We all have heard it before. Nurses eat their young. We all have complained about it and people tell us "oh no, don't do that." Simple fact is that it happens, and I will try to explain to you why it does happen and why it is not always a bad thing.
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Nurses eat their young. It happens and people complain about it like it is a bad thing. It may be in your eyes if you are the one being eaten, but in my eyes I am going to eat you alive and spit out your bones into something that resembles a nurse. You are entering the cauldron of fire, so expect to get singed.
That above statement is already setting some of you on edge. I understand that and I accept that. I felt the same way at first, but as the years have passed by I have learned why we do it and more importantly, the reason. Let me explain to you why in a way that is not nursing.
You enlisted in the service, you passed basic training (nursing school) and now you are ready to join your unit. ( I know I skipped AIT, for those military among us) You show up on the bus all excited and happy to be chosen for this special unit. It is everything you wanted, it is just where you wanted to be. Great, happy to have you aboard, now get out the salt and pepper, or maybe the opposite is true. You do not want to be here, but rather this is the only place you could get to right now.
Be prepared to be eaten. I am your new squad Sargent. I am there to help you get acclimated to the unit and the patrols as FAST AS I CAN. You show up in your new shiny uniforms, new boots and the new weapons (ie: stethoscope, tablet, etc) and look around you and see the older squad mates' uniforms are faded, they may even be a bit tattered, our combat boots may not be shiny, heck they may even be a bit soiled. But you know what, to us your uniform looks uncomfortable on you and those ugly boots we are wearing, they are like a second skin to us and those new ones you got are going to blister your feet. We accept that and realize that with age your boots are going to get broken in and your uniform will fade. Just don't point out to us how yours is better or newer. New does not always mean better, sometimes our weapons that you think are old and stupid are the ones that never fail in combat. You start out like that and I will eat you so hard right there that you will wish you were never born. Your old Drill instructors (nursing instructors) have nothing on me in making you feel small if I choose to.
I know you are new and do not know where everything is, but LISTEN to me when I am talking to you and pointing things out. I know it is a lot of information to digest, but it may save your life and your fire mission's life if you listen. I expect you to ask me questions, but think about the question first. Did I already answer it? Did I not just show you where the supply tent was? Did I not point out where to keep your gear? Did I not show you how to reload your gun or program in the fire coordinates on the fire control computer? I probably did and if you keep asking I am going to start to wonder about you and think maybe you are going to get me killed or the fire team killed.
The officers come by and gives us our mission. We need to work as a team to complete it, there are no Rambos in our unit. Accept the mission, I will be there to help guide you and keep you alive, for now. I do not want the fire mission to fail at all costs. When I feel you are strong enough to do more of the mission on your own, I am going to let you, whether you think you are not.
So now we go into the field for combat against the enemy. I know you learned all these supposedly fancy new ways of combating them, but the enemy doesn't always react the way you were taught it would. Things are different in the field, than in the classroom. Don't tell me how to do something unless I am asking you how it is done the new way. Listen to me how to set up an ambush. I have been fighting these battles many years and I am still alive. Don't look above at the pilots flying around doing their thing while we are in the trenches and say you would rather be there. It takes time to learn to fly, and I skin you and filet you alive if you think you are better than the rest of your squad mates. If you express an interest in learning to fly, I will be happy to help you get to the point you can learn to fly. I want all my squad mates to succeed, because the fire mission will then succeed.
I am going to jump on you during the training I give you, I am going to eat you up, I am going to speak bad of you, I am going to report on you to the officers. I will make your life miserable for a while. I may not let you take lunch with your buddies from basic who are now in an another unit in your command. They may have their own mission to conduct, or our mission is going badly. Sometimes I may make you work extra hard helping another soldier out, who is up to their butt in crocodiles. I am also going to praise you when you need it, but don't count on it very often. I am going to ride your butt so hard, you are going to wonder why you even enlisted. You are going to think I am unfair, that I am trying to get you killed, that I am giving you too big of missions at times, but know this. AT ALL COSTS THE FIRE TEAM MUST DO THEIR BEST! Sometimes we don't win all the battles and death does come for the mission. we accept that and expect you to accept it and pick yourself up and carry on soldier. The time to grieve is later in private when it fails, but know this; we old eat their young and are also grieving about the loss, but realize there are other missions we are needed on at that moment.
My goal in eating you up is to toughen you up so that you may lead other soldiers in combat and save the fire missions, maybe even help you get to be a pilot or an officer, which not all of us want. Some of us were previous officers but decided we liked the trenches with the blood and guts and muck better. My goal is to see you succeed and carry on our legacy and eventually replace me when I fall. Which one day I will fall and become a distant memory. Until that moment I am going to eat you up and spit out your bones into proud strong self reliant Nurse. That is why eating our young is not a bad thing.
