Orion81RN 962 Posts Has 7 years experience. Sep 12, 2021 17 hours ago, Closed Account 12345 said: I can't speak to your performance to give feedback, but I can say this as a parent. If I were ever in the horrible situation of my newborn child being critically ill and heading towards a code, I would choose for the experienced NICU nurse to step in and take over care every single time. The best orientee is still an orientee, and from a parental standpoint, I wouldn't care what an orientee learned during that shift. I'd care that my baby had the best nurse possible and survived. Maybe try to think of it from that perspective. Your preceptor might have realized how dire the situation was and realized what was coming. While operating at that stress level, her communication and teaching skills probably weren't ideal. She may not have mentally been in a place to debrief you appropriately or discuss your performance after she'd just had a newborn baby die on her and gone through the adrenaline rush and trauma of trying to reverse that death. Could she voice her concerns in a more kind, clear, and tactful manner? Of course! But I'd give her grace for that night because she had just experienced the same trauma you had. Hang in there. Remind yourself of the positive feedback you've received along the way, and remind yourself that a micromanaging preceptor isn't necessarily a reflection of your performance or abilities. It might just be her style. If you have down time on your next shift, ask her to walk you through her thought processes and actions from the critically ill/coding baby so that you'll be better prepared for similar situations in the future. I can’t speak to OPs performance either but look at these two statements. “She didn’t believe me and ended up verifying with someone else and when they told her that the drager was correct she said that’s what She thought and completely dismissed me” “There are alot of times I definitely need her to intervene or her feedback and I am very appreciative of that” One person unwilling to admit to something they didn’t know & instead denied it & directed it at someone else. The other statement shows insight, an understanding of needing to learn, and that this person will ask for help when needed. You also stated to give this other nurse “grace.” A nurse allowing herself to be bullied and accepting very subpar education is not what is best for your baby. I’m crappy at training in certain ways. So I outright state that to the people I’m training. I tell them if they feel they need more training, to demand it and state that they did not get all the training they needed from me. I don’t take my stress out on them.