have you had an abortion?

iliang · Jun 3, 2004

I never had one..never crossed my mind when I discovered I am pregnant after being treated with a bout of pneumonia and asthma..I was on avelox and prednisone and the doctor is unsure what will happen to my baby..abortion is not legal in my country but friends is telling me the odds of ending up with a baby with congenital defects is high and I should consider having my baby aborted..the decision is always on you..I chose not to..my baby did have a congenital defects (cleft lip and a palate) but i never regret that I have him..he is a source of my joy and contentment

mumhuff · Jun 4, 2004

Thirty-three years ago my parents sent me to New York to have an abortion. It was probably the best choice for everyone concerned at that time, however, if I could go back in time I would not have had it. It was painful both physically and emotionally. A day doesn't go by that i don't think about it. It is a very personal choice. I'll keep you in my prayers.

beaniesbuddy · Jun 5, 2004

I need some advice and was wondering if anyone has ever had an abortion and regretted it? Can you please tell me why you chose abortion and how you came to decide that was the best choice for you. I am currently facing the question of abortion myself but I don't think I can go through with it. I don't personally know anyone who has had one who I can talk to about this. Anything would be appreciated; I would not judge anyone.

Hello cutecat, This for you must be very trying. I just wanted to say One thing.... consider adoption... You may wonder why I say that... well I would love to be in your place.... Many of us can not have a baby... would love to have a child and are not able...the adoption process for most couple looking to adopt is a long one due to abortion. I have cried myself to sleep many nights wanting to be a mom. God has many plans for us some we like some we don't. I will pray for you tonight and wish you many good thoughts.....beaniesbuddy

edib1 · Jun 6, 2004

Hello cutecat, This for you must be very trying. I just wanted to say One thing.... consider adoption... You may wonder why I say that... well I would love to be in your place.... Many of us can not have a baby... would love to have a child and are not able...the adoption process for most couple looking to adopt is a long one due to abortion. I have cried myself to sleep many nights wanting to be a mom. God has many plans for us some we like some we don't. I will pray for you tonight and wish you many good thoughts.....beaniesbuddy

YOU KNOW THE THING THAT SUCKS YOU ALWAYS HAVE TO BRING GOD INTO IT SO IF HE HAS PLANS FOR EVERYONE THAT MEANS THAT PEOPLE CANT HAVE KIDS FOR A REASON. HE HAS PLANS FOR YOU AND IT IS ALSO OUR CHOICE IN WHAT ROAD WE TAKE, LIKE ABORTIONS OR ADOPTING KIDS OR ARTIFICAL INSEMINATION. I AM SORRY THAT YOU CRY YOURSELF TO SLEEP AT NIGHT BUT I AM SURE THAT GOD HAS PLANS FOR YOU ALSO MAYBE IT IS NOT TO HAVE KIDS BUT TO HELP ALL OF THEM OR THER PEOPLE WHO CANNOT HAVE CHILDREN. I THINK THAT FOR YOU TO TELL HER TO CONSIDER ADOPTION IS SELFISH OF YOU. SHE IS ASKING FOR ADVICE NOT FOR YOU TO TELL HER WHAT YOU WANT. THIS IS ABOUT WHAT IS MOST APPROPRIATE FOR HER LIFESTYLE NOT YOURS.

nurseunderwater · Jun 6, 2004

THIS IS ABOUT WHAT IS MOST APPROPRIATE FOR HER LIFESTYLE NOT YOURS.

::applause::

edib1 · Jun 6, 2004

BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH

I SWEAR THIS ISSUE IS NOT ABOUT US PEOPLE ITS ABOUT CUTIECAT.

