problem with my DON, help!

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So this is my first post on here but I NEED advice from other nurses and cannot discuss with coworkers.

I am a LPN charge nurse on an inpatient behavioral unit for LTC. Most of my patients are dementia, schizoaffective, schizophrenic or bipolar. Please keep in mind, we are LTC and not "total psych" therefore we do not use restraints or administer psych meds IM/SC to combative patients.

On my unit, a patient dx "dementia with behavioral disturbances" was due her scheduled Trazodone. I approached her in a calm manner per usual, as she is known to get violent (but never with me). Upon telling her it was time for meds crouched down at her level, she proceeded to punch me 3 times (neck, shoulder, forearm). She's 90-something, but this woman was like Muhammed Ali.

Now I step away from her calmly, and she throws water on me. Again, this is part of her dx (ie: behavioral disturbances). I am not hurt, nor angry. But I do need to report her increased agitation to my supervisor, which I do. Her only PRN is Trazodone 25mg, which I had to wait to give her once she calmed down (my supervisor gave it along with her scheduled meds).

Per protocol, I filled out an incident report, contacted the psych PA, updated the family, etc etc. You nurses all know the protocol, it's fairly cut and dry. My supervisor contacted our DON, who stated NOT to call the police or send her to the ER. Strange...but I went on with my night, thinking psych would see her in the AM.

Patient was not seen by psych in the AM, as they only come to the building 3x/week (unbeknowst to me, as I work 3-11pm). On this shift, this same patient calmy walked by another patient who was dozing in his wheelchair and punched him unprovoked in his arm.

I fill out another incident report, this is much more serious, as it is patient-to-patient. Luckily, she did not hit him hard enough to arouse him, but this behavior cannot be ignored. My DON again tells the supervisor NOT to call the police. Really??? This patient was started on Divalproex 250mg PO BID the next morning by psych, FYI.

A few days later, my DON sits down to talk to me. He is condescending, asking me "why did you allow her to hit you THREE times" "why didn't you give her the PRN right away" (hello, she hit me because she didn't want her scheduled meds! Not looking to get punched a fourth time!), "Why did you let her throw water on you" and ended it with "you know, it's a shame this patient ended up on another med because you cannot handle your unit"

My DON then tried to get me to change my statement about the incident of this patient hitting another patient, stating the CNA who witnessed changed her statement to say she was just trying to get the dozing patients attention. She is a per diem CNA & doesn't have a nursing license to uphold, first of all. I clearly saw this patient hit him in anger and I refused to change my statment.

I was outraged. This patient has been a repeat offender of violent behavior on every unit in the building. She was moved to my unit a year ago for this reason. I refused to change my statement, so the DON had to call the police to file a report. Fast forward a week...

I had asked for Halloween off for a bachelorette party 8 weeks in advance. I was told the Monday before Halloween "the DON denied your day off. He said you should have found your own coverage." This information about "finding your own coverage" is NOWHERE in the employee handbook. I have tons of vacation time to use. Halloween is not considered a holiday at work. I am not upset the patient hit me, as this is unfortunately a behavior thanks to her dx. However, I am upset with how my DON treated me.

I feel as though I am being chastised for doing my job as a mandatory reporter, and now having vacation time denied that I deserve. I have NEVER asked for a day off at this job before, as I've only been there 8 months. I work a lot of OT too.

He is such a snake I am scared to report him to our central HR. I feel like he will somehow figure out a way to fire me, although I have no write ups or disciplinary actions on file.

Thoughts on how to proceed or what to do?! Help!!!

We were getting away from geri psych and moving to more of rehab but now we are back with more geri psych. The OP's post if very fresh to me. Resident to resident contact/ abuse does warrent an incident report which includes calls to both families, doc, risk manager, nurses notes, alert charting and updating the care plan/ behavior plan is necessary. That type of documentation can go away.

Our local ERs would not accept a patient for the behaviors you listed above. Since you have psych services in your facility, I would try to see if they have a crisis phone #. If a 302 is needed, they can help you with this and get it started.

I wouldn't go after the DON, sounds like he will sink his own shift.

Specializes in Psychiatric nursing; Medical-Surgrical.
So this is my first post on here but I NEED advice from other nurses and cannot discuss with coworkers.

I am a LPN charge nurse on an inpatient behavioral unit for LTC. Most of my patients are dementia, schizoaffective, schizophrenic or bipolar. Please keep in mind, we are LTC and not "total psych" therefore we do not use restraints or administer psych meds IM/SC to combative patients.

On my unit, a patient dx "dementia with behavioral disturbances" was due her scheduled Trazodone. I approached her in a calm manner per usual, as she is known to get violent (but never with me). Upon telling her it was time for meds crouched down at her level, she proceeded to punch me 3 times (neck, shoulder, forearm). She's 90-something, but this woman was like Muhammed Ali.

Now I step away from her calmly, and she throws water on me. Again, this is part of her dx (ie: behavioral disturbances). I am not hurt, nor angry. But I do need to report her increased agitation to my supervisor, which I do. Her only PRN is Trazodone 25mg, which I had to wait to give her once she calmed down (my supervisor gave it along with her scheduled meds).

Per protocol, I filled out an incident report, contacted the psych PA, updated the family, etc etc. You nurses all know the protocol, it's fairly cut and dry. My supervisor contacted our DON, who stated NOT to call the police or send her to the ER. Strange...but I went on with my night, thinking psych would see her in the AM.

