"I bet your other co-workers friends didn't have to..."

[NENE RN]

i finished nursing school on friday. :yeah: i take the nclex at the end of sept. or beginning of oct. i have worked in the same department for a few years as a tech. my sister called and i told her about my inititive by going to other departments and handing my resumes to the unit directors/managers where i have applied for a rn position. of course she wanted to know why i couldn't just stay on my current floor. she became angry because she doesn't think other people had to do this they were just offered jobs before graduation (she knows some of my

friends who graduated in may/june who were offered jobs). she keeps saying its not fair. frustrated she gets off the phone..hangs up on me(pretty much). before i can. i cannot stress enough, it does not matter i have to do whatever i must to become employed as an rn. nothing wrong with pounding the pavement so to speak. i am applying everywhere that i know of including home

health places and my current hospital system.

i am trying to stay positive! how do i get her/my mom/ family to leave it alone? heck how do i get other people to just leave it alone who keep pestering me about

it (co-workers, family,etc). i have tried telling them i'm applying elsewhere. i

have told them that there no jobs on my unit. but, they wont let up. i am now picking up hours through the hospital float pool because people in my unit keep

asking. i am already stressed enough without others asking me about a job.

venting!!

[NENE RN]

Told my sister. sorry.

[tyvin, BSN, RN]

Often times it's not what you know it's who you know ... nothing wrong there, it's just how it's been. Nothing wrong with pounding the proverbial pavement. It's all about networking ... that's how one gets a job these days. You're doing nothing wrong. If you're able to directly hand resumes to people even better. Give em the confident hand shake with the million dollar smile ... shows initiative.

Congratulations and good luck on your boards.

[misava]

I'm right there with you ... my transitions (final practicum) floor was not hiring ... and my mom has been bugging me about it nonstop! Yeah there are people who get offered jobs from a floor they've done clinicals on or have had a tech position from, but can't be everyone!

We'll get there and be awesome nurses soon!

[caliotter3]

Your relatives are simply concerned about your future and well being. Better than having them be indifferent to what happens to you. Hopefully they will throw you a pleasant family celebration when you do land that first nursing job!

[Katie5]

Your relatives are simply concerned about your future and well being. Better than having them be indifferent to what happens to you. Hopefully they will throw you a pleasant family celebration when you do land that first nursing job!

True but sometimes the concerns become more stressful to the person. They are good intentions but they have to let up a little- she is stressed out enough looking for a job, she does not need family, adding to it by seeing some sort of conspiracy on why she did not get hired.

OP you have a positive vibe, stay with it and FIND that job!

[nohika]

Your relatives are simply concerned about your future and well being. Better than having them be indifferent to what happens to you. Hopefully they will throw you a pleasant family celebration when you do land that first nursing job!

I definitely would prefer indifference somedays. When they literally insert themselves into your job/work hunt/whatever, it gets extremely obnoxious. My mother (while I don't work in healthcare right now) has decided "how things should be done", ignoring the fact I'm 21 and it's my job, and not hers. Sigh.

[canesdukegirl, BSN, RN]

Aw, honey. I am so sorry that you are frustrated. It would seem that your family/friends should be supportive of you instead of interrogating you! In their defense, they can't possibly know what the job market is like right now, and the reason they are 'pestering' you is because they care about you and want you to succeed...and you have!

The next time you are "strapped to a chair with a single bare lightbulb overhead", simply tell them that you are pursuing every avenue and that you are doing what you can in order to get a job. Let it go at that. Don't feel the need to validate your actions by launching into a description of the scarce job market in your area, or the tactics that you are using to get your resume out to perspective employers. You are being your OWN advocate. Good job!

Good luck on the NCLEX! You seem like an assertive person-don't ever change that about yourself.

**just a side note: would you consider changing your font size/style? It was difficult for me to read...probably because I am old. :)

[NENE RN]

Thank you everyone! I will change the font on my next post. I made it bigger because I couldn't see. My age I suppose. I am pretty much refusing to acknowledge my eyesight is changing.

Thank you again for all of your encouragement!

[SeeTheMoon]

I'm just a student, but I have heard (and read a few posts on AN) that sometimes it's better go to another dept/floor, because sometimes it can be difficult for you to transition to your new role in nursing (and for co-workers to respect that transition.) So maybe it's for the best anyway? :) Good luck to you!!

[anurseatlast]

Congrats on finishing nursing school! That is a great accomplishment.

Families, friends, coworkers, etc often can be obnoxious when they mean to be helpful. Giving them specific information just gives them openings to comment on what you are doing, aren't doing, should be doing, what their cousin did to get a nursing job........ Give brief, vague answers - "I am applying to lots of places. I am open to whatever works out." You could say, "If you hear of anywhere that is hiring, would you send me an email?" Then change to subject. If someone keeps bugging you, you could tell them, "I am doing all I can. Talking about it stresses me out. Please, don't ask. I will let you know when I have news." Repeat as needed (some people are slow learners but eventually they will give up if you just don't discuss it with them)

Do try to find a couple people who are safe to vent to who will not drive you crazy with advice. Sounds like you are doing a great job getting your resume out there. Keep it up. You will get a job.

[HelenofOz]

SeeTheMoon beat me to it!

I was going to suggest you tell them that it can be easier to establish yourself in a new role in a new area, or even that you wanted to experience a different style of nursing to the area you've been working in for so long, not get into a rut blah blah blah.

Make it look as if it's all yor decision to work in a different setting, and not you responding to external events. Look like a 'go-getter' etc etc, put a positive spin on it, then ask them to let it go as you're busy studying for the NCLEX and need a calm environment to enable you to do your best.

(It is probably difficult for your Mum too, who only wants the best for you, and would love to be able to fix the problem with one of her suggestions-it's a Mum thing)

Good luck for the exam.