"superior" students,cliques, hatred runs deep

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Yes, all this has been going on since last fall where I'm attending school. Some of the LPN's that are doing thr bridge program think that they are "superior" than everybody else. There are small groups that ignore others, either won't look at them, or look through them, you don't exist to them and don't ever think that you can talk to them; they are unapproachable. Is this the norm for nursing school or do I just have the misfortune to be in a group of b's? Most of them hate our one black student, who is super intelligent and they hate anyone who has anything to do with her. Yeah, these people who have no feelings, have hate inside, are going to be RN's one day and you might be one of their patients, who knows? Have any suggestions for me? I thought women in their 30's and 40's would be mature enough to realize that they are NOT superior or better than others. :angryfire

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Specializes in 5 yrs OR, ASU Pre-Op 2 yr. ER.

Ignore them and get yourself through school. School's hard enough without wasting time on bitter people.

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Ignore them and get yourself through school. School's hard enough without wasting time on bitter people.

Exactly!! ;) This isn't high school anymore - unfortunatly you're stuck with a group who thinks it is. BUT! More than likely the real world is gonna smack them in the face when they get out of the safe haven of nursing school and into the real world of nursing. They will be the newbies then, and will be rightfully put in their place if they pull attitude with nurses who've been around awhile. What goes around comes around. Just get through school - the rest will take care of itself.

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Specializes in Oncology/Haemetology/HIV.

Why worry about them?

Repeat "I cannot control what other people say or do, I can only control how I deal with it" - over and over again.

It is a mantra for life and saves on the shrink/liquor/antidepressant pills needed otherwise.

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Specializes in Med Surg/Tele/ER.

I hope its not the norm....all I can say is that thank goodness my class is not like that. We all get along, and really try to help anyone that is struggling. Now we are not always lovey dovey....everyone gets on your last nerve sometime, but we don't fight & hate each other.I agree w/the other posters...ignore them. I would be friends with exactly whom I wished, and if it bothered them...oh well! I was at clinicals last year, and another school was there as well. There were a couple of students that knew it all....the nurse I was with said,they loved to watch these type of students hang themselves.....then set back and laugh. So it won't take long w/that attitude for them to get just what they deserve.

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Specializes in Almost everywhere.

we have that type of a problem where i am at too! :o i am a part-timer and do my best to avoid those type of people. in fact, i almost want to laugh because there will be many that get a swift-kick when they get in the real world. i believe in sharing what you know and help others to learn rather than hang it over their heads...this isn't high school! amen!

hang in there angel!

beary :icon_hug:

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I hope its not the norm....all I can say is that thank goodness my class is not like that. We all get along, and really try to help anyone that is struggling. Now we are not always lovey dovey....everyone gets on your last nerve sometime, but we don't fight & hate each other.I agree w/the other posters...ignore them. I would be friends with exactly whom I wished, and if it bothered them...oh well! I was at clinicals last year, and another school was there as well. There were a couple of students that knew it all....the nurse I was with said,they loved to watch these type of students hang themselves.....then set back and laugh. So it won't take long w/that attitude for them to get just what they deserve.

What they deserve is prayer and understanding. They are probably very unhappy, lonely, scared, hurting people under all that hatred. They have stuff going on, probably, that no one suspects or knows, and can't share it. I learned in high school that the girls I thought were pretty and popular and had it made were just as scared as I was, just as worried about their futures and everything as I. Pray for them, be mellow, be yourself. You don't know the whole story, I'd wager.

Is it the norm? That depends on where you work, who you work with. Most of the many, many coworkers I've ever had have been pretty nice. There have been a few bad apples but they were a definite minority.

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is your director or faculty prejudice also? if not i would bring a group of you and point out their behavior to the one black student at the school this should not continue. other than than ignore them you will come across this at the workplace depending on the environment of where you work and if your work place tolerates it.

Yes, all this has been going on since last fall where I'm attending school. Some of the LPN's that are doing thr bridge program think that they are "superior" than everybody else. There are small groups that ignore others, either won't look at them, or look through them, you don't exist to them and don't ever think that you can talk to them; they are unapproachable. Is this the norm for nursing school or do I just have the misfortune to be in a group of b's? Most of them hate our one black student, who is super intelligent and they hate anyone who has anything to do with her. Yeah, these people who have no feelings, have hate inside, are going to be RN's one day and you might be one of their patients, who knows? Have any suggestions for me? I thought women in their 30's and 40's would be mature enough to realize that they are NOT superior or better than others. :angryfire
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Specializes in Psych, Med/Surg, LTC.

A lot of these students will never make it out of the program. There are group projects and group presentations. Unless they all are in the same group things wont go very smooth for them. I also noticed students with this kind of attitude think they already know everything, and let their studying slide and eventually fail out.

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Specializes in Med-Surg.
Ignore them and get yourself through school. School's hard enough without wasting time on bitter people.

That's exactly what I was going to say. Excellent advice.

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I agree w/ Tweety and Marie. You cannot control or change their behaviour, only how you respond to it. If they choose to limit who they interact w/, it's their loss. Many people believe life is high school, but again that's their problem. You will get this in school and even at work.

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