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I am happy to read such great responses to a ridiculous rant. I am in my 3rd semester and have one more to go to finish my associates in RN. I have had the pleasure of learning from some wonderful mentors. These nurses in the class room and clinical sites taught me so much. I have also been with some that had the mentality of the person who wrote this. Maybe they are too removed from their psych classes to remember that stress blocks learning. Under the stress of nurses that like to eat their own it is near impossible to take everything in. Great mentors know this. There is nothing wrong with being demanding, that's the work of a nurse but having a morbid fear of our peers is not what nursing is all about. We nurture and care for people and at times that means being tough but it never means stripping people of their dignity. I am 55 years old (late career change) and this mentality never works in any area of life. Those that feel this is a good approach would do well to get some therapy because as one of my favorite mentors would say "that ain't right"
This article shows exactly why many nurses are rude to their patients. You will never learn compassion or empathy this way. Compassion and understanding ARE the job. If you do not want to do it, let me know and I will. Remember, there is a major shortage of nurses out there. How is this attitude going to help?
New nurses or even new to a units does not mean they need the older nurses to eat the young. There are many ways to teach and the teaching is essential. It's important to be comfortable with asking questions about anything and have teaching moments not "in your face moments" when someone is trying to learn. I have worked in both situations and like the open door policy best. You learn more when you work as a team. I do think it is very important to be strict about accountability, being on time and prepared, but we lose newer nurses because they are not comfortable asking questions because some nurses eat their young. You can still learn essentials without belittling and degrading people.
Where is the OP? If she/he feels so strongly about this, I would think that they would be here to defend their clearly deeply held position. Someone above said maybe this is satire and I can only hope they are correct
I am also hoping that this member is not one the paid writers for AN if in fact that aspect is functioning now.
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I'm a big free speech Libertarian so I'm struggling with my need to have points of view that I don't agree with being just as worthy of viewing vs. does AN endorse this writer's philosophy even by simply publishing it and paying the author?
Perhaps since I can't locate that information, it still is in the preliminary stages as hopefully, every article would have a non-endorsement disclaimer and the view's stated are the author's alone, etc.
*sigh* I am so tired of this.
"Kyrshamarks" posts this article likening nursing to the military and apparently thinks that we as a profession need to toughen up and act more like soldiers in battle, and apparently people agree with hirm.
So lets talk about that.
Lets talk about 22 veterans committing suicide every day.
Lets talk about how successful the military has been in Iraq and Afghanistan.
Lest you think the last ten years of wasted lives and money was an aberration, let's talk about how successful the military was in Vietnam.
Maybe that is too much reading material for you, so I will just let you know
We lost. Bad.
As a matter of fact, "Kyrshamarks," the military-industrial complex hasn't won a war since Eisenhower coined the term.
Oh sure, we have won battles. We have slaughtered people and devastated countries and burned and bloodied and raped and murdered and made lots of money for a certain few in the process.
look at this picture.
Look at it.
Then realize that for that one napalmed girl there are thousands more.
Now if anyone is reading this is or has been in the military, let me say I respect you for your service and appreciate your efforts but I am going to tell the unvarnished truth here and it will not consist of empty platitudes. My father was in the Navy, my uncle was in the Army during Vietnam, my grandmother was a Navy nurse and my grandfather served under Patton in WWII. I have friends who have served and friends who are still serving. I have friends who were in the first Gulf war and friends who were deployed more than once in the second.
I have heard them speak, and what they say about the military isn't pretty.
The military takes people who have no other options and trains them to kill other people.
It does this by tearing a person down and building them back up so that they are willing to kill other people.
And you think that this is what nursing is supposed to be? A bunch of teenage grunts following orders and fighting and dying to line the pockets of some rich industrialist? You think that the thousands of nurses in this country and abroad joined this profession out of desperation and stupidity so we could hurry up and wait for the order to march into hell?
People like you are why medical errors kill 400,000 people a year.
That is WWII, EVERY. DAMN. YEAR.
The military is trying to kill people with their Catch 22's, their institutionalized hierarchy, their hazing, their enforced mediocrity, their emphasis on obedience, following orders instead of thinking critically. The military wants people to die. If that kills some boys from home so be it. They can go home "heroes" so their family will be placated and we can get more or the meat grinder.
Nursing, is not supposed to be a meat grinder.
We are supposed to be the opposite of that meat grinder.
With ideas like this we are killing people, and lining pockets, and just doing what we are told, because it is what we are told to do. Someone else said it best
"People like this is why nursing is essentially known as an uneducated and "ghetto" career choice by the General public."
As long as we act like proles, we will be treated like proles.
and for anyone who thinks we are not viewed as working class schmucks by the higher class, Google it. I will give you a start here
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I am tired.
"Eating our young".....bad
"Teaching" our young.....better! :)
I do not mean teach them what they aalready learned from school.....teach them about how that certain institution or facility carries out the best patient care...
Teaching is more effective for your staff members.
The military analogy was pretty cool. But let'skeep in mind that the majority of those who come out from serving are CRAZY.
Do we want crazy people giving care to our patients??
I don'ttthinkso! Lol
The eating their young thing is the reason why their is a shortage of nurses out there. The whole ONLY THE STRONG SURVIVE mentality is a downfall....
But thanks for sharing this....!
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Sounds to me like somebody needs to go back in the military, or probably should have never left. I was an NCO in the Marine Corps and see zero similarity between that experience and Nursing, or the health care field.
Assuming this article isn't just bluster, I hope u aren't in any position of authority. I've generally found that people with this mentality are usually insecure and try to over compensate.