Nurses and Doctors Dating Each Other

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Hi, just wondering ... is working in the hospital like the "ER" episode where everyone is practically dating each other?

By the way, I'm waiting on an acceptance letter to start Nursing School.

Specializes in ER, TRAUMA, MED-SURG.
Roy Fokker said:
Please, for the love of sanity - ER is a "drama" show. Where else can you have stroke patients recover within half an hour and 90% of the codes suceed or where a general surgeon tells the senior ER resident to "keep him (the pt.) in Vfib" while she is gowning up to extract the pts. heart?

Yeah, it's a show based on reality alright :icon_roll

"Trauma - Life in the ER" is a better show ---- and even this one doesn't show what nurses do (98% of the focus is on the Docs).

cheers,

Roy - Thank you!!! I could not have said it better myself! When my first dh and I were dating, I was just halfway through LPN school. He had the nerve to ask if all nurses and MDs "got into the closet" when they went to work. He said on all the soap operas the two professions have affairs all the time and the majority of their days is nothing but copping a feel in the closet and empty rooms.

And of course, he had seen a "dirty movie" with a "naughty nurse", and he actually told me I did not need to be a nurse r/t that. PLEASE!!!!! A little reality check please!

Needless to say, he is not my dh anymore! I am now married to a nursing supervisor (not my sup!) at a busy hospital. The MDs I have worked with I have worked with for almost 18 years, and I like them, but I am glad to not see them after 7pm!

Anne, RNC Thanks again, Roy!! :yeah:

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Specializes in OB, NICU, Nursing Education (academic).

My first marriage was to an anesthesiologist I met working on the OB unit.....so, yes, it does happen......just not as rampant as TV would have you believe.

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Specializes in L&D, Family Practice, HHA, IM.

It has been my observation that what makes a person successful in becoming a doctor does not necessarily translate into good dating/relationship material.

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Specializes in Ortho, Case Management, blabla.

There is one nurse where I work that is dating a physician/surgeon. It's pretty out in the open so no secrets. They eat lunch together. I dunno, he's kind of a dork, I don't know what she sees in him. Except he drives an escalade with solid gold rims and wears italian suits...

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Specializes in Acute Mental Health.

It kind of comes down to that old saying about ******** where you eat. Can you imagine the difficulties when the relationship goes south? Just doesn't seem worth it to me. My father was a cancer pt who really didn't care for a particular nurse. He was on the 10 yr plan so staff was very used to him. He came home one day and told me that the doc (who was married) was having an affair with this nurse. He was just beyond understanding. An affair was bad enough, but not with this horrid nurse! I understood then that soap operas sometimes are more boring than real life :D

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Specializes in ER, Tele, Cardiac Cath Lab.
pagandeva2000 said:
I don't see it very much at my hospital, but the few nurse/doctor relationships I have witnessed are extremely violatile and passionate-usually because one or both are married. Otherwise, we're really too busy trying to survive ourselves against the doctors that I don't have the interest to even inquire.

Yea this is mostly what i see. Doctors and nurses that are married sleeping around with each other. I use to think most cheating was by men. After 11 years of working with all women, i now know its 50 50. The only difference is when women get caught cheating they play the victim card!!!:saint:

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Some years back when I was still a hemodialysis tech, one of the physicians assistants would always flirt with me. It was kind of cool but the nurse manager was jealous, but it wasn't much that she could do because we both did our jobs. We didn't actually date until much later. But to this day we are very good friends, he even wrote one of my reference letters for the nursing program.

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Specializes in Pediatric Heme/Onc/BMT.

I really think the visual knowledge that I spend my days elbow deep in poop, puss and puke would really take the spark out of a relationship.

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Specializes in ICU.

Life is not like tv. Do some nurses date docs? Why not! They both spend a great deal of time in the hospital.....They are in their peer group. Socially it makes sense that they would date someone in their world. Would I do it? Not on your life! :smokin:

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Specializes in ER,ICU,L+D,OR.

I know a lot of nurses who date other nuses and doctors. I am not one of those. That scene isn't for me. In fact I don't date anyone at all that I work with. I know a lot of nurses who do date other nurses and are predatory for doctors. Personally, I do not understand that. They work long hours, they bring their work home, they really don't make that much money nowadays.

One nurse at work is very predatory for doctors. Really kind of sad to see. She dates one doctor after another. I have heard them talking about her behind her back. Not in a way that I would want anyone talking about me. She has no apparent idea about this.

Myself, I don't date doctors. I don't date nurses or RT's or anything else. I never have and never will date anyone I work with. I do not even associate with coworkers outside of the work enviroment. I have a very extensive social life. Nothing even remotely associated with work. If I see a coworker in public. I am polite, friendly, but move on quickly. My life has always included a total separation of my professional and personal life. Just works out so much pleasanter for me.

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Wow- how does it get messy? Spouses coming to the job to confront the other individual? I'd think people in that situation would be too embarrassed to make a scene. I guess not.

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Specializes in ED/trauma.

There is one nurse on my unit who occassionally brags about a dr she's "seeing." Funny enough, he's THE MOST DISLIKED hospitalist we deal with. He's very terse with nurses, treats us like we're idiots, but is generally nice to pts. I can't even imagine how she started dating him! He's not all that attractive either, so it must be a Monica Lewinsky thing. Sad thing is that she'll drop stories here and there to different nurses, so everyone has a piece of her affair with him. One other nurse told me that the dr pays for her botox which is why she looks so good at her age. I try to stay out of it though. (When I went in to nursing, I told myself I would NOT get caught up in the gossip stuff. I'm only telling it here because it's an anonymous way to vent.) I haven't seen any of it up close and personal, because she's a night nurse, but there are enough rumors to fuel at least a few heated episodes!

Other than that, nope, no ER drama.

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