Nurses and Kids Going to College?

Paying for a child's education and saving money at the same time is hard. Nurses Announcements Archive Article

Most of us must choose and that's not an easy thing to do - but it could be crucial to your retirement.

Many Americans, nurses included, will find that they will have to delay retirement and work longer to reach their financial goals. We are living years longer and it takes more money to make that work.

A principal reason retirement is delayed, too, is that too many parents prioritize saving into a child's college fund over their own retirement plans.

Putting money into future college classes isn't going to help your kid if they end up having to support you in your old age - right when they should be saving for their own retirements.

It can be a difficult conversation, one I have often with clients, and it's no easier a conversation between clients and their own kids. Who wants to deprive their children of their dreams?

Nurses especially have a tough time of it. The hours are long and the opportunity to learn about investing are few. After working long shifts, parenting and the grind of a commute there isn't much mental energy for thinking about money.

Here's the quick version: Don't put money in a 529 account for your child. Put it in a retirement account for yourself. Your son or daughter can get a loan for college. You can't get a loan to pay for your retirement.

The big reason is time. You cannot make more of it, while your kids have nothing but time. The whole reason that saving regularly for retirement works is compound interest, and that requires serious time, decades.

The money you set aside today into a tax-deferred IRA will grow and compound over the years. Compound growth is like magic. A dollar saved turns into two, then four, then eight. Prudently invested money cannot help but grow into a major nest egg.

Picture a pond. It has one lily pad on it. The lily pad doubles every week. There are two lily pads, then four, then eight. The pond is filling up all by itself.

In the second-to-last week, the lily pads cover half the pond. By the very next week, the entire pond is covered! Remember, the lilies are doubling. All of them.

That's how compound interest works. You need to save early and consistently, but by the end of your saving years the amount of money in your account can be enormous.

People underestimate how powerful and important time is to long-term investments. They chase immediate priorities, then fail to use that time when they are young to get started saving and investing. It costs them big in the long run.

Yes, buy a house if you like. Pay off your student debts, of course. But definitely make retirement saving a priority, and you should make it a higher priority than higher ed for your children.

You can always help your kids later, when your retirement is secure. Give them tax-free cash (the IRS allows it) that you don't need to spend. Buy them cars or vacations if you like, anything.

Just don't give them those dollars now, while that money could be invested and compounding into real retirement security for you. If you end up not needing it all, they'll get it anyway, right?

I often tell my clients that choosing retirement over higher education doesn't mean that you can't help your children financially. It doesn't mean you are a bad parent.

It does mean that you are taking your own future seriously, and that's a powerful lesson for any child at any age.

Specializes in Critical Care, Med-Surg, Psych, Geri, LTC, Tele,.

As for me....I do agree that it's best to prepare for ones own retirement before funding a child's college education.

The next part is hard to say...er...type. But I was a work at home / stay at home mom for most of the time my 3 kids were growing up. I made enough to pay the mortgage, private school tuition, food, extra curriculars, etc.

When I became divorced, my ex told the kids I don't love them and my older kids shunned me and didn't talk to me for a few years.

For these reasons, it's now easy for me to under that it's important to take care of me before them.

That at being said, I'm currently placing a decent amount into my retirement accounts and a tiny amount into my youngest's college fund, and assisting my eldest with incidental college expenses.

It's more than my parents did for me.

Specializes in CRNA, Finally retired.
For roughly half of all American adults, this would mean having no offspring at all. 50 percent of all U.S. households generate less than $50,000 annually.

We must be honest with ourselves and admit a few points...(1) people bring children into this world primarily for emotional reasons, and (2) a huge swath of people are not college material. Society needs to stop touting college as the only route to success when many tradesmen earn more than certain degree holders.

In addition, working-class and lower-income people should not go childless due to notions from middle-class society that parents must send their kids to college. Why is the educated middle-class blueprint on how to live our lives considered the right way to live?

The biological purpose of our existence is reproduction. We were not created/born to earn degrees, or buy real estate, or secure high-income jobs, or plan for the future, or attain someone else's arbitrary version of the American dream.

We were created to reproduce. To be blunt, if the less-moneyed citizens of society were not having children, the U.S. would have zero or negative population growth, which would result in a new set of problems for future generations.

No, I was NOT created to reproduce. Of course, we need to to produce, just not so much. And I think the attitude of "let them fend for themselves" is irresponsible. Waaay to many truly stupid people are in college. But if I had a kid who was a good tinkerer and wanted to be a mechanic, I would want to help him get a formal education in auto mechanics. This isn't TOO much to ask of parents, even if they can't pay for everything. Ditch digging is fine when you're young, but you don't want your 40 something kids to be relegated to a life of poverty. The world is crowded and isurvival is getting meaner. No need to breed when you can't provide the basics, and in this world, some kind of formal education after an increasingly meaningless high school diploma, has become a basic, not a frill.

No, I was NOT created to reproduce. Of course, we need to to produce, just not so much. And I think the attitude of "let them fend for themselves" is irresponsible. Waaay to many truly stupid people are in college. But if I had a kid who was a good tinkerer and wanted to be a mechanic, I would want to help him get a formal education in auto mechanics. This isn't TOO much to ask of parents, even if they can't pay for everything. Ditch digging is fine when you're young, but you don't want your 40 something kids to be relegated to a life of poverty. The world is crowded and isurvival is getting meaner. No need to breed when you can't provide the basics, and in this world, some kind of formal education after an increasingly meaningless high school diploma, has become a basic, not a frill.

Right now my 24 yr old son has a solid skill set in the trades working for his step dad. Without any college he has a work ethic and enough skills to get a non entry level job and work his way higher. If we never helped him with school he still has a means to support himself and grow in the field. Didn't cost anything except a parent who was involved and taught him what he knows.

He is going to school, for a degree in his field, but there are all kinds of ways to responsibly launch your kids and not boot them out to compete with unemployed 4 yr degree holders for the limited amount of jobs out there.

Specializes in Case mgmt., rehab, (CRRN), LTC & psych.
No, I was NOT created to reproduce.
We were also not placed on this earth to accumulate credentials, property, bank accounts, credit scores, automobiles, careers, and other middle-class trappings.

Although I have no children and do not ever care to have any, I still stand by my assertion that we exist to procreate. Our reproductive organs are primed for this.

Specializes in CRNA, Finally retired.
We were also not placed on this earth to accumulate credentials, property, bank accounts, credit scores, automobiles, careers, and other middle-class trappings.

Although I have no children and do not ever care to have any, I still stand by my assertion that we exist to procreate. Our reproductive organs are primed for this.[/QUOT

Did I ever imply that we are created to do the above? We possess many atavistic tendencies (fight ir flight epinephrine levels during work stress-no more wooly mamoths) but thar doesn't mean we have to act on them. And it's difficult to prove that infertility us rising or not. Live a simple life, volunteer, don't get infected with materialism, or children:). No, I was born for other things than to reproduce. The Grand Engineer gave me the frontal cortex along with ovaries. I just used my cortex; not so much the ovaries.