Nurses marrying doctors

SmilingBluEyes · Oct 24, 2003

rofl TWEETY....

in your usual rare form.

gotta love ya.

fab4fan · Oct 25, 2003

Originally posted by SmilingBluEyes
sigh.....

oh no not again..............

LOL! My thoughts, exactly!

PilotJim68 · Oct 25, 2003

Originally posted by 3rdShiftGuy
No, we become nurses because we are mentally ill.

I thought it was mentally and emotionally scarred......:roll

Tweety, BSN, RN · Oct 25, 2003

Originally posted by PilotJim68
I thought it was mentally and emotionally scarred......:roll

I'm so crazy I can't remember why. :chuckle

Tweety, BSN, RN · Oct 25, 2003

Originally posted by SmilingBluEyes
rofl TWEETY....

in your usual rare form.

gotta love ya.

nurseygrrl, LPN · Oct 25, 2003

No, we become nurses because we are mentally ill.

ROFL!!

:roll

SSURN · Oct 25, 2003

I am married to an MD, and so far so good. Thankfully, he is a dermatologist so he does not have those long hours as most other MD's. I think we have the same problems as everyone else, but as far as I am concerned we are pretty happy. I was married to my husband before I became a nurse, of course it helped me a lot having an MD at home going through nursing school.

I live in a small city and the medical community is very close so I have met a lot of doctors here and many of them do have wives who are RN's and very few continue to work after they have had their children. When I tell people that I do work I usually get "But your husband is a doctor, why don't you just stay at home"? Believe it or not a professor asked me that once!!! :rolleyes:

AshleyKay · Oct 25, 2003

I'm currently in nursing school, but when I was majoring in Psychology at LSU I went out with a resident a few times. The first time we met he asked me what I was majoring in and then actually said 'please say you're going into the medical field.' I never asked him why he said this but he made the comment later when I asked him about nurses and doctors dating, and he said that there are two types of doctors...those that want a partner that they can actually discuss their work with who can understand what they're talking about and dealing with....and those that want their home life to be something totally separated from the medical world. I think nurses are the same way, and while some may marry a doctor for his title and paycheck....some may like having a partner they can discuss their work day with and relate to professially, while some nurses look for a partner who has nothing to do with the medical world...like nurses who are completely adamant about not marrying a doctor. It's all in what you want to come home to at the end of the day.

EastCoast · Oct 25, 2003

I have seen a higher incidence of dietary people ending up married to docs than nurses. I am not sure why this is so...I wish someone would collect data on it to prove me right.

Once i hired 2 young nurses and within 6 months both were invoved with docs. Both are now married. One of the nurses had a dad who was a doc so i think she was looking for a doc. She had been brought up admittedly spoiled so I think she needed to keep that lifestyle going. The other came from a blue collar family. Their husbands would be foolish to screw it up...both are great kids. I have had more nurses get involved involved with doc's on the side (they or the doc is married) than i can count. THese relationships haven't turned out so well. It's funny b/c in these cases everyone knows about the relationships except the spouses.

And as far as the clothing of new nurses. Only one case in our hospital. The girl wears her scrubs in a low rise style and her thong shows. You can't help but stare when she stoops to check a foley bag or whatever. However, she is the 'butt' of a lot of jokes and i think the assumption is she is a bit slutty overtakes any sound knowledgeable reputation she might be able to build. She is truly a very attractive girl with a great figure. I think that her underwear showing is unprofessional (old fart!)

Ruby Vee, BSN · Oct 25, 2003

Originally posted by Brownms46
Well I have worked in soap opera units, and an ER, where there were nurses trying to marry MD, having affairs, the whole nine yards! Some even succeed in breaking up a marrage or two!

One particular place was just that was full of stuff going on, you just wouldn't even believe, if you weren't there to see it!
I would give particulars, but for all I know, they maybe reading this post...:rotfl: :roll!!!

I've been a nurse for 25 years, and I've met quite a few nurses who were in the field just to marry a doctor. Not the greatest percentage of nurses, but there are a few who are quite blatent about it in every job I've had. (One was even trying to marry a Jewish doctor -- she was Catholic, but dated every Jewish MD we had!) One was quite specific that she wanted to marry a cardiothoracic surgeon, and moved twice to follow one who wasn't the slightest bit interested in her!

I've worked in the soap opera units, too. I once walked into an exam room to set it up for a patient and found the medical director of the E.R. screwing the D.O.N.! His wife was the head nurse of the E.R., and she filed for divorce soon after -- could have been due to my inability to keep my mouth shut about what I saw! I've seen married male nurses dating single female nurses -- and then getting divorced and marrying those same female nurses. (I've always wondered how she could trust him -- if he'd cheat WITH her, surely he'd cheat ON her!) I saw a doctor's wife walk into the ICU, pitch a fit about "which one of these sluts is the one you're screwing?!" and dump an entire thermos of coffee into her husband's lap. (Three of my coworkers thought she meant them!) And another CT surgeon was dating two of my co-workers, a tele nurse and an OR nurse at the same time -- which made for interesting nights at work hearing from my two co-workers whom he was four timing!

I don't think the majority of nurses are looking to marry doctors, though. I just think that the ones who are are so visible!

live4today, RN · Oct 25, 2003

Originally posted by Cqc_Cqb
Does anyone think that most young women come into nursing in order to meet and / or marry a doctor? I have been around a while and I see young nurses where clothes that would make my head turn in a night club to work. What does that say about nursing as a profession?

BEFORE I continue reading responses beyond your question above, I immediately clicked on the "reply" button to share my PERSONAL thoughts on this topic. YES, I do believe that MANY women (and some men perhaps) enter nursing to meet a mate.

Having said that, the same drama is played out in many other occupations as well, so I would not limit this truth to simply nursing.

I, for one, did NOT enter nursing to meet a doctor. I THOUGHT I already had a GEM of a man in my life (first husband now ex coward of a man). There has NEVER been a point in my years of living that I dreamed of meeting and marrying a doctor. What makes them so special over and above any other man? It's NOT in their profession that would gain my attention, but in the heart of the man no matter his occupation that I'm attracted to FIRST off.

I know some nurses who hoped (still hope) to snag a doctor. Then again, I know some women who entered Engineering or Business to do the same (marry some rich executive).

No one truly wants to end up with a loser in life. No women....certainly not me....wants to end up slaving on some minimally paid job for all their working years, either. It makes a nice balance when both make a decent living for their family.

If a man can make a decent enough living to support his wife's needs and wants, his children's needs and some of their wants, and his own needs and wants, then that arrangement would also be ideal.

IMPO!

iliel · Oct 25, 2003

so let me get this straight...i'm going into nursing so I can marry a Dr and to justify my emotional scarring....hmmmm:D

IMO, I wouldn't want to date anyone in the same feild as me. I love the fact that my BF and I can talk about work and not feel like we're talking about the same thing. It makes dinner converstation more interesting.