Insane visitors!

biscuit_007 · Jul 16, 2002

besides does a new baby with an immature immune system really need to be passed around that much?

mark_LD_RN · Jul 16, 2002

well you will get used to it, i try to limit the visitors but soon as i chase some out more come in,:). I have been amazed at the number of people a women will allow in the room while having peri care done, or vag exam etc. I thought it was just my part of the country but i guess not.

i used to worry about the germ thing and the babies immune sytem. but as a couple of our midwives put it" they going to be exposed to it and more in 36 hours so let visit." I just secreen the sick ones out as much as possible one hospital i worked at took all visitors under 12 temperature. well hope you are having fun,I know i am.:)

sbic56, BSN, RN · Jul 16, 2002

I agree with Mark. It is very different in OB as far as visitors are concerned. I always make sure she wants them there and if so, good enough. And the germ thing... these infants are going to meet these people either in the hosptal or very soon afterward, no matter when, from the germs' perspective. Just be sure to screen out the sick ones.

SmilingBluEyes · Jul 16, 2002

**get used to it*** welcome to the new family-friendly birth center environment, where customer is king (or queen). At times, it will be the bane of your existance as a labor nurse, but also can be a boon. They are VERY supportive and helpful at times. All you can do is work with them, try to foster a positive relationship with them, and if they get in the way, ask them to MOVE...... and I wish you good luck. :-)

OBNURSEHEATHER · Jul 16, 2002

Oh gawd! Don't even get me started. It seems that the minute a woman has a baby, her family, loved ones, neighbors, and aquaintances all become pushy overbearing idiots, and the woman herself becomes a pushover.

:confused:

I personally won't even let anyone in the room until I've admitted mom and gone over all of the admission paperwork. If I don't do it right away, I'll never get it done, so it gets done then. Then when I leave, baby goes with me to nursery for admission, bath, etc. P*sses them off to no end!

A couple of times when I've asked people to step out (for peri care, vag exam, etc.), they'll look at me and say "Oh, I don't mind."

I say, "Well, I mind, and whether or not she says it, I'm sure my patient minds."

Heather

HazeK · Jul 16, 2002

family and visitors can indeed be a boon or a bane!

Our classics are the ones who go to our open nourishment room and empty the cupboards of crackers, teabags, sugar, etc. that is there for our patients and staff...or the ones who unplug the phone and take it with them...or 'go shopping' on the supply cart in the room for goodies! Argh!

:eek:

CATHYW · Jul 16, 2002

originally posted by obnurseheather
i say, "well, i mind, and whether or not she says it, i'm sure my patient minds."

heather

when i started reading this thread, i knew you'd pop up somewhere, saying just the right thing to put these folks in their place!

people have become so complacent and nosy , that almost nothing seems private and personal any more!:imbar sometimes we just have to teach a little respect for our patients and ourselves. after all, these women are worn out, and certainly don't want to have some degree of confrontation to contend with. :rolleyes:

HazeK · Jul 16, 2002

almost nothing seems private and personal any more!

this applies to way too many areas of our lives!!

shay · Jul 16, 2002

Originally posted by OBNURSEHEATHER
A couple of times when I've asked people to step out (for peri care, vag exam, etc.), they'll look at me and say "Oh, I don't mind."

:rolleyes: :rotfl: Yeah, I get that one, too....like it's THEM you really give a sh*t about!!! Heather, you GO, girl!!!

I should start saying, 'Oh, GOOD!! Then, since her bare butt will be exposed to you, please drop your pants and bend over, since YOU DON'T MIND.'

Wonder what kind of response I'd get?? Almost afraid to ask!! LOL!!

I'm evil nurse....I kick visitors out by the BUSLOAD. I don't care who you are or how long you've been waiting (I love it when they tell me they've been waiting for xx # hours...like I forced them to wait...OR EVEN CARE), I'll still bounce ya out. HAH!!

Just get mean, ADN2002. One of the 'unspoken' duties as nurse is to double as BOUNCER.

OBNURSEHEATHER · Jul 16, 2002

Originally posted by shay
I should start saying, 'Oh, GOOD!! Then, since her bare butt will be exposed to you, please drop your pants and bend over, since YOU DON'T MIND.'

Wonder what kind of response I'd get?? Almost afraid to ask!! LOL!!

Great one Shay! I'll use that one next time I'm presented with the opportunity! Gawd, I can't wait! :lol2:

"That's fine, dear MIL, you may stay. I'll just be examining your perineum first then..."

Heather

kids · Jul 16, 2002

Just gotta get my .2 in here...

My girl child is having a baby in Febuary...the test had barely turned blue when her girl friends and girl cousins started lining up at the door, wanting to be there for the birth. Its amazing how much pressure people will put on someone wanting to be there.

can sleep on the (birthing room)sofa

The good news is, my girl does not see this as a social event...she is holding firm in telling every one that the ONLY people she wants with her are me and her Granma. She does not plan to call anyone but Granma & me when the time comes so that should help too.

I know how much of a push over one can be when exhausted and loaded on hormones, so they will be going thru me to get in the door, of course it helps that over the years I have cultivated a little healthy fear of me in her friends that has lingered into their 20s.

Now I just need to convince her to come stay with me for a few days after so she can have some peace and quiet while she and baby get to know each other.