one of my clients i take care is entirely too abusive.

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Specializes in geriatrics.

here is the thing one of my clients i take care is entirely too abusive. i've been with her for 2 years and it is still just as crazy there. she is a very heavy woman and we have to use a hoyer lift for transfers she is extremely abusive and i emphasize EXTREMELY!!!!!

one day i take her to her kitchen to eat breakfast, by the way she has already called me every name in the book and pulled my hair kicked me punched me bit me and spit a big honking wad of toothpaste in my face, i star getting her stuff ready and notice that there is a knife missing and i thought maybe it wasn't set out with the rest of her utensils. so she finishes eating we take her back to her room, oh there is 2 of us there and just so you know she likes me more than the other girl i'm with, get her in her chair and she stabs me right in the leg with that knife not very deep just enough to break the skin. so i call my boss and tell her and she straight laughs and me and says that's just how she is. i was so angry and couldn't do anything about it. so about 30 minutes later the woman rings her little bell, not kidding she rings this little bell when she wants something it's awful i even hear it in my sleep, because she dropped her remote i bend down to get it and that lady snips my ponytail OFF with a pair of scissors. again my boss doesn't do anything and i was still there for 10 more hours.

what should i have done?

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I would have quit, right then and there. That's crazy.

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QUIT! My goodness, this is clearly not a safe environment!

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Specializes in geriatrics.

it took me about 6 months to find that job. i probably should have quit but i really needed the money and boy it was great money. now i have amazing clients maybe a couple that shall we say aren't all there.but it's kind of cool meeting all different types of people.:D

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it took me about 6 months to find that job. i probably should have quit but i really needed the money and boy it was great money. now i have amazing clients maybe a couple that shall we say aren't all there.but it's kind of cool meeting all different types of people.:D

Can you refuse to take care of this patient?

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Specializes in geriatrics.

actually i have another question. i have another client who literally cries everytime you walk out of her sight. and the family wants you to clean while you are there, nothing major just light housekeeping, but she immediately starts praying for help and asks why noone cares if she dies. know that if i negate the house work she won't cry because i've done that before but the family gets very angry if you don't do thesse specific chores and i have explain what she does and they just say shes fine and will calm done eventually but i found i start to lose my patients very quickly when i can't even go to use the restroom without her starting up.

any advice? :uhoh3:

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Specializes in geriatrics.

believe me i've tried. my boss will schedule me anyway she isn't the one that has to deal with it. my boss actually drops her meds off and won't even come down the driveway we have to walk up and get the so that the client doesn't see her van in the driveway. to me that's a little pathetic. and i really hate to say this but one time my boss actually told me to up her oxygen so she would pass out. i don't care how crazy she is i could never do that.

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Wow...just...wow...

Unless this woman suffers from a severe mental illness and cannot tell right from wrong I would have called the cops and pressed charges against her. What she is doing to you is assault and battery and putting your life in danger. Who's to say the next time you bend down that knife or scissors doesn't go into your neck instead of merely lopping off your ponytail. Besides as aides if she has violent tendencies then ALL sharp objects should be kept away from her.

Your boss obviously doesn't give two rat's behinds about you or other human beings. The fact that she told you to up her oxygen until she passed out is a huge red flag to run and run far and fast. What if she told another aide that and they took that advice and the woman died? Now you have negligent homicide on your hands.

Wake up and get out!

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You need a new employer.

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Specializes in LTC, med/surg, hospice.

What a nightmare! I'd quit immediately. Have you been looking for another job?

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Specializes in mental health, aged care/disability care.

Assuming she is A&O, you should be reporting her to the police. She assaulted you. That is not a safe working environment and no amount of money is worth that.

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Specializes in ORTHOPAEDICS-CERTIFIED SINCE 89.

So you are a visiting caregiver? This isn't a nursing home? What other places to work are available? Obviously you do need to work but this seems to me to be a dangerous (physically) situation you are in. I agree with the others. Why are you still there?

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