Please tell me I am not crazy for turning this down

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Here is the brief synopsis of what happened to me:

- I applied to a local state school for the BSN program for Fall 2008.

- Around mid-March or so I got an acceptance letter which I assumed was to the nursing program (more to come on this debacle)

- Around early May I accepted my admission and called the nursing office to find out whether I would need just titer or have to get re-vaccinated (it has been more than 10 yrs since my last vaccination)

- Found out when I called said nursing office that I was NOT accepted into BSN program just college under which nursing school was. Apparently somehow my application got LOST, yes I said lost. They switched computer systems around the deadline time (does not seem like a bright idea to me), and my application, along with about 15 others, never made it over to the nursing school for review.

- Went for review to nursing school and was called and told I was offered a waitlist spot for Fall 2008.

- Got said letter referencing waitlist spot and it said SPRING 2009

not Fall 2008 as I had been told.

- Talked to numerous different people to try to figure out what the heck was going on. One was an admission counselor who made me feel like a piece of dog crud for even applying (my cumulative GPA is on the lower side because I have failing grades in a completely unrelated major from 12 years ago) and basically had me in tears. Talked to someone in the nursing office who was rude and brusk to me when I was trying to figure out why I was told I was on waitlist for Fall when letter clearly stated Spring, and why the admission office had in their computer system that I was on waitlist for Fall. Called the nursing school advisor three times and left voicemails, as well as emailed her twice, to find out what the story was and how to figure out what was going on and NEVER heard back from her EVER (one time I hit the "0" to talk to her assistant who was the rude, brusk lady I previously mentioned).

I should also mention that I have taken some classes as a student at large there and was not terribly impressed with the professors, out of the 4 classes I took I only had one professor which I liked and was a good prof, the rest were really bad or mediocre at best.

In the end, due to the quality or profs there as well as the general chaos of first losing my application then not knowing WHICH waitlist I was on and their unwillingness to contact me, I declined the waitlist position.

Of course now, I am beginning to think it was not such a good idea to do this. But I just did not trust them to organize anything for me, to oversee my clinicals nor did I feel that I could trust the professors there to oversee my education and give me the outcome I desired.

So please tell me I was not crazy to turn this down and walk away by going with my gut.

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I say follow your instincts. Can you imagine the journey you would have to take it you attended their program? Everything comes in due time. Don't force yourself where it's not a good fit for you.

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I agree, go somewhere else that is better organized.

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I say go, when you do become a nurse things won't always go your way. You will have overcome obstacles just like the obstacles you will face when going through nursing school. Everything happens for a reason.

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Specializes in Pediatric/Adolescent, Med-Surg.

Wow, I can see why you would sound so discouraged. Are their other nursing school options in your area?

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You are only crazy if this was the only game in town. Have you applied to the other programs in your area and where do you stand with them? That is the answer to your question. Sounds to me like you wouldn't want to go to that program IF you have another choice. Good luck.

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Specializes in no specialty! (have to graduate first!).

I think I would've done the same thing. Especially if people were being rude to me. And especially if someone brought me to tears! That wouldn't be the school for me. And if they were that rude to you, imagine how they would be during actual nursing school. I say you did the right thing. Find a school that works better for you and is more organized. You shouldn't have to be treated so badly. There are plenty of schools that have respectful staff and faculty out there.

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Specializes in CNA, Acute care, LTC, Hospital.

Sorry about what is happening to you.

Unfortunately I'm finding that this is NOT the exception, rather the rule.... Here's what I recently found:

  • At two of the local community colleges the nursing department/ admissions staff act as if you're pond scum when you ask questions....
  • At two of the CC advisers were rude, short, and very unprofessional
  • At two of the private colleges the admissions people acted like car salesmen trying to hook their claws into new "meat"... There was NO interest in me as a student... Only a "sale"
  • One of the local career colleges is so disorganized, saying one thing, but doing another.... And oblivious to the outcomes, low morale, and poor reputation... But they're packed in attendance...

Has our society dis-evolved so that we are willing to tolerate crappy service? Are we too sensitive when we, notice this crappy service and are appalled by it?

Here's my idea for the OP and anybody else .... Decide what YOU can live with and do that which best serves you. There are a lot of challenges and a lot of small-minded people who will get in your way and under your skin.... If you let them.

If you let them get under your skin, you won't get what you need or want. Nursing will always be a dream in the future....

I try to remember that most of the rude/thoughtless people I've come in contact with are doing the absolute best that they can... with the limited tools they have.... If I can look past their failures and faults and still get the education I need I become a better person.....

And yeah, sometimes I find myself not doing that.... Sometimes I just ->>:banghead:

And of course, when I stop... It feels better and I press on....

YMMV, and of course, I could be wrong.... :twocents:

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Someone influential with links to informal infrastructure just 'bumped' you. You were probably not the bottom, but was either someone they thought they could easily get away with (a 'Mom'), or was a random laugh in expunging records on a Friday evening late in the office with passwords.

The stress and mental wear and tear, including present value of monies and inconvenience, I'D STICK THEM WITH THAT ONE WITH A GOOD HUNGRY LAWYER!

They want you to rollover. YOU DESERVE IT! Talk directly to the President, get you a Lawyer, and show your proof to the local area newspaper. For a couple of half days work, who knows, you could end up with a scholarship starting in the Fall.

:hlk:

But if that doesn't work, you need to get back in Sprg: it costs too much. You should always have contingency plans to improve yourself. Alternatives cost a lot in time and money compared to just one quarter slippage. You could be getting money at the very least.

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No this is not the only option in town. I am fortunate enough to live in the Chicago area and have a lot of options for completing my BSN or something of the like. I already have a BS in both biology and psychology so I am looking for something that will fit me.

I am thinking I will call the Ombusdan or the President and tell them of this.

And yes I know that there will be perils an I may face an unsavory or challenging work environment. But I say this as someone who has been there and failed, that I will NOT deal with a university who refuses to take responsibility for their actions and the resulting consequences for the student(s). This is it for me, there are no second chances and failure is NOT an option.

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I'm sorry you went through this. I had something similar happen to me last year.. I called a local state school and the lady I spoke to said I didn't need Chemistry before I applied, just as long as it was done before I started the program. Called back two months later, talked to a completely different person and she said I HAD to have the Chem done when I applied. It was part of the criteria they look at when accepting people...so needless to say, that put back me back another year. I almost started :bluecry1::bluecry1: on the phone w/ the lady, but kept my composure, hung up, called my husband and started :crying2: :crying2:*wailing*...I was so frustrated.

Unfortunately I have very few programs to look at in this area, so I'm half thinking of going back to them, but they p***ed me off so bad...

I agree w/ the other posters...this doesn't seem out of the norm.

Go w/ your gut, especially if you have other options. Good luck! :up:

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I say you def made the right decision. That programs sounds way to unorganized. And if its like that on the outside imagine what those poor students are going through.

My school was the same way a few examples

1)My pharm teacher walked out mid way through the semester and left over half the class failing.

2) I signed up for AM clinicals and I found out the week before clinicals were to start the instructor decided to take on a clinical group. Did they know that a week before clinicals?? Of course, did they care to tell us, NO.

3) There was a required summer course and 7 weeks into the 8 week course the department head decided the teacher wasn't qualified. So not only would the student have to take the course over again in the fall, they would have to pay for it again.

The list goes on. It was the most frustrating 2 yrs of my life. Your gut was probably right.

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