Over confident colleague

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Hi all,

I am looking for some advice, I am in my 2nd year studying on the Advanced Diploma Nursing Studies course (adult branch), and I have an over confident colleague who i spend a great deal of time with in practical sessions whilst in school (university). My problem is my colleague always has a story to tell, doesnt leave room for anyone else to contribute and always has some big life saving story to tell! For example, whenever the colleague goes outside to move his car, he always has to perform CPR on some passer by!

Obviously my other colleagues and I know this may not be true, but my problem is the colleague in question is driving us all mad, makes us feel inadequate and always has to be the centre of attention.

I am not a very confrontational person and was hoping someone could advise me on the best way I could sort this out, as now I am wanting to avoid the colleague, which means I quit my course! :scrying:

Please help!

StudentNurseLewlew xx

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Specializes in LTC,Hospice/palliative care,acute care.
Hi all,

Obviously my other colleagues and I know this may not be true, but my problem is the colleague in question is driving us all mad, makes us feel inadequate and always has to be the centre of attention.

I am not a very confrontational person and was hoping someone could advise me on the best way I could sort this out, as now I am wanting to avoid the colleague, which means I quit my course! :scrying:

Please help!

StudentNurseLewlew xx

Remember--- No one can make you feel inferior without your consent... Try using humor-scoff and walk away when he starts spinning his tales-without an audience he'll have to stop performing. Laugh at him-he's a fool.But you'll be a fool too if you quit because of him..

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but my problem is the colleague in question is driving us all mad, makes us feel inadequate and always has to be the centre of attention.

Please help!

StudentNurseLewlew xx

believe me when i tell you that your friend feels even more inadequate than you.

pity him.

and as ktw suggests, laugh and walk away (one of those shaking-your-head, type of laughs).

leslie

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Hi,

I just find it hard to believe that someone who is going into the nursing profession can lie to their friends, like he does, and actually believe he is superior to the rest of us all!

How is that a good nurse quality? :banghead: He makes me so mad! During practical sessions and discussions, my other colleagues and I are left feeling stupid! Which deep down we know we aren't but yet he insists on making us look that way!

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Hmmm do we go to the same school? lol Eventually the person will get that people think that they are annoying, and do not believe what they are saying. Don't feel intimidated. Do the best that you can do. When it comes down to the wire chances are you will never see this person after you graduate and why let someone else compromise your future? Good Luck, just nod and say okay roll your eyes and go on with your day.

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I agree, just put a smirk on your face, directed at everyone in the group and lastly at him, then walk away.

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Specializes in Agency, ortho, tele, med surg, icu, er.

Just say to the guy... "Wow, your life is like a real live version of the tv show ER... Maybe a camera should just go following you around all day"

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Specializes in ER, PACU, Med-Surg, Hospice, LTC.

I ignore these types of people. Just think of all of the time and energy they are wasting on their little make-believe stories! How pathetic.

One way to quiet these people is to ask questions...lots of questions and very specific questions. Ask about CPR. Ask them to walk you through the steps. Heck, they are the expert-know-it-all pro...they shouldn't have any problems with the answers.

When they realize that people want to know more about the specifics to care, rather than just some lame save-the-world story, they will soon quiet down.

.....and if they actually do have all the answers and know everything...make this person your friend because they will be an excellent reference source and make your life a lot easier while you are in school.

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Specializes in ICU, Telemetry.

I had one of those. Earplugs went in before class, came out for lecture, went back in for break, etc. When he finally asked me why I was doing that, I told him, "Trying to keep all your stories straight gives me migraines."

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I once got told by my clinical instructor that I was "over-confident", which she counted against me. I wasn't going around with stories about CPR on the street, though. I was just a first year on first placement where all the other students were squeamish about giving bed baths and (because I'd worked in a nursing home) I knew the drill and offered to lend a hand and got things done.

My relatively useless piece of advice is that in the end, it will count against him. If you and your colleagues can see through him, chances are everyone else can too.

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Specializes in Emergency Medicine.

I know the type person you're describing and I hate them as well.

These people would have you believe they have a trophy in EVERYTHING.

They talk and talk and talk... detracting from the subject matter @ hand and bores absolutely everyone else to death all the while making the class longer than it had to be.

In male social circles we play the one-up game. Next time he goes off on a tangent make sure you have another story no matter how unbelievable. The more exaggerated the better. Maybe, just maybe he'll get the hint.

Like this:

"Well one time @ band camp... I stopped a raging flood with my flip-flops. I used my stethoscope to rescue a trapped family of otters in the driftwood. Then I made a signal fire with only a reflex hammer and some surgical tape." icon_rolleyes.gif

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:cough cough delusions of grandeur cough: That is all. :)

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