I get so aggravated with my fiance. Here is the situation. We just moved across state last summer. He is a pharmacy student and I relocated with him to have more oppurtunities for an education and better job prospects than what I had upstate. I have returned to college full time and working part time and granted I don't have a buttload of money to give him, I keep my basic bills paid. He pays the rent and utilities. I buy my own groceries. Tonight, we got in a fuss b/c he had to replace the brake pads on my car since I have been laid off from my prior job and am seeking another job and at the rate that we are spending we will be broke. Nevermind that he just bought a new 27 inch television and laser printer to use. No one held a gun to his head and made him buy it!!! He keeps bringing it up how selfish it was returning to school and not working some god awful $7.00 an hour job full time and how I need to rethink my options. I pulled a 4.0 last quarter and am damn proud of myself. I get soooooooooooooo tired of this same argument with him about how you can't get by on 7.00 an hour. He came from a more fortunate background and never had to work like that. He had his parents to help him through college for undergraduate school. I keep telling him that by me returning to school to get an associates degree I am almost tripling my earning potential in the near future and that I could finally get my credit cleaned up to be able to get normal "adult" things. He doesn't understand my frustration of having had lived poor most of my life and not being able to afford basic necessities of living. An education is something I have learned is a precious gift you can only give yourself and that no one can take away. I had to get this off of my chest. He says that I am being selfish and that I should have helped all I could while he went to school and that I should have waited till he graduated. Why not go now and get it out of the way instead of having to wait until I am 100 years old to pursue a education. I don't have any kids and I don't have a lot of debt at this time in my life. Sometimes he gets so self absorbed about him (grew up the only child in his family) that he gets pig headed and acts like what I want to do with my life is not important. I refuse to give up what is making me happy to work a thankless, poverty level wage, slave job!!!!!!!
Jan 21, '05
My family is all for me going back to school. In the past, when I would try to go back, my hubby would say stuff. I think it was only a monetary issue, and now that I have a scholarship
, he is very supportive. Of course, he may have just thought I was waisting money because I never finished each time I went back before. :chuckle
I hope you know
that he is "THE ONE", because if he acts like that now, how will he act when you're married? Hopefully, everything will calm down for you when you both graduate, and money problems aren't bad.
Last edit by Fun2, RN, BSN on Jan 21, '05