ok, am I boring?

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hello all,

after a long day all I want to do is relax and read my book followed by sleeping. On the weekends I have no desire to hang out with anyone nor go anywhere all I want to do is read my favourite magazine or play on the computer and may be watch tv no other interest. My hubby calls me boring almost everyday. Maybe I am boring but I love calm activities my days are pretty long and busy. Any feedback.

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And...What is wrong with that? Nothing at all!

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Specializes in Nursing Education, CVICU, Float Pool.

I love reading so it can be as exciting as going on a trip for me sometimes. You're tired and want some relaxation, that's all.

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Specializes in ED.

Really?! Uh... 38 is NOT old *scrunchy face*

So what does your husband want? Saying you are "boring" is nebulous. That is not measurable. Does he want you to be his activity director? What is not “boring” in his opinion? Maybe he just wants a ham sandwich... just saying.

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wow, thanks everyone for replying to my bost now i know boring is ok.

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wow, thanks everyone for replying to my bost now i know boring is ok.

Yeah, but it's no better than ok... get yourself some sexy underwear, then see how "boring" he thinks you are :D

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What is wrong with being an introvert? Why does everybody have to be outgoing and always into something? I dislike how society treats introverted people as if something is wrong with them or label them as being depressed or broken. Sometimes being outgoing and always around other poeple all the time creates nothing but drama

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Specializes in Med Surge, Tele, Oncology, Wound Care.

Working is so stressful. Our jobs are with the public and all day long is spent dealing with people, so when you get home you just want to rest.

I was the same way until I had a baby 13 weeks ago. I say enjoy your time because if you want to have children you wont get that time again. Enjoy the rest for me!

My husband liked to go out and see movies, have dinner and be with friends so I would every now and then do things he wanted to do. He is a "boring" too.

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Specializes in critical care, home health.

Count me as another boring person. There's nothing wrong with that!

However, your husband is giving you a huge red flag. It sounds like he has expectations that are not being met, and from there it is a short road to the D word.

Communication is key. You need to find out what he needs in order to be happy. It would not be fair of him to expect you to fulfill his every whim, but you should consider a compromise that will suit both of you. When you're in a marriage, both partners by definition have an obligation to take the other person's needs into consideration.

Again, I'm not saying you should just do whatever he wants you to do: then you'll end up being the one who feels hurt and resentful. Try to find out exactly what the problem is, and work together to find a solution that respects both of you.

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I agree, communication is the key. However, I know several married people who "communicate" all the time and just end up -- wanting to strangle each other! I don't now a lot of people with happy marriages, very few.

Anyway, speaking of "not" wanting to be alone. I've noticed people who are even friends/acquaintances of mine who would sit by themselves and have a "need" to talk to someone on their cellies -- while they try to eat their food. No reason for them to call anyone, sometimes - they don't really feel like talking themselves. But, for some reason, they can't sit there and eat their meal quietly. They just can't be alone, they need to interact with someone or something. Personally, I don't get that. But, people are people.

One time, I was at my school's lab and I had to look for an open computer. I didn't have my laptop with me. Anyway, I could've sat at a table by myself and did paperwork (while I wait when one opens up), but this guy asked me to come and sit by him. I didn't know him, he had his laptop with him. Well, he was close by so I did. He just told me, that he didn't want to be alone. We didn't interact/talk, I did my paperwork... he worked on his laptop. After a while, a station opened up - so I packed my stuff and got the computer. Then, I didn't think about it anymore. Until a few weeks after that, this girl I know did the --->> I don't want to sit by myself and look alone, so I have to talk on my cellie thing.

Yup, sometimes when u interact with people, it creates drama. But, then again- sometimes "drama" is funny, weird, annoying, etc. I don't know... I'm just me ;) That's all I can say (tee hee).

P.S. Just because someone stays home, doesn't mean they're depressed/boring/broken, etc. Sometimes, this someone could be in his/her backyard pulling out weeds and doing lawn work! Or doing laundry, etc. etc. Single people still need to do "home stuff". People with kids actually have it worse. On my days off, at times - I find myself having to go to Home Depot, run errands, etc. and I don't even have kids! Who's got time to be depressed? (well, maybe sometimes) - I get over it, because I have to. I can't afford a shrink and I don't want to take meds, unless I have to.

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Hubby doesn't sound so supportive. I see an issue of respect here. Although maybe he sees some sort of problem and just doesn't know how to articulate it. Whether you are boring or not is simply a matter of point of view. Lying around all day can be a sign of depression. If you think that might be the case, get some counseling and open the communication channels with hubby. Good luck.

Could you possible exaggerate more? Talk about making a mountain out of a molehill.

OP, I'm the same way after working. It might just be an energy issue though. Have you tried working out or paying attention to what you eat? I notice I get much more tired if I eat the wrong kinds of foods.

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Mature? Honey, you're a baby...get out of that rut before someone plants vegetables around you....:smokin:

She's not in a rut. I don't believe so.

When I am not at work, I AVOID talking to people unless I absolutely have to.

Not to mention the friends who call with their "what do you think I should do issues?"

When I am home, the "work button is off."

There are days when I work out and do the rock wall at the gym, and other days where Bronte, Austen or Shakespeare is my bff.

Anything to decompress.....:cool:

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She's not in a rut. I don't believe so.

When I am not at work, I AVOID talking to people unless I absolutely have to.

Not to mention the friends who call with their "what do you think I should do issues?"

When I am home, the "work button is off."

There are days when I work out and do the rock wall at the gym, and other days where Bronte, Austen or Shakespeare is my bff.

Anything to decompress.....:cool:

I'd answer this post but I just climbed out of the vegetable bed :D

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