I THINK THAT YOU SHOUD DO WHAT YOU FEEL IS BEST LOOK AT YOUR LIFE IF YOU THINK THAT YOU ARE READY FOR A BABY THEN HAVE IT IF YOU HAVE A GOOD MAN TO HELP YOU THEN HAVE IT IF HAVE A GOOD INCOME AND YOU WONT HAVE TO BE ON WELFARE THEN HAVE IT EVERYONE IS ALWAYS GOING TO TELL YOU THAT THERE ARE SUPPORT GROUPS THERE IS THIS THERE IS THAT BUT IN ALL ACTUALITY NONE OF THESE PEOPLE THAT ARE TELLING YOU TO HAVE THE BABY ARE GOING TO COME OVER WHEN YOU NEED HELP. THEY WILL NOT FEEL THE PAIN THAT YOU FEEL IF YOU WERE TO GIVE IT UP FOR ADOPTION. ALOT OF THESE PEOPLE ARE THE WRONG PEOPLE TO ASK. I AM SURE THAT YOUR A STRONG GIRL NO MATTER WHAT YOUR DECISION HOLD YOUR HEAD UP AND STICK TO ITAND KNOW THAT IT WAS THE RIGHT THING FOR YOU. NO ONE CAN MAKE THE DECISION BUT YOU. NO ONE SHOULD BE ABLE TO INFLUENCE OR CHANGE YOUR MIND EITHER DO WHAT YOU THINK IS RIGHT. IF YOU BELIEVE IN ABORTIONS THEN YOU SHOULD NOT TAKE ADVICE FROM CRAZY PROLIFERS CAUSE ALL THEY WILL DO IS MAKE YOU FEEL BAD AND TELL YOU ALL THE BAD THINGS ABOUT IT.

kea6783 · Jun 6, 2004

Just makes me think about the older kids and teens that are waiting to be adopted...

Marie_LPN, RN, LPN, RN · Jun 6, 2004

Refresher on the topic: "have you had an abortion?" Seems some people have taken this thread to mean "please post your opinion on abortion" or "please tell the OP what she should do with her life and her decision".

Key phrase being HER DECISION.

Energizer Bunny · Jun 6, 2004

cutecat...again, I want to say to you that I am thinking of you and hope that you have been able to make whatever decision you needed to with a clear conscience and know that I personally will support any decision you make. (in other words, ignore the non supportive posts)

cutecat · Jun 9, 2004

cutecat...again, I want to say to you that I am thinking of you and hope that you have been able to make whatever decision you needed to with a clear conscience and know that I personally will support any decision you make. (in other words, ignore the non supportive posts)

I know I wrote this question a few weeks ago but now I have decided to have the baby with the help of my boyfriend, of three years. We have the support of our families and although we are very scared of this new journey that niether one has done before, we are excited and happy. At first because of my age and our financial situation, I thought I should have an abortion because it would be the "easy" way out of the situation......after thinking about it and having some nightmares I prayed to God to let me know in some way if abortion would be the right thing for me to do. That very same night I had a dream that when I went to sleep I put my hand on my stomach and I could feel the baby's heart beating. I felt a huge sense of relief and comfort in this and I feel that for me it was God's answer to my prayer. The next day I told my boyfriend that I was not having an abortion and that if he didn't want to have the baby then I would give it up for adoption; I would rather do that then destroy what was growing inside of me. I do not have anything against anyone who has ever had an abortion but for me I was torn just thinking about doing it and all the guilt was overwhelming. I was an emotional wreck inside. My boyfriend said he wanted to keep the baby and now we have decided that it will be a difficult journey but the most rewarding one we will ever have and nothing in life is easy. I believe the things that take the most work are the most enjoyable and rewarding in the long run. I know in my heart I will have so much love for this child and I would never regret it being born. Once again thankyou to everyone for all your kind words and prayers......it was amazing to have people reach out to me that I don't even know....thanks to all those that PM'd me and there were so many that I didn't reply to but let me tell you your courage and stories mean a lot to me. I will never forget the kindness found in this forum. THANK-YOU!!!!!!

Energizer Bunny · Jun 9, 2004

Cutecat...I am so glad that you came to some resolution!!! It's amazing what prayer can do, isn't it? There is never a really perfect time to have children and if you wait for that time, you could be waiting forever. God gave you that baby for a reason...someday maybe you'll know what it was. CONGRATS!!! Keep us informed of how it's going and feel free to ask any questions...so many of us have been through pregnancy and childbirth and are more than willing to share.

Julzcorpse · Jun 9, 2004

I have been in your shoes i do regret the decision i had made however it was the best for the baby