mngt just gave me this day off. In any case I had already switched days with a co-worker of mine who asked me (nicely) to switch days with her.
The thing that really upset me the most was that I always switch Thanksgiven & Christmas with my friends at work because it means SO much to them & for me it's like any other day. by the way she also said this to me as I was inside a pt's room doing 'stuff' & so I couldn't really respond @ the time. No, I don't think he heard her. Just sharing:wink2:
Anyway I wish u all happy holidays with your loved ones.
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