Should I stay with my parents or move closer to the campus?

[Sabreen]

So my parents and I have been having some heated arguments over this. I live 45 minutes away from the nursing school. They do not want me to move out (it would be too long and too tedious to explain) but I'm arguing that I need an apartment because I heard that nursing school can be rough and have you up at weird hours( I still need to read up on it, but I know you have to do clinicals) and I honestly have to admit I am a TERRIBLE driver at night and when I'm tired. i can only imagine what would happen if they were both combined. So I proposed that I rent an apartment with some room mates and stay overnight when I need to or when I have too many exams coming at once and need a quiet place to study study study ( because I heard there's LOTS of that) without worrying about waking up extra early to get to school on time. However, I would try to come home everyday if I'm not busy.

Am I wrong? Can I manage at least the first semester or year at home? Or even all four? I honestly don't know how it all works :/ My parents are just convinced I just want to have fun and it's imperative to them for me to be home as much as humanly possible. (Like I said, long story. Just know that it's religion and culture)

[Beautiful Mind RN]

Here is my advice to you: Live at home. Avoid any extra expenses.

I am in the same situation. My parents welcomed me back home and though hesitant about moving back in because I knew that nursing school was going to have odd hours and their house is a hour away from my school, I still took it, because I know I would be relieved from having to pay rent and utilities.

From what you have described, your parents seem very understanding of your situation(I think they are willing to deal with the odd hours) and that is why they want you to stay home so you can save money and concentrate on school. Not to mention, save you the drama of having roommates.

Besides, if your family does get too distracting (mine does at times), then I either step outside, go to the local library, or stay at school. Easy fix!

Nursing school is tough as is, it's nice to have some relief and a good support system (there is nothing like family, even the closest of friends).

Good luck!

[Beautiful Mind RN]

As for your situation about driving at night, do you have public transportation available? If you do, maybe try and take that a few times a week, saves the hassle of having to deal with traffic.

And the college 'experience', really, is just that, an experience. Or rather a huge 'expense'. I think with all the amount of time you are going to spend on campus, that will be your experience right there. But that's just my opinion. :)

[Sabreen]

Yeah, who says you have to live on campus to experience college?! Okay I feel so much better now about commuting haha

[Sabreen]

Was the transition back home really difficult with the odd hours?! And yeah, I know my parents wouldn't mind helping out in any way they can. If anything I'll just step out in the patio and study there when my siblings get too loud! Thanks!:)

[Sabreen]

Yeah I have like a million younger siblings and even my parents themselves don't know what it means to be quiet. But the expenses outweigh the noise at my house haha I'll just have to work something out with them! I'll probably step outside or go to my local library as well!

I'll look more into the RA thing! Thanks!!!:)

[Graduation2016]

Earplugs work wonders! Got 3 very loud boys at home plus 2 dogs that bark at EVERYTHING and EVERYONE!

[Saysfaa]

I think it is probably unrealistic to expect your family to be quiet, especially as quiet doesn't seem to be a baseline for your parents. However, there are likely to be other solutions to that too, although you may have to get creative.

My family had to work with noise/homework issues too. And with having one computer with six of us in school and expected to have access to a computer. We solved both issues mostly with communication and time-of-day timing... it is usually very quiet at 4 am. Although that might not work as well for you because you will have less issues with sleepiness if you get regular sleep. Or it might if you can sleep through the noise or use white noise and ear plugs and make your "night" from 8pm to 4am or 7pm to 3am. Or 3 pm to midnight. I tended to do the 8 to 4, my daughter the 3 to midnight, so it can work. We could both sleep through what we couldn't study through.

Local library? Your church or a local church that might know you well enough to trust you to borrow a table in an empty room? Friend's house? Perhaps an elderly woman or couple who could use a friendly greeting as you come and go. Or someone who wouldn't mind having someone keep their dog company during the day. If your family has a friend who owns a business, what about the staff break room at their business?

I've done hundreds of hours of studying in a car over the years. In my case it was because I was waiting for my kids (five kids + many years + mulitple activities for each kid + no cell phones = lots of waiting) but the reason doesn't matter so much as that it can work. You wouldn't want to do all of your homework there but perhaps enough.

[NightNerd, MSN, RN]

Haha, yep, I can definitely understand about having younger siblings. It was worth a try, lol. In that case, a nearby library or coffeeshop sounds like a reasonable alternative, and you'll probably be at school studying with other students between classes as well. Just make sure you can get the rest you need at home and it will be manageable. :)

[morte, LPN, LVN]

Networking.....when you start school, ask around to find out who is staying "in town", perhaps you can make arrangements to stay over a specific noc or nocs if classed run late on those specific days. and commute home the rest of the time.

[NurseJacqpott]

STAY AT HOME!

I live 45 min away from school I have to go 3 days a week and 1 hour away from my clinical site that I have to go to 2 days out the week. I moved out...and when I decided to go to nursing school...I moved back in.

As other posts says that 45 min drive will make up for the stress of every-day-living-at-home-by-yourself-stuff.

You are sacrificing a few years of your life to build a strong healthy foundation.

Just think about how gratifying it would be to tell your parents "Thank You" by sending them on a nice weekend trip to Vegas or a cruise...or get their house painted!

As the ol' folks say, "It will be greater later".