Pregnancy and nursing school.

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Hey everyone. This is my first post. But my fiance and I are having some serious issues right now. This is my year before I am applying for admission into the nursing program. We are wanting to have a baby before he turns 30 (in 2 more years..) but to do so we would have to get pregnant as of now. The baby would be due around June/July and i'd have a month or so off before I started my fundamentals class. Even then it's only a partial semester class...tough but only a partial and I don't really have any other classes left besides that one..so I am looking toward a part time 6 hr semester...not sure if it is the best time to get pregnant or not. If we wait until after our wedding (July 11th 2008) in which we had initially planned it is going to be ALOT harder due to admission into the program and clinicals. (I already have a 4 yr old but she's my fiance's step daughter so to speak...) Anyone have any advice on whether it would be easier to have one now or to only settle for adoption after I graduate... :( I would appreciate honest anwsers and no sugar coats...lol. Thanks!!

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Specializes in LTC.

There's nothing wrong with having a baby after 30. Wait until you're done with school and happily married to have the child. Nursing school is going to be a lot of stress on the entire family and a child would only add to it.

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Is he going to become sterile after 30? It will just add unnecessary hardship and stress on everyone (especially you) to have a baby during nursing school and I am not just whistling dixie.

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I don't know. Even before we started dating..when we were just friends he always said he did'nt want children after 30...soemthing about being retired withoout children still in school running around the house. But I we also have baby itch right now as well which makes it harder..lol. when I asked you all not to sugar coat it dang I got what I askied for, haha. But it's all good :)

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Sorry about all the typos..i'm taking advantage of getting my nails done before I start clinicals..lol. And I can't type writ a crap with the nails, haha.

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I'm speaking from my point of view. I had my son during nursing school, 2 months before graduation. He's my second child. I have a 5 year old. I did not plan to get pregnant that soon. We were shooting for after I graduated, but things happen. Anyway I was pregnant during nursing III and IV. I still made graduation! It wasn't easy considering I also worked full time up until the birth, however I pulled it off. You really would need to have a great plan with a supportive family. There will need to be someone to care for the baby when you are gone, etc. It's just really a lot of work, stress, etc. I don't know if you are willing to put yourself through all of that. I'm kind of wondering why you could not wait until your finished and married and some of the stress has been gone before you decide to start a family. Your fiance is able to have children pass 30 so I don't really understand the logic to that, unless maybe if you are waiting, it's posing danger to you. I do not know how old you are.

Anyhow if it was a decision for myself, I would probably wait it out until I and my family were situated.

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[Anyone have any advice on whether it would be easier to have one now or to only settle for adoption after I graduate... :(

Why would you have to adopt if you wait until after you graduate?

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[Anyone have any advice on whether it would be easier to have one now or to only settle for adoption after I graduate... :(

Why would you have to adopt if you wait until after you graduate?

Because my fiance and I would not be up for having children around the house after we retire. I would like to be able to travel and do all the things I never got to growing up. (I grew up in an abusive home then was placed in foster care..so we never got to travel and such..i've never even been to an amusment yet alone barely out of the state..lol) So adoption would insure the children were closer in age...I will be here for 3 more years (longer if I were to fail anything...but i'm not thinking of that)....seems like forever! We were planning on trying after we got married next year...but that would place m having the baby my first year of clinicals....so i'm thinking it would be easier now instead of then.

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Specializes in Endoscopy/MICU/SICU.

I have a 4 month old, and I'm telling you, that it is so hard having a new baby while you're going to school! I'm only taking my prereqs, not even in NS yet, and it's so hard to study when you've had no sleep. It would probably be ten times harder in NS. Don't get me wrong, I'm sure there are plenty of women who have done it. Just remember how it was having your daughter and think if you can handle that while you're in school and studying....

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Specializes in ob/gyn med /surg.

my sister was pregnant in RN school .. she graduated , had the baby , had a 24 hour stayin the hosp and took boards the next day.. they allowed her to take in her donut to sit on. then boards were 2 days . she did and pased. she looked cute in her graduation photo , she was 9 mos and had a cute tummy.

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Wow, I thought I was a "planner". Eku, you got me beat.

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Specializes in ER, Peds, Charge RN.

If your fiance plans on retiring at 48 or up, your child should be out of the house by that time. Regardless of if you adopt or not, you're always gonna have a kid around. I'm not sure what difference two years would really make.

I had a daughter in nursing school, and I never got to really spend time with her when she was a baby. It was hard, but worth it. Good luck with whichever you choose.

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