I am getting very depressed. I was working in a small OB office until last October. I worked with different women and we had our days but worked things out.
Well, I started at a hospital in October, (career change) and am working in OB. But, within the first 2 hours of work, I noticed something that might be the norm to some of you.
EVERY SINGLE nurse had something bad to say about another. Whether it was about her looks, her work, her anything!!! I didn't listen, as I always form my own opinions about everyone. But the problem is getting worse. It is almost like everyone is stabbing everyone else in the back. Little things, big things. I can't take it!!!!
If someone has a problem with me, I would rather they come to my face and tell me about it. I want EVEYRONE to just get along. I want us all to be NURSES, and be at our job for the patients. To stick together, to stick up for each other. The way that doctors do. But I am learning that nurses eat their own.
I don't know what to do. I interupt someone if they start talking negative about someone else. I don't listen and if I do hear it, I ignore it. I don't put in my 2 cents.
I know that I won't fix the world with this but does anyone have this as a major problem where they work??
I don't know who to trust. A nurse the other day told me to watch out for a couple of nurses who like to report things to administration. One of the nurses I THINK is my friend. BUt now I don't know.
I can't stand the phoniness in someone's actions when two minutes before they were talking really bad about that person. It's like junior high again and I hated junior high. It is another reason that I don't have too many women friends.....which is sad.
I don't know if I am being a victim of the problem but I would like to know, I think. I just don't know if I want to work somewhere like this. What do you think???????
Specializes in Vents, Telemetry, Home Care, Home infusion.
I'm thankful every day that I've worked in facilities that served the poor and downtrodden of society. Cattiness was almost non existent as we often said one slip on the bananna peel and we could wind up in our patients shoes...to busy to worry about anyone but our patients.
Worked 4 years in for profit $$$$ valued agency and couldn't believe how staff acted---had to bring in HR from corporate due to pettiness of some staff. 6 months after I left, office closed.
Originally posted by jaxnRN ...I don't know what to do. I interupt someone if they start talking negative about someone else. I don't listen and if I do hear it, I ignore it. I don't put in my 2 cents...
You are doing what I would try and do. When it is a entire group behaving badly it is usually something that happened over time...as new people came to work on the unit they were either sucked in or run off. Hopefully as when more new nurses come to work in the department they will follow your lead and eventually the back biting will no longer be standard of behavior.
You are right, you aren't going to save the world with this but hopefully you can save your sanity.
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Anyone else thinking this when seeing this thread on today's active?