I am getting very depressed. I was working in a small OB office until last October. I worked with different women and we had our days but worked things out.
Well, I started at a hospital in October, (career change) and am working in OB. But, within the first 2 hours of work, I noticed something that might be the norm to some of you.
EVERY SINGLE nurse had something bad to say about another. Whether it was about her looks, her work, her anything!!! I didn't listen, as I always form my own opinions about everyone. But the problem is getting worse. It is almost like everyone is stabbing everyone else in the back. Little things, big things. I can't take it!!!!
If someone has a problem with me, I would rather they come to my face and tell me about it. I want EVEYRONE to just get along. I want us all to be NURSES, and be at our job for the patients. To stick together, to stick up for each other. The way that doctors do. But I am learning that nurses eat their own.
I don't know what to do. I interupt someone if they start talking negative about someone else. I don't listen and if I do hear it, I ignore it. I don't put in my 2 cents.
I know that I won't fix the world with this but does anyone have this as a major problem where they work??
I don't know who to trust. A nurse the other day told me to watch out for a couple of nurses who like to report things to administration. One of the nurses I THINK is my friend. BUt now I don't know.
I can't stand the phoniness in someone's actions when two minutes before they were talking really bad about that person. It's like junior high again and I hated junior high. It is another reason that I don't have too many women friends.....which is sad.
I don't know if I am being a victim of the problem but I would like to know, I think. I just don't know if I want to work somewhere like this. What do you think???????
For the record, I work in a male-dominated corporate atmosphere and you better believe it happens here too. It tends to take on a more aggressive and territorial feel, but it's here. Some of the women around here (not ME, of course ) who have had their work load increased significantly with the "Why didn't you copy me in on this? You copied him in! I need to know these things! I don't care what he told you, he doesn't know what's going on/it isn't his budget/it's MY department!" yadda yadda, have been heard to wonder aloud why they don't just whip 'em out, measure 'em, and be done with it.
Unfortunately it occurs in every profession but it is so prevelant in nursing because so many people work in a small environment. Luckily, our unit is small and we get along and help one another. The only thing I can say is don't get suck into the vortex of treachery. Be kind and do your work. You will find that may not be enough but at least you wont be the center of everyone's conversation. I have a life outside my job so I become oblivious to pety antics at work.
There there honey (pats back reassuringly). We are here for you. Don't let them get you down. Hope things get better soon. Good thoughts sent your way.
) who have had their work load increased significantly with the "Why didn't you copy me in on this? You copied him in! I need to know these things! I don't care what he told you, he doesn't know what's going on/it isn't his budget/it's MY department!" yadda yadda, have been heard to wonder aloud why they don't just whip 'em out, measure 'em, and be done with it. 
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