Patient was not seen by psych in the AM, as they only come to the building 3x/week (unbeknowst to me, as I work 3-11pm). On this shift, this same patient calmy walked by another patient who was dozing in his wheelchair and punched him unprovoked in his arm.

I fill out another incident report, this is much more serious, as it is patient-to-patient. Luckily, she did not hit him hard enough to arouse him, but this behavior cannot be ignored. My DON again tells the supervisor NOT to call the police. Really??? This patient was started on Divalproex 250mg PO BID the next morning by psych, FYI.

A few days later, my DON sits down to talk to me. He is condescending, asking me "why did you allow her to hit you THREE times" "why didn't you give her the PRN right away" (hello, she hit me because she didn't want her scheduled meds! Not looking to get punched a fourth time!), "Why did you let her throw water on you" and ended it with "you know, it's a shame this patient ended up on another med because you cannot handle your unit"

My DON then tried to get me to change my statement about the incident of this patient hitting another patient, stating the CNA who witnessed changed her statement to say she was just trying to get the dozing patients attention. She is a per diem CNA & doesn't have a nursing license to uphold, first of all. I clearly saw this patient hit him in anger and I refused to change my statment.

I was outraged. This patient has been a repeat offender of violent behavior on every unit in the building. She was moved to my unit a year ago for this reason. I refused to change my statement, so the DON had to call the police to file a report. Fast forward a week...

I had asked for Halloween off for a bachelorette party 8 weeks in advance. I was told the Monday before Halloween "the DON denied your day off. He said you should have found your own coverage." This information about "finding your own coverage" is NOWHERE in the employee handbook. I have tons of vacation time to use. Halloween is not considered a holiday at work. I am not upset the patient hit me, as this is unfortunately a behavior thanks to her dx. However, I am upset with how my DON treated me.

I feel as though I am being chastised for doing my job as a mandatory reporter, and now having vacation time denied that I deserve. I have NEVER asked for a day off at this job before, as I've only been there 8 months. I work a lot of OT too.

He is such a snake I am scared to report him to our central HR. I feel like he will somehow figure out a way to fire me, although I have no write ups or disciplinary actions on file.

Thoughts on how to proceed or what to do?! Help!!!

Girl get out now! It will get worse seriously. And see who you can report this to as well!

So, you, and the persons that "liked" you post are ok with lying and fraud?

I liked VNurse30's post and:

I am NOT O.K. with fraud or cover-up. VNurse30 has pointed out some valid alternatives to reporting the patient to the Police who may or may not have determined it was necessary to take the patient to the ER in the first place (the only place I am aware of that can assess a patient on short notice to be admitted to a psych unit - I may be wrong). The ER is not really the appropriate place to send this patient. The ER would likely send the patient right back and the facility would have to persue other interventions to solve the behavioral issues. As for the DON, I think the poster did the right thing by standing up for him/herself and refusing to alter original documentation. Only Nurseredd, LPN can decide to stay or go... I cannot give advise on that because I am too old of a nurse to cower to veiled threats in order to keep any job.

Its hard to walk away from a job you love, especially when you havent done wrong. I would follow company policy and procedure as written. Also chart very accurately when incidents occur to cover yourself. Sometimes in nursing the higher ups will stick together against you even when you are a great nurse. I have seen this and I am sure thats why others on this post are telling you to get out of there. One time I received a bad yearly evaluation from the DON after refusing to do another nurses paperwork to catch things up. Like you, I was liked very much by other staff, the residents and their families. After the bad write up, I decided to wait and see what would happen next. Thankfully, my DON got fired. Best of luck to you. Unfortunately there are snakes in nursing.

Specializes in LTC,Hospice/palliative care,acute care.

"BUMP"....Highly anticipating an update,Nurseredd.How did you all make out when you stomped in with your written statements? Did you look over your shoulder to discover your troops had run the other way or were you righteously victorious in great numbers?New boss,a raise,much praise heaped upon you?

You are very mistaken if you think one can't be fired for being gay. It's not a protected federal class. Only a relatively small number of states have protections.

It falls in a grey area but according to the EEOC, sexual orientation falls under the protected class of sex.

Discrimination Based on Sexual Orientation, Status as a Parent, Marital Status and Political Affiliation

Specializes in LTC, PACU, Psych, OB/GYN, ED.

Update: I wanted to thank you all for your input. As of 12/19/15 my DON will no longer be employed by my company. He was offered a "leave or get fired" type deal. It feels like Christmas came early.

Your DON sounds like a complete ***

Update: I wanted to thank you all for your input. As of 12/19/15 my DON will no longer be employed by my company. He was offered a "leave or get fired" type deal. It feels like Christmas came early.

I was going to say, depending how long you hold out, you'll probably be getting new higher ups anyway. At least that has been my experience every place I've worked in LTC.

Congrats!

Specializes in Hospice.

Is resident-on-resident assault reportable to your state regulators as a sentinel event? This may be the root of the DONs reluctance to have your incident report on record.

Fiddling with records to avoid administrative "black marks" or regulatory scrutiny is not unheard of in corporate America. The question is, is the DON a "rogue operator" or just a good corporate do-bee.

Oops - should have read the rest of the thread! Glad to hear there's light at the end of the tunnel.

Well said and true I have 20 yrs in nursing and have seen many red tape politics issues. Be careful black balling does exist.

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