i finished nursing school on friday. :yeah: i take the nclex at the end of sept. or beginning of oct. i have worked in the same department for a few years as a tech. my sister called and i told her about my inititive by going to other departments and handing my resumes to the unit directors/managers where i have applied for a rn position. of course she wanted to know why i couldn't just stay on my current floor. she became angry because she doesn't think other people had to do this they were just offered jobs before graduation (she knows some of my
friends who graduated in may/june who were offered jobs). she keeps saying its not fair. frustrated she gets off the phone..hangs up on me(pretty much). before i can. i cannot stress enough, it does not matter i have to do whatever i must to become employed as an rn. nothing wrong with pounding the pavement so to speak. i am applying everywhere that i know of including home
health places and my current hospital system.
i am trying to stay positive! how do i get her/my mom/ family to leave it alone? heck how do i get other people to just leave it alone who keep pestering me about
it (co-workers, family,etc). i have tried telling them i'm applying elsewhere. i
have told them that there no jobs on my unit. but, they wont let up. i am now picking up hours through the hospital float pool because people in my unit keep
asking. i am already stressed enough without others asking me about a job.
It can be frustrating. Before I started nursing school, none of my friends or family really believed that the nursing job market was bad- every time I expressed concern about getting a job after graduation they'd act like I was fishing for compliments or that I just needed a pat on the back.
Or when I was trying to get together funding for school, I'd get comments like "aren't there all sorts of scholarships out there?" and "why don't you just find a hospital to pay for school?" Gee, why didn't I think of that? Oh, wait, I did and there actually weren't "all sorts" of things out there and for one reason or another I was left to do it with savings and loans.
By the time I graduated they were starting to have a sense that MAYBE I was moving in to my own little world and their knowledge of the process and various barriers was not as in-depth as mine.
I would change the subject every time it is brought up, lol. Conversation would go something like this:
Sister "so, did you get hired on your floor?"
Me "Did you see that Macy's is having a sale on all their summer shoes?"
Sister "When do you start the job on your floor"
Me "What are we going to get mom for Christmas this year?"
If she continued I would just say, Listen, I know that you think you are being helpful, but you are only stressing me out more. I am done discussing this with you, if and when I hear something you will be the first to know.
BUT, that is the difference between 20's and 40's. At my age, I realize I am the only person who gets to live this life. Not my mom, not my husband and not my kids. ME. So when I say, its all about me, I am only half joking. Sometimes, it is ok to not share. Sometimes it is ok to think of only yourself. Sometimes, it has to be all about YOU.
I would change the subject every time it is brought up, lol. Conversation would go something like this:
Sister "so, did you get hired on your floor?"
Me "Did you see that Macy's is having a sale on all their summer shoes?"
Sister "When do you start the job on your floor"
Me "What are we going to get mom for Christmas this year?"
If she continued I would just say, Listen, I know that you think you are being helpful, but you are only stressing me out more. I am done discussing this with you, if and when I hear something you will be the first to know.
BUT, that is the difference between 20's and 40's. At my age, I realize I am the only person who gets to live this life. Not my mom, not my husband and not my kids. ME. So when I say, its all about me, I am only half joking. Sometimes, it is ok to not share. Sometimes it is ok to think of only yourself. Sometimes, it has to be all about YOU.
Bortaz, MSN, RN
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I cannot tell you what I would say to them, due to restrictions and rules of this forum regarding adult language.