Nursing School = Divorce???

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I have heard so many people talk about this lately. I guess there could be some truth to this considering you have to devote every waking minute to the nursing program once you get in. Has anyone here been married when starting in the program and by the end was divorced? Just curious.. who knows...it may just be one of those "Urban legends" floating around

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Specializes in Nephrology, Cardiology, ER, ICU.

I would say its an urban legend. I did nursing school as an adult, married with two sons, hubby was deployed part of the time to the first Gulf War and we were separated by a move too. Nope - we didn't get divorced. However, we have weathered much worse.

Good luck - go into it with a positive attitude and you'll do fine. Good luck.

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I agree! I am doing my pre-nursing and have been married 18 years with two teenagers and do not plan to have clinical mess my marriage up! ;) It is all about balance no matter what we do in life.

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Specializes in Critical care, Pediatris & Geriatrics.

I start NS Monday morning..I've been married 16yrs and have 3 children...believe me..I've been thro more than this school can do to me, guaranteedddd. lol My husband was in Baghdad Iraq in the Red Zone for a year, on the DMZ in Korea for 18months, my son was born at 28 weeks and was critically ill..so much has happened in my life that I find this to be easy. Go in positive. If you and hubby are strong together already, this should just bring you even closer BEST WISHES..you will do find. Believe me, if these girls had problems during NS, it was there before NS, not caused by it!

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My mother went though nursing school with a hubby and 3 kids and the marriage thrived. I have great parents who are very supportive of one another and I think that's key.

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I know a couple of people in my program who are going through a divorce.

I think it could have been that the marriage was already sinking prior to nursing school and nursing school just was the excuse to get out.

There have been several folks who have broken up with their s/o (including myself) due to how time consuming nursing school is (which contributed to other things).

If you already have a tight strong bond on your relationship prior to nursing school, then you should be fine.

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The marriage has to already be on the rocks, KWIM? I don't believe that NS can ruin your marriage if it is strong. That's like saying the military WILL ruin your marriage. I totally have to disagree on that one. We are military~~met when we both were Active Duty and overseas and here we are 8 1/2 yrs later. It's just one of those things that had to of already had it's issues and this was just an excuse to get out of it.

I wouldn't stress over it!!

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Specializes in Urgent Care.

Urban legend? I think NOT.

I am in the final quarter of school now, no divorce for me cause I am single. Thats because I was divorced three years ago when my wife was in this same quarter of school. The same thing happened in 1994! Yes, 2x I have been divorced while my wife was in the final quarter of school. And not b/c she was leaving an A**H*** now that she could support herself. Both of them were capable earners prior to becoming nurses.

But I dont think that school was the reason. We had problems prior to school, just the class requires so much time/ effort/ focus that it makes it more difficult to solve problems and contributes to higher stress levels. A strong relationship should recover with minimal issues from nursing school.

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I don't think the odds are in favor for marriage patency and nursing school. I have many friends now divorced, about to be, or newly single due to the 'neglect' felt by those in relationships with us Nursing students. Yes...there are the lucky ones, but I haven't seen too many.

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Well, I recently read a post on here from someone who was going to NS so that she could support herself and her kids... she said she was planning on getting a divorce as soon as she was done and employed...

So maybe some of these divorces were already pre-conceived before they even started school...

Or maybe I'm just jaded and blessed to have such an understanding and supportive hubby and family...

Plus, personally, if NS was ruining my marriage, school would go, not my marriage...

just my :twocents:

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I have heard so many people talk about this lately. I guess there could be some truth to this considering you have to devote every waking minute to the nursing program once you get in. Has anyone here been married when starting in the program and by the end was divorced? Just curious.. who knows...it may just be one of those "Urban legends" floating around

1) nursing school does not require every waking minute

2) the marriage could not have been that strong if it could not weather some extra time apart while in school and studying

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I really don't think nursing school causes divorce. I think that if you have a spouse who truly loves and supports you, everything will be fine. Marriage is about give and take. So if your spouse can't deal with it then they really didn't take their vows seriously. They do say for better or worse don't they?:smokin:

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