Little Brother - page 2

It was a story I'd seen before: 19-year-old airman, T-cell lymphoma, air evac'd from overseas after a plethora of symptoms led to the discovery of his cancer .I headed boldly into the room, my... Read More

  1. by   bigsick_littlesick
    Such a beautiful story! And yes, as someone said earlier, you are definitely a great writer You describe the very core of what nurses do without question. I tried explaining this feeling, all these interactions with our patients, the compassion, the empathy, the humanity we experience every time we walk onto the floor to someone who had no idea what it was to be a nurse... They just didn't get it. Thank you for sharing!
  2. by   hurty25
    thanks for being a great NURSe!...normally,we felt dissapointed to our patient specially if we did our best to care them but they didn't appreciate our effort maybe because they were worried or focusing too much in thier conditions.Hence,sympathizing and understanding thier conditions make us to persevere and helping them to improved.Its a good feeling to see them smiling and knowing that they are now OK and recieved the best care that we could offer to them.
  3. by   Spidey's mom
    Very well written and timely for me. My brother-in-law had surgery yesterday and the cancer had spread more than the docs thought. He's also Hispanic, speaks mostly Spanish and is stoic. My fear for him is in communication with his caregivers - he's at even more of a disadvantage. His kids and wife all speaks Spanish so I'm hoping they'll be able to help.

    Adding a language barrier to your story . . . . .
  4. by   itsnowornever
    Oh goodness. It's too early for me to be crying. Wonderful story!
  5. by   needshaldol
    You are in the right area of nursing for you. I know it can be very difficult but you have managed to have the right prespective and will help many. You took the time to make him feel human wheras so many of us are robot nurses, afraid to start a conversation only because we do not have time. How sad.
  6. by   CrazierThanYou
    Awesome! I really enjoyed reading it!
  7. by   caughtbuckinoff
    That was a beautiful story. Anything military related always pulls my heartstrings just a little more than usual. I've met some amazing soldiers, sailors, airmen, and marines in my time.

    Thank you for sharing!
  8. by   sharanza930
    Beautifully written, such a heartwarming story... Thank you!
  9. by   nurseladybug12
    You are a great writer and I am glad that you finally were able to connect with him. However, I think that a nurse should never take personally how a patient behaves towards their efforts to emotionally support them. Being diagnosed with cancer at 19 or with any other chronic condition at that young age is extremely difficult, and people will grieve how they want, irregardless of who is helping them. They may never appreciate your help because they are fixated in their own grief. Walk a mile in someone else's moccassins. How would you have acted at that age, being perfectly healthy before, and now you are all alone dealing with it by yourself? I don't think that any patient owes their nurse anything, it's our job, but it is nice to be shown appreciation from time to time. That's just my opinion, because I was myself diagnosed with a chronic condition at 18 and I was hospitalized multiple times, and that is what made me want to become a nurse. Dealing with illness is highly personal and you shouldn't judge people or be hurt that they dont want to talk to you. They are dealing with much more than not being appreciated. Empathize. Also, people may not have the courage to deal with their situation enough to even verbally thank you, but I am sure one day, they will come to terms with their health and appreciate your help.
  10. by   Murseman2011
    Thank you for sharing!
  11. by   SoldierNurse22
    Thanks to all who posted in reply. I greatly appreciate your replies and your willingness to relate with your own stories. It is nothing short of a blessing for me to know that I have perhaps in some way encouraged you or made you remember why you became a nurse. In the day to day madness that is our profession, it can be easy to lose the motivation that predated the motions.

    Nurseladybug12, I would tend to agree with the theory laid out in your post. However, I am no robot. While I strive to empathize with my patients, I am a human nurse with feelings as well, and despite your objection to my honest conveyance of those feelings, I sense that they are emotions that many (if not all) nurses experience at some point in their careers.

    It was indeed my intent to lay bare my soul when it came to my emotional struggle while caring for this young patient. That is, in my opinion, one of the most important things for nurses to do, especially those of us who are young in our field and need to acknowledge the feelings that come with the intimate act of caregiving. Please keep a safe place for nurses to come and vent, decompress and learn without facing condescention. Should you have further concern for my professionalism or my compassion/empathy, please reread my post and see that my venting did in fact happen in private among trusted coworkers, that I continued to give everything I had to this patient, and that I learned a great deal, as evidenced by the final paragraphs of my post.
  12. by   el72868
    What a wonderful encouraging story, and so well written. it reminds me of some days when I wonder why I do this job. Thank you!
  13. by   nkochrn
    Beautiful Story! I have been wondering lately how people can work in oncology all day, while I watch my Dad battle his cancer. I am sooo thankful for wonderful compassionate nurses like you!

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