Nurse Personality Change

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Joseph Campbell said something along the lines of, "The consciousness is changed through trials and tribulations and subsequent illuminating revelations".

Basically, this means that if we experience and deal with difficulties, our perception of reality is different; the way in which we view ourselves, others, and our environment is changed.

Many threads here on allnurses are about new Nurses endeavoring to deal with the pains and sorrows of working as a nurse. Some look for support and camaraderie in order to continue on their journey while others are discouraged and disappointed and want a way out.

One common factor amongst the seasoned Nurses focuses on their ability to adapt in order to brave the hardships of nursing. Some become, to varying degrees, calloused and expend their energies only on endeavors which are more assuredly to have beneficial results. Some are labelled COBs: Crusty Old Bats on the outside with gooey centers; coming across as mean, but good at heart.

Another common trait expressed is a type of personality change. Some have said they started out as naive nurses with Messiah Complexes, for they were young and strong and were going to save the world. Often times, these naive Nurses became pessimistic realists and found ways to deal with stress through changing their approach and personality.

Due to dealing with difficulties, these Nurses experienced illuminating revelations and changed the way in which they viewed themselves, others, and their environment.

Do you feel and believe that you have experienced a personality change since you were a new nurse?

I know that my personality changed from the time I began working as a new Nurse.

 

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1 hour ago, Hannahbanana said:

Same here. He was ripped when four yrs after we divorced that I married a wonderful man (who was more successful in business than he was, largely because he wasn’t a narcissistic jerkwad) and have gone on to more than 3 decades of a very happy life. 
Karma intervened: #1 is now dxd c vascular dementia. If I were a better person, I wouldn’t be so tickled. #2 makes me the envy of all my friends. 
My turning point was when I learned never to fear to say the truth- that wasn’t a safe option c #1, but it’s the only way for #2 and me now.

Kudos for getting away! He probably cried like a baby when you remarried. My psycho told me we'd never be done and meant it. I told him we're already done and let me know how that works out for him.

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46 minutes ago, Davey Do said:

My turning point was when I learned a concept inspired by something Richard Bach wrote:

I can remember the cover of the book "with seagulls soaring"

Specializes in Psych (25 years), Medical (15 years).
1 hour ago, londonflo said:

I can remember the cover of the book "with seagulls soaring"

You may be thinking of another book by Richard Bach, londonflo: Jonathan Livingstone Seagull.

The quote, however, came from Illusions.

 

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1 hour ago, NurseBlaq said:

 My psycho told me we'd never be done and meant it. I told him we're already done and let me know how that works out for him.

Like the main character in another classic book!

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I've found that because I have been in most situations, I am no longer anxious as the first few times, which means that I am far more objective and therefore effective than I was before. Also, gaining the insight from going into new situations and coming through unscathed using all my previous experiences, means that I haven't encountered a new situation in years, that I haven't been able to find a resolution to. 

This applies to situations, people and experiences. It even translates into life outside of nursing and is equally effective. 

So I think you are right Davey, perception, personality can change mostly through experience, but I still haven't got an off button when it comes to bullying of any kind. I always see red and charge right in, unless it's a bully being bullied, in which case, I love to join in! It applies to inconsiderate and selfish people as well. I am a bit of a masochist like that. 

On 6/6/2021 at 11:25 AM, JBMmom said:

Since my working years have spanned two very different careers I would say that my personality is as it is today more because of life and experience in general than anything from nursing specifically. (Aside from the fact that my family members would now need to practically amputate limb in order to get a band-aid or much concern from me.) I think life has brought challenges, successes and disappointments in so many areas I've learned to let a lot more things go. Not that I've mastered it, and the state of my unit at work has still caused me to go on some recent rants, but I find that I can better find the line between what I need to get worked up about and what I don't. I've never been a very emotional person outwardly, I have only a few friends with whom I share a real connection, and I think that maybe this past year with COVID has highlighted for me that I could benefit from being a little less closed off, so I'm working on it.  

I could have written that word for word about MYSELF, except I am very closed off except to my immediate family. I absolutely love being myself despite that everyone thinks that I am a social butterfly. The moment I have enough money, is when I relocate to the wilds of Scotland or Provence! By myself! 

Literally dying to be alone with great, speedy internet and a few more libraries to join and my books! So many places still left to see, ALONE! 

On 6/6/2021 at 3:13 PM, Kitiger said:

That one is easy. I was 13 when I clearly realized for the first time that there was a difference between naturally fitting in with the culture at church and making choices based on what Jesus Christ requires of me. 

And you haven't changed your perspective since 13? 

I find that interesting because a church culture is quite different from what the real world throws at you unless you only interact with your church community? 

Colossians 3:12-14 Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.

Noble sentiments except it conflicts with the eye for an eye quote? 

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On 6/5/2021 at 5:03 PM, Davey Do said:

consciousness

 

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7 hours ago, Curious1997 said:

And you haven't changed your perspective since 13? 

I find that interesting because a church culture is quite different from what the real world throws at you unless you only interact with your church community? 

Colossians 3:12-14 Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.

Noble sentiments except it conflicts with the eye for an eye quote? 

There is no conflict here.

Matthew 5: 38-42  (Jesus speaking)

“You have heard that it was said, ‘An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth.’ But I say to you, do not resist an evil person; but whoever slaps you on your right cheek, turn the other to him also. If anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt, let him have your coat also. Whoever forces you to go one mile, go with him two. Give to him who asks of you, and do not turn away from him who wants to borrow from you."

 

And, no, I haven't changed my perspective.

I John 2: 15-17 (John speaking)

"Do not love the world nor the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh and the lust of the eyes and the boastful pride of life, is not from the Father, but is from the world. The world is passing away, and also its lusts; but the one who does the will of God lives forever."

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10 minutes ago, Kitiger said:

There is no conflict here.

Matthew 5: 38-42  (Jesus speaking)

“You have heard that it was said, ‘An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth.’ But I say to you, do not resist an evil person; but whoever slaps you on your right cheek, turn the other to him also. If anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt, let him have your coat also. Whoever forces you to go one mile, go with him two. Give to him who asks of you, and do not turn away from him who wants to borrow from you."

 

And, no, I haven't changed my perspective.

I John 2: 15-17 (John speaking)

"Do not love the world nor the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh and the lust of the eyes and the boastful pride of life, is not from the Father, but is from the world. The world is passing away, and also its lusts; but the one who does the will of God lives forever."

Well, have you heard about the grass being greener on the other side of the wall? 

Very much like the heaven promised? 

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47 minutes ago, Curious1997 said:

Well, have you heard about the grass being greener on the other side of the wall? 

Very much like the heaven promised? 

Huh?

 

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5 hours ago, Kitiger said:

Matthew 5: 38-42  (Jesus speaking)

“You have heard that it was said, ‘An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth.’ But I say to you, do not resist an evil person; but whoever slaps you on your right cheek, turn the other to him also. If anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt, let him have your coat also. Whoever forces you to go one mile, go with him two. Give to him who asks of you, and do not turn away from him who wants to borrow from you."

Thanks for sharing that Gospel passage, Kitiger.

One School of Thought on the Old & New Testaments is that, respectively, one refers to the Laws of Karma while the other refers to the Laws of Grace. This particular passage is used as an example of that concept.

That same School of Thought believes Jesus taught us the Laws of Grace in order to heighten our consciousness. If we follow His teachings, we heighten our consciousness to the point that we may once again be able to reunite with the Universal Soul, God.

All accoutrements aside, Jesus' teachings have good life rules to follow and goals that we can set for ourselves.

I am attracted to, and quote, several great minds, but Jesus is my Main Man.

